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Gun control in the US

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Fraudornot · 12/09/2025 21:21

With the assassination of Charlie Kirk looking like it’s been carried out by someone probably suffering from mental health issues with access to guns, why are Americans so unwilling to address gun control. I would love to hear from Americans to know why there is the reluctance.

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DdraigGoch · 14/09/2025 22:36

OonaStubbs · 14/09/2025 15:32

But how would the stricter controls even work? Would it just affect new guns or existing guns that people already own? How do you go about getting the guns away from people without shooting them?

Salami tactics, one slice at a time. Start by tightening regulation on sales of both arms and ammunition. Introduce legislation on safe storage (like California has) and rely on reactive enforcement (so dealing with negligent owners after an incident) rather than proactively sending the police from door-to-door which would provoke a reaction in the current climate.

PurpleAxe · 15/09/2025 03:05

DdraigGoch · 14/09/2025 15:20

It is for Americans to decide where that trade off sits.

@PurpleAxe except that's not how it's working in practice, is it? 58% of American adults favour stricter gun controls. So by your logic that is what would happen, if the people decide what happens in their country. In reality decisions are made according to the wishes of corporate lobbyists.

Right, so what are they going to do about it?

Up to them. What people say in a poll, and what they do/how they vote. Is an entirely different thing. Obviously.

Only, the Americans get to decide on guns in America. If enough of them want to do something about it. They will. Clearly, not enough, do want to.

The 58% obviously isn't enough, or they don't feel strongly enough to actually get things changed.

What are YOU suggesting? Real actual concrete action, now. Not wishy washy nonsense about how things should be.

StandFirm · 15/09/2025 04:15

cloudycheese · 12/09/2025 21:39

I’m a Brit but have lived in the US in the past. You can’t really begin to understand the issue unless you understand the dedication to the Constitution and the concept of rights.

To me, it seems like common sense to stop dangerous weapons falling into potentially dangerous hands but to some in the US, gun restrictions represent the government impinging on your rights. Hard to explain but I don’t think we can ever understand and we shouldn’t try. It’s a uniquely American issue and is one for Americans to settle for themselves.

I agree with what you said about the devotion to the Constitution but I think there is something else at play now. MAGAs seem to have a very selective devotion to the Constitution and more and more amendments get trampled on without a whimper...

knitnerd90 · 15/09/2025 05:05

I'd also like to point out that various states and cities tried passing gun control laws and the Supreme Court declared them unconstitutional. It's not so simple as passing a law, and amending the constitution is fiendishly difficult. You need the legislatures of 3/4 of the states to ratify it.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 15/09/2025 09:34

Fraudornot · 12/09/2025 21:21

With the assassination of Charlie Kirk looking like it’s been carried out by someone probably suffering from mental health issues with access to guns, why are Americans so unwilling to address gun control. I would love to hear from Americans to know why there is the reluctance.

“Probably suffering from mental health issues.”

That’s a strange assumption. The shot was clean, deliberate, and professional. Doesn’t really scream “mental illness.”

What I don’t get is why this guy was given so much airtime in the first place. In his own words: It’s worth it to have a cost of, unfortunately, some gun deaths every single year so that we can have the Second Amendment.”

Well, Charlie Kirk got exactly what Charlie Kirk defended. Careful what you wish for.

Here’s a man who made millions rationalising school shootings as an acceptable tradeoff for “gun liberty.” Now he’s dead—shot at a university—while on the very same day, children were being shot at a school in Colorado. And we’re supposed to shed a tear?

Someone once said, “The First Amendment is first for a reason. The Second Amendment is just in case the first one doesn’t work.” Looks like he found out what that really means.

JHound · 15/09/2025 11:40

WalkDontWalk · 14/09/2025 17:49

Anyone who thinks that killing someone is the solution to disagreement is, by definition, mentally ill.

That’s not how it works.

WalkDontWalk · 15/09/2025 12:12

JHound · 15/09/2025 11:40

That’s not how it works.

