New relationship and ‘bodily functions’

[Willowsmuum]

I’m in my first ‘new’ relationship after being in a 16 year marriage. Given the long duration of that, we were very open in terms of bodily functions etc!

I’ve been with my new boyfriend for 4 months and he’s yet to break wind in front of me. I really want him to so I can do so too and not be in pain from holding it in 😂

Is there an ‘acceptable’ time to wait for this? It’s all new to me!

Are the pp's who openly fart, the same people, who'll leave the bathroom door open in relationships, while they take a 💩.

A lot of people don’t ever get to the point of freely farting infront of each other.
Neither my partner or I do. With the exception of when I was very heavily pregnant and it was almost uncontrollable.

I must be weird because i fart in front of everybody im familiar with.

I never used to fart till I had kids. I dislike the sound so I tell DH off if he does it!! I find the idea and the sound pretty gross although if one pops out when you're laughing it's quite funny.

Reading this post I conclude their must be a lot of people who must bust a gut trying not to fart in front their partner, even after years together 😳
I also dispute the people who claim they dont fart. Yes you do!! Just be honest 🤣🤣

Think there may a gender divide on this one. My ex did it openly but was quite disgusted when I, a woman did it.

New relationship and we’re both high on decorum. Been over a year so far… I’d be very shocked if he did. However I know I have in bed while half asleep at times and felt mortified (he was or pretended to be asleep 😆). Meanwhile our small children are doing it at will and loving it

OP just bloody fart if you need to! If he finds it offensive then he’s a plank!

completely normal to fart! But this is MN where no one ever farts and if they do it’s only tiny lady pumps that smell like sunshine and done in another room.

You need to fart in front of him and gauge his reaction. If he finds it hilarious, you're good to go. If he's utterly disgusted and thinks women don't do that kind of thing, rehome him.

My DP and I do occasionally fart in front of each other, although not in a deliberately grim way. Occasionally one will be unavoidable. The usual response is for the farter to look comically ashamed and apologise profusely while laughing, and the other person to say something like 'More tea, vicar?' or 'Is someone practising the trumpet in here?'

In an ideal world nobody would ever break wind, but in reality we all do and I find an apologetically humorous approach to the occasional accidental fart is a lot better than the joyless horror/fury/disgust apparently de rigueur for the average Mumsnetter who can't talk about farting without saying things like 'We all walk to the end of the garden to break wind in our house, then pray to the Lord for forgiveness for sullying the air with toxic gases from our anuses'.

Why would I lie? I enjoy belching after eating, wind just doesn't come out of my bottom, not everyone is the same.
The only time, I occasionally fart is when I'm about to wee.

Whaaatt??? You shit when you fart? I’m assuming you do or you obviously wouldn’t have a fear of it happening in your pants. Does this mean everytime you need to fart you go to the loo and sit down pants off?

Why not go all out and pick your nose in front of him?

If you’re shitting yourself when you fart, a trip to the Dr is needed.

Everyone loves a good rummage in their nose, they’re all just too uptight round here to admit to it.

Or the type who happily brush their teeth while their OH is taking a dump beside them. Or though maybe not on MN, where anybody who doesn't have at least four toilets or bathrooms in their home is living in abject poverty. (Ftr we have one. And no, we don't brush our teeth while the other is using the loo.)

I have had IBS/bowel issues for years. If I went to the toilet every time I farted I would never leave so yeah I fart in front of my husband 🤣

No, I don't shit when I fart.
When I hear someone pass a dirty fart, the stinking type, I always think, sort out your diet, those poo micro particles are flying out their bum hole.
Disclaimer. I'm sorry for those with IBS and other conditions that cause this.
I'm referring to people who gleefully let it rip. Stinking the room, it's rude.

I'm glad I'm not familiar with you, then.

We're a farty household and don't hold it in at home, the poor cat gets blamed every time 😄
My dh let one out the first time he met my mum, I knew then that we were a great match (and she just laughed it off)

Hahaha! This made me chuckle. I think you might find that Mother Nature has other plans for you, a bit further along the road of life! 😂

I can attest to the fact that, as one ages, not only does more gas seem to be produced but also the ability of the person to control their sphincter diminishes! It's a bit of a double whammy, I'm afraid. 😂😂

Maybe he has better manners than you 🤔

Ah here come the "it's dreadfully uncouth to pass wind" brigade.

I have IBS. I would be in agony if I didn't let it out from time to time and I don't always have control or an option....

No, I don't deliberately do it in front of people and will try to take myself away at work etc but I'll bloody well do what I need to do in my own home.

OP, - just get it over with

I say to hold them in until he stops xx

I was brought up in a no-holds-barred household when it came to farting. My mum, a woman of otherwise exemplary manners, even had a little rhyme she liked to repeat after she had 'broken wind':

Wherever you be
Let your wind go free.
In church or chapel
Let it rattle.

We didn't 'let it rattle' in church because we knew that would be wrong 😃

What’s wrong with going to the bathroom to let it out..? You certainly don’t have to hold it in until it’s painful or let it out in the same room as him. There are middle grounds.

My partner and I aren’t shy about bodily functions. However, this doesn’t make them pleasant. We can laugh about our farts and sometimes they do just happen but out of consideration and love we try to do them in a different room from where we’re trying to relax together.

We didn't 'let it rattle' in church because we knew that would be wrong

I went to a boarding school with wooden pews in its chapel that reverberated and magnified even the most innocuous little fart into something akin to a sonic boom. Farting in chapel was basically competitive. It's almost like it was designed with the ribald amusement of English Public schoolboys in mind.