To dislike weekends

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Awful to say spending time with your whole family is stressful and not enjoyable at all but it is the truth!

Maybe you’re doing it wrong?!

Probably yeah.

Your doing it wrong.

Good morning, ex-husband 😂

I get antsy on a weekend if I hadn’t got some fresh air. What worked for me, at a time of life when they were all being super annoying (50% of that was me and perimenopause) was to get up early and go for a walk so I felt I had done something for me that day. Other times I’d get out for a coffee, alone or with a friend. I’d even volunteer to shop on my own.

what was annoying me was that it took forever for anyone to decide what to do and we wouldn’t leave the house till after lunch. So I took control of that for me.

work out what’s annoying you most.

We’re literally out in the fresh air now. I’ve just got two crying, tantrumming children and I’ve had enough of the sight of them and it isn’t even ten o clock yet. I wish I was dead sometimes.

It depends on your situation difficult kids, moody dh, loneliness are all vaild reasons to not enjoy the weekend. I have chronic pain and struggle to enjoy weekends as it’s harder on me than during the week when kids are at school.

is there anything you can change?

Not really. I feel like the kids are quite nice one to one so I guess we could divide and conquer, have one each. Seems a bit of a shame in a way.

How old are they?

(Nearly) five, and two.

This is my OH all over, first comes coffee, then some yoghurt, then some fruit, then some bio gut yoghurts (or whatever they are), then a soup, then some sort of other cooked thing. Thats breakfast. We cant do anything until 'breakfast'

Breakfast lasts for hours

We have such a limited time at weekends to get things done in the house and so much time is wasted. Otherwise he feels 'rushed'.

No don’t be so hard on yourself - families whose children do sport or other hobbies do this and they don’t worry that it’s “divide and conquer”. Try it a few times, maybe one child will wonder what they missed out on with the other parent and sibling 😂 Take heart - I once fell asleep Saturday lunchtime, properly head fell in bowl of soup, I was that tired. It often felt like a whole weekend by then!

It’s just completely horrible. The kids are awful when DH is around. I can’t work out why. Then because they are awful we end up sniping at one another out of sheer frustration.

Is the wish you were dead comment dark humour or do you actually feel that bad?

If you really mean that then you need professional help seriously.

I hear you. I get so overstimulated at the weekends with all the sibling fighting, and it always seems like everyone is talking all at once.

If divide and conquer works for you, do it and don’t feel guilty. We often do, for our sanity. Ditto, screen time when needed.

Is he fun with them and give them his time and energy or does he ignore them or shout at them?

Also is your dh taking them at some point in the week/weekend to give you a break?

Oh, and some ear plugs or headphones. Seriously, it’s a game changer.

So I can’t hear anyone talking to me? Not sure that’s great for kids development to be honest.

Oh in that case yanbu, toddlers are like satan. Could your husband take them out for a few hours & give you a break?

I prefer Mon-Fri too!

You can get special ear plugs where you can still hear people talking but blocks out the high pitched noises etc. Let me find a link…

I am not wanting ear plug recommendations. Thanks though.

Are they usually like this do they not get on at all. Do they play together indoors. Do they play independently. To get some down time could you have a movie afternoon and watch a film together would that work. Could you put some party dance music on and let them have a dance around. Do they not like painting, play dough things to keep them occupied for a while so you can have break