new neighbour speaking to me like I am an idiot

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So I'm going to try to assume she does this with everyone but it's fucking annoying. She is only 10 yrs younger than me, both active parents, both lived in various places.

For whatever reason she is talking to me like I'm some forgetful old dear.

So far I just carry on, in the knowledge that at some point the penny is going to drop for her and she'll realize I'm not an idiot.

Should I carry on like this, or openly say something like "I notice you speak to me as if I'm an old dear, are you able to stop this, or do you do it to everyone?

Not everyone gets on in life obviously you clash with her try to stay invisible and keep away from each other if you bump into her say oh sorry I am extremely busy can not talk

Still like the odd all night parties and I'm older than you.
Still into heavy metal, house /garage and never giving up grunge for anyone😄

Well that's an absolutely astonishing feat of extrapolation.

How long has this been going on, OP? If it's a short term thing it might just sort itself out. If it's a long term one, might just be best to keep interactions short; no point in bad feeling.

I know a primary school teacher that does with with every adult she meets. She speaks to us in that time like we are silly little children.

What has she actually said to you?

Definitely need examples! And it would be entertaining, too 😀

I do sympathise. I’m 70+ and, just for context, still doing some private tutoring in English Lit and Latin.
Recently, we stayed at a Premier Inn. I needed to ask the receptionist something and she asked me our room number. In the split second it took me to remember and just before I sad “Room 302” she smiled inanely and said “Aaaaw! Bless!”
if I’d had an axe I would have buried it in her head 😡 😡 😡

Just bloody well give examples

What a waste of everyone’s time

Yes

But what is she actually saying to you?

I offer help to my neighbours of all ages, immediate next door have tiny kids so we always get their bins in, I say if they need any help with anything please let us know. We're possibly 15 years older than them at least.

Are you a bit sensitive about aging a perhaps projecting a bit?

I am 67 and I live in Sheltered Accommodation. Where I am now the Housing Officer is very nice but a bit gullible. A couple of years ago I lived somewhere else and had an incident where two Housing Officers came in to my flat because they thought it was empty then lied to me about it.

Sheltered Accommodation isn't like a care home. It's not that different from an ordinary block of flats. They're not allowed to unlock your door and come into your flat. Then to lie about it and pretend they were doing it because they were worried about you is unforgiveable. They hadn't knocked on my door or made a phone call or left a text message.

Because I was getting an extractor fan replaced in my kitchen I had moved everything off my surfaces into the main room. Someone had been looking through my windows and decided that the flat was empty. It was either of these HOs or a troublemaker who had been looking through my windows before (he reported me for having a camping gas hob in my kitchen: he'd mistaken a single-ring electric hob for a camping gas hob).

I could have got them both sacked for doing that. I wish I had now. It's not the only lie I have been told by HOs. I wish I'd said "We might be old but we're not stupid" and "It's not me who's stupid, it's you".

I was I interested in this thread and I find some of the posts amusing but I find the OP’s failure to give examples really bloody irritating.
So many posters have given their own examples so why can’t the OP?
Don’t start a thread unless you can commit to answering a few questions.

I agree. People who are older do not suddenly become incapable just because they are older! They have just lived longer but are still and capable as they were when they were 30!