New relationship and ‘bodily functions’

[Willowsmuum]

I’m in my first ‘new’ relationship after being in a 16 year marriage. Given the long duration of that, we were very open in terms of bodily functions etc!

I’ve been with my new boyfriend for 4 months and he’s yet to break wind in front of me. I really want him to so I can do so too and not be in pain from holding it in 😂

Is there an ‘acceptable’ time to wait for this? It’s all new to me!

I would be disgusted if my boyfriend farted in front of me

I'm not in a relationship now but I've never farted in front of a partner. The best relationships were with guys who didn't like to in front of me either. The ones who did turned me off very quickly. One in particular suffered from severe flatulence due to his sleep apnea machine and while he couldn't help it I lost my attraction within months. I don't think it's polite to deliberately fart in front of anyone including a romantic partner. Sometimes it can't be helped and that's understandable, but otherwise no thanks.

I’m not at all prudish but being honest it’s a turn off 🤮 … Imo it’s just not something you do …

I've never farted in front of my husband I'd be mortified 😂🙈

I will not love someone more because they fart or burp at me. I may well love them less if they do this continuously.

6 months. To the day 😂

Wow I love these threads when I learn how far off the average I am 😆. I knew there would be some but I had no idea so many would view farting as rude. Obviously I wouldn’t at work or something! But with close people, of course. There was a period where DH had some gut issue and his farts smelled awful; I eventually was asking him to go to the loo to do it, but diet change and he’s grand now. Mostly both our farts smell of very little so it’s just a noise, what’s the big deal.

So many fart avoiders on here! Life’s too short for leaping up to go to another room instead of letting one rip. If you can’t do that and laugh about it with your significant other then who can you do it with? Your other half will see you in all sorts of undignified, messy, emotional situations over the years, and if they’re a good one they’ll never make you feel any less than loved and appreciated.

I’m not saying go out of your way to be disgusting, but you want someone who’ll hold your hair back when you’re vomiting, not shame you for it. If they can’t find a bit of humour and lightheartedness when you fart, how will you ever feel comfortable asking for support with the serious stuff?

My partner farts whenever the mood takes him, often loudly. Thankfully they don’t smell.
We’ve got five children and I’ve never been able to bring myself to just fart at will. I’ll do it if I absolutely have to, but nope. It’s usually in private or when he’s fast asleep.

This is mumsnet where it’s only acceptable to fart in the bathroom.
we’d never see each other if we did that!

For a fart apologist you make a very eloquent case.

I agree with every word.

If you can’t fart in front of your dh / partner then they’re most definitely not with your soulmate. Rather it sounds like you’ve got some kind of cold, stepford wife type setup!

I met my partner 1.5yrs ago. He would occasionally fart in front of me and he would get so embarrassed. I kept mine in, and I have IBS and going away together would be agony.

Until about 8 months into the relationship. We got to the hotel, I went for a wee and he did something (i can't remember what) that had me laughing uncontrollably. Yep, sitting on the loo and I farted. It wasn't a ladylike little poof ...... i literally did the loudest echoy longest fart.

He almost collapsed in laughter and since then, I will do it occasionally, but I try and wait until he is out of the room.

I find it a turn off🙈 accidents happen but all the time, especially if it stinks - no thanks.

I was friends with my BF for a long time before we got together. Farting in front of each other has never been an issue. I've only apologized after farting on his leg while sitting on it - he just laughed!

My dp started in front of me after a couple of weeks. I try not to but have the occasional parp unexpectedly. He knows I find it embarrassing so he says 'Ooops sorry about that - it was unexpected'. We obviously know it's me, but it breaks my embarrassment.

Also, if I do a couple he says 'What happens in the fart palace, stays in the fart palace' and is never bought up again 😂

Yes but most people aren’t sharting unless they’re ill? You made an odd comment about people who fart openly, risking shitting themselves which is absolutely insane - you must now accept the many people who are calling you out on such stupidity.

Totally agree with this. ^ Bizarre posts from @EmeraldShamrock000 😬

Spot on.

I was with someone who would look me in the eye and fart long and loud often when I was trying to discuss something serious with him. Both the foulness of it and the disrespect totally put me off sex with him.

Bit obsessed with this aren't you @EmeraldShamrock000 ? For someone who never farts in front of anyone..... (Allegedly!)

AND. You seem to know a lot about 'sharting.'

In 50-odd years, of life I have never done this. (Well I may have done as a baby, but I don't remember EVER shitting myself whilst farting.) Clearly you have some experience of it though. 👀

Oh FGS...🙄 No normal person does that. He was clearly bonkers/trying to get a rise out of you. Probably trying to get you to end it, so he didn't have to!

20 yrs martied he has never farted in front of me ( maybe once or twice but very coy)
If I occasionally do, he makes a funny remark.about the floor boards creeking

Jeez who are all these uptight Victorians who think farting is some kind of morality crime? I just couldn’t live a married life being that buttoned up. It’s a normal bodily function like crying when you peel onions, or burping after something gassy. Yes it shouldn’t be crudely performative, but then nothing should. Just let it go op and be relaxed. Better to be comfortable than holding in wind and pretending you’re some prim vicar’s wife in an Ealing comedy.

Dh and I don’t go out of our way to fart in front of each other and make a habit of not farting in the car - that’s disgusting. But the occasional fart when the need arises? Absolutely fine. We’ve been intimately close to each other and have seen and know things about each other that nobody else does. I don’t want to be exposed to his bodily functions for the sake of it but hearing him fart in the kitchen while I’m in the living room- who cares?

Edited to add - we first farted in front of each other when we went away for the weekend together after a couple of months of seeing each other. I was already pregnant at that point so I’m not sure if we’d perhaps already crossed a boundary so farting was the least of our concerns!

Never have except I’m guessing when I’m asleep
never in front of my parents either, just can’t do it