AIBU to think very very few people get pregnant at 50?

[iamamickey]

So I’m 50. Married to an older man and we have sex probably 2-3 times a month. It’s ok we are happy with that.

I had my implant removed and am waiting on a coil being fitted. But I’m hearing awful stories about it.

Surely it’s not that easy to fall pregnant at my age with a husband 10 yrs my senior?

I think you have to bear in mind that along with other celebrities who give birth in their fifties it is a given that the conceptions and pregnancies are not medically unassisted, if they exist at all and surrogacy isn’t the truth.

An accidental pregnancy over 50 is very likely to end in a miscarriage or other traumatic complications, why risk it.

I think your DH’s ‘doctor phobia’ is a cop out. Its his turn to take responsibility now as female contraception and live sperm could cause you problems you could do without for the next 5 to 10 years so I’d honestly tell him no vasectomy, no sex.

His response will tell you how important to him you are annd what kind of man he is, as if you don’t already know.

Extremely unlikely but not impossible so personally wouldn’t risk it. Tell your partner to get a vasectomy if he wants to continue having sex, you’ve already carried the physical burden of contraception.

Janet Jackson almost certainly used donor eggs. And most likely Victoria used a frozen embryo left from when she had her first child.

The subset of celebrities and women who have babies over fifty is likely to be nil.

Should have added the word, 'naturally'.

If you went to a consultant and said you were trying to conceive at aged 50, she would likely tell you it’s impossible because she would assume you were trying to have a baby. Getting pregnant and carrying a baby to term and giving birth at 50 is nigh-on impossible. But getting pregnant at 50 is certainly not impossible. I don’t know why you would even take the risk - miscarriage / termination is hardly pleasant.

I don’t like hormonal contraception and I can’t use it anymore as I’m a high risk for breast cancer and had been strongly adviced to stop using it, so I did.

But knowing that the risk of pregnancy is not impossible is more than enough for me to not choose taking all precautions possible, my husband chose to have a vasectomy and I chose not to have penetrative sex at all until he’d been been given the all clear as I knew I’d still be worried about it bursting or something going wrong.

This is precisely what my friend tells me that so many women can and do get pregnant 45-50 occasionally older but the vast majority terminate a lot due to chromosome issues identified at around 12 weeks and others as they just didn’t want to be pregnant and were shocked it actually happened. She gets annoyed at the media constantly putting out the ‘fertility drops at 35’ message as women hear this and believe it and end up in awful situations having to terminate

In your situation I would ask about the diaphragm. It's none hormonal and while it might be slightly less effective than other methods, at your age it's likely to be good enough.

Ignore all those going on about vasectomy. If he doesn't want one, he has bodily autonomy and tbh in his situation with the likelihood of conception being so low, I wouldn't do it, at 60 he might not heal as well as a younger man.

According to the NHS the likelihood is less than 1%. So it’s less likely than a younger woman taking the pill.