My father is quite elderly and health has been failing for a few years now. Fair enough, I’m pragmatic about death and I know that it will inevitably happen and I’ve accepted that.
Last week he was admitted to hospital and it wasn’t looking good, and Dh and I spoke about it at the time. However (thankfully), it transpired that it was an easily treated medical issue and my father is now at home recovering.
Dh came in this evening and started, out of the blue and in an extremely blasé tone, telling me that he had been asking at work today about what would happen with his critical workload if my father passed away and he had to take emergency leave. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know it’s something he had to ask, but AIBU to think that it’s hugely tactful and inappropriate for him to bring it up with me out of the blue like that, with no context, in such a blasé way?
For context, he’s normally a decent and sensitive person but has form for occasionally misreading a room. Also, he does tend toward pessimism and has form for writing people off as dead in a weird hushed, rushed way (not sure if I’m describing that accurately, think hushed conversations on the phone with his mum using overly morose and dramatic language like ‘it’s not looking good’ etc).
I’m very pragmatic about death and not prone to being emotional, but this has really annoyed me. However, I’m also on my period so not sure if I’m just being overly moody.