I think it is.

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:15

WalkDontWalk · 15/09/2025 12:12

I think it is.

It’s definitely not. As most murderers would be deemed criminally insane. And yet that is not the case.

WalkDontWalk · 15/09/2025 12:26

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:15

It’s definitely not. As most murderers would be deemed criminally insane. And yet that is not the case.

I know. Not insane, perhaps. But it’s my contention that if you think killing someone will solve your problem, you’re mentally unwell.

Britinme · 15/09/2025 14:10

I don’t think this assassin thought of Kirk as a problem to be solved, more as an enemy to be got rid of.

YourBlueShark · 15/09/2025 15:03

ColinVsCuthbert · 12/09/2025 23:47

American here (grew up in the UK), it blows my mind that people are so willing to accept something like this. The guns are the problem. It's beyond clear. Why they can't acknowledge this, I'll never know. Looking to the gun amnesties in Australia in the 90s and the impacts, there is a way out. At the very least automatic and semi automatic weapons should only be for military. It is sickening and saddening what is happening today. The republicans will twist this crisis into a "sick individual/mentally unwell discussion" while completely ignoring the root problem. I mean trump almost got his head taken off by a shooter. When does this end?! People rely on the constitution, which was designed to be re-written every 20 or so years, and view it as some holy document that is unmodifiable. It is just truly so sad that people can't get out of their own ways to create a safer society.

Also an American, have lived in the US for my entire life. I completely agree with you. I think a huge part of it is that the NRA donates to, and therefore controls, a lot of US politicians, who then propagate the need to support 2A to their constituents. A lot of fear mongering mixed in there, as well.

YourBlueShark · 15/09/2025 15:22

sashh · 13/09/2025 07:23

The thing is that it is so ingrained. There are guns manufactured for children. You wouldn't let a 7 year old drive a car but you can give them a gun as a birthday present.

And that's it. You don't need a gun safe, a licence of some type any training and any move to bring in any of that is resisted.

I can understand families shooting to feed them selves and to control vermin but I don't think anyone needs a machine gun for that.

American in the US and the gun culture is wild but I think what might get lost sometimes is that it is incredibly regionalized. Gun laws don't just vary by state, they vary by city. I grew up in Massachusetts, where cities and towns have some of the strictest gun laws in the country and not coincidentally, the amongst the lowest rates of gun violence in the US (Chicago often gets pointed out as a counter to strict gun laws preventing gun violence, but the Iron Pipeline is robust in the Midwest). Gun culture in the Northeast, where I live, is completely different than in other parts of the country and buying a gun for a child is viewed as an absolutely bonkers idea. There are other regions where this is totally normal; a family friend moved to West Virginia and told us that it was not unusual for kindergarteners (5 and 6 year olds) to get their first children's rifle. Our huge challenge is implementing federal gun laws and restrictions, and the results are continuously heartbreaking.

missmollygreen · 15/09/2025 15:28

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So every murderer has mental health problems?
What about every rapist? thief?

I think you are removing personal responsibility here.

JHound · 15/09/2025 15:29

Britinme · 15/09/2025 14:10

I don’t think this assassin thought of Kirk as a problem to be solved, more as an enemy to be got rid of.

Where has motive been ascertained?

Britinme · 15/09/2025 15:33

I’m going by the messages engraved on the shell casings, which had references to gamer culture.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 15/09/2025 17:02

WalkDontWalk · 15/09/2025 12:26

I know. Not insane, perhaps. But it’s my contention that if you think killing someone will solve your problem, you’re mentally unwell.

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Most wars begin with someone deciding that killing others will solve their problems. This has been the case for centuries, soldiers included. By your definition, “it’s my contention that if you think killing someone will solve your problem, you’re mentally unwell”, would that not mean many leaders and soldiers fall into this category?

PermanentTemporary · 15/09/2025 17:11

After Sandy Hook I no longer have any hope that this will change in the US. It has to be said that there are other countries with a high level of gun ownership (Canada, Switzerland) and nothing like the amount of death.

I do think that repealing the second amendment is the best route. But very unlikely. Slightly more hope that there might be ammunition controls.

Even those who are pro-gun control will always say ‘nobody wants to take all your guns away’.

OonaStubbs · 15/09/2025 17:15

When my American relatives visited Britain they were scared by the lack of guns here. They have a very different culture over there.

WalkDontWalk · 15/09/2025 17:21

LoveLifeBeHappy · 15/09/2025 17:02

Most wars begin with someone deciding that killing others will solve their problems. This has been the case for centuries, soldiers included. By your definition, “it’s my contention that if you think killing someone will solve your problem, you’re mentally unwell”, would that not mean many leaders and soldiers fall into this category?

I think that war is a kind of collective madness, yes. Sometimes we justify it after the event.

We do it at an individual level too. When we acquit an abused wife who killed her husband, we say that the balance of her mind was understandably disturbed.

Verv · 15/09/2025 17:22

I just dont know how gun control in the US would be implemented, so it seems like a moot point to me.
The only people who would hand them in would be the responsible owners.
The "bad guys" wouldnt.

America has hundreds of millions of guns. I feel like a rowback is impossible.

randomnamegenerated · 15/09/2025 17:57

I'm American and I will say I honestly have no idea. Brainwashing by the NRA and the politicians funded by the NRA, I guess, although a majority of Americans do want what they call 'common sense' gun law reform, which will never go far enough, imo.

The way to put a stop to it - probably the only way - is to make it legal to sue the gun and ammunition manufacturers so they're liable for the death and destruction caused by their products. It worked with tobacco companies, it can work in this instance too.

randomnamegenerated · 15/09/2025 20:59

YourBlueShark · 15/09/2025 15:22

American in the US and the gun culture is wild but I think what might get lost sometimes is that it is incredibly regionalized. Gun laws don't just vary by state, they vary by city. I grew up in Massachusetts, where cities and towns have some of the strictest gun laws in the country and not coincidentally, the amongst the lowest rates of gun violence in the US (Chicago often gets pointed out as a counter to strict gun laws preventing gun violence, but the Iron Pipeline is robust in the Midwest). Gun culture in the Northeast, where I live, is completely different than in other parts of the country and buying a gun for a child is viewed as an absolutely bonkers idea. There are other regions where this is totally normal; a family friend moved to West Virginia and told us that it was not unusual for kindergarteners (5 and 6 year olds) to get their first children's rifle. Our huge challenge is implementing federal gun laws and restrictions, and the results are continuously heartbreaking.

Yes, I'm from the northeast as well and people here in the UK are always shocked (and I think slightly disbelieving) when I tell them that I didn't grow up around guns, or even, for the most part, people who had guns.

Britinme · 16/09/2025 03:00

i live in Maine and I never see guns except on the police, and I hardly ever see a policeman.

knitnerd90 · 16/09/2025 07:13

It is absolutely fascinating when you look at state by state maps. New England has almost European rates of crime and gun violence. You will absolutely find gun owners but they are much more likely to be rural hunter types in Maine and Vermont. The Mid-Atlantic has higher crime but is also more densely populated with bigger cities. I lived in Pennsylvania for a few years and that has more of a gun culture, especially rurally, but that’s relative: plenty of people don’t.

the South is by far the highest crime region.

StandFirm · 16/09/2025 07:24

YourBlueShark · 15/09/2025 15:03

Also an American, have lived in the US for my entire life. I completely agree with you. I think a huge part of it is that the NRA donates to, and therefore controls, a lot of US politicians, who then propagate the need to support 2A to their constituents. A lot of fear mongering mixed in there, as well.

Reagan has a lot to answer for in that respect. We are reaping what he sowed in the 80s. He danced with the devil, leaning on the Christian ultra right and the NRA...

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