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To really dislike neighbour & not want to help her?

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cauliflowerf · 12/09/2025 18:50

Since my next door neighbour moved in a year ago her and her kids have been nothing but a nuisance.

Firstly they would trespass onto my driveway, standing all over my plants, I had no privacy at all and had to spend money on big trellis planters to keep her kids off my driveway.

She has several cats that poo in my garden.
I have owned cats in the past and cat proofed my garden so my neighbours were not inconvenienced.

I have had to spend more money on fencing panels to block up the hedgehog holes, spikes things etc just to keep her cats away now.
Handyman is coming on Monday to sort it out as I have toddlers and OH is working away.

I am really annoyed that all I seem to do is spend money to keep her kids and pets of my property.

She often will ask if I can take her parcels in, I just refuse and don’t open the door.

She gets her gardener to come every 2 weeks and has to leave the back door open, she would usually give me a key to the back gate to give to him but I have now told her I am busy.

AIBU to feel so annoyed with her and not wanting to help her?

Neigbbour is well aware of the issues as I have previously mentioned them to her.

OP posts:
Francestein · 13/09/2025 00:15

Btw I am sure you can get a spinny one if you don’t want something quite so ballistic.

Okiedokie123 · 13/09/2025 00:24

I’m one for a dedicated poop shovel. And a water pistol.not to be fired at the cats but nearby….. it works wonders.
To the “nothing can be done” crowd. Yes of course there is a solution. Keep your cat indoors or restricted to your garden, problem solved.

Friendlygingercat · 13/09/2025 00:27

I would put a high fence in between mine and my neighbours house so the children cant wander in. As to her gardner thats her problem.I have a high fence with a lockable gate surrounding my drive. It only gets opened when Im expecting someone. This week I had a delivery on monday and havnt answered my door since. I dont take in parcels or hold keys. People need to handle their own mail and visitors.

Francestein · 14/09/2025 00:17

If you use the water pistol, put some kind of cat-safe fragrance in it too. They hate to smell “other”….

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