Page 3 | To think this Facebook request leaves alot to be desired?

AngelinaFibres · 09/09/2025 12:00

In the late 70s ( no Facebook obviously) my mother went to do the food shop in our local supermarket and realised that the usual Saturday boy ( in my brother's class) wasn't working there. A brief chat confirmed that he wasn't doing the job anymore. By the end of the chat my mother had got my younger brother an interview on the Monday after school. He went in and got the job. He worked there until he left for university. Mums have always kept their ear to the ground. I got a weekend/ holiday job in a hotel because my friend and I went and asked after her mum said she'd heard they were looking for staff. Facebook is just the modern version.

TwistedWonder · 09/09/2025 12:01

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 09/09/2025 09:31

Are they not just asking if anyone knows of any openings? Not sure I can see anything wrong with that.

I no agree - parents wanting a bit of support from their contacts to help their child. Whatever next?

Shinysunday · 09/09/2025 12:03

I would say Please and also Thanks because I was brought up to, but lots is people wouldn’t and I’m inclined to think I overdo the gratitude.

NoSuchThingAsAFreeHoliday · 09/09/2025 12:10

I get where you’re coming from but o wouldn’t give it headspace. If people don’t like it then they won’t reply so the issue fixes itself.

ChocoChocoLatte · 09/09/2025 12:12

I used to run my own business, now sold, and we had parents ask us constantly if wee Jamie or Susan could have a job……

but they can only work one wkend a month and need at least 62 holidays a year as they can’t miss out .

Aye, good one. Ask wee Jamie or Susan to pop in with a CV or letter of introduction themselves please……

user2848502016 · 09/09/2025 12:27

16 year olds don’t tend to be on Facebook these days, sounds like a parent just doing a favour for their child.
Don’t think they’re actually expecting job offers just “saw an ad in x cafe window” type thing

ohtowinthelottery · 09/09/2025 12:56

The ones that annoy me more are the posts from fully grown adults asking if there's any jobs going and stating that they have experience in care work.
Just about every care home and agency in the area is constantly recruiting staff. If you haven't got the intelligence to drop into their offices with a CV then I doubt I'd want to employ you. (And we live in a very walkable town so having no car isn't an excuse).

TyroleanKnockabout · 09/09/2025 13:02

AngelinaFibres · 09/09/2025 12:00

In the late 70s ( no Facebook obviously) my mother went to do the food shop in our local supermarket and realised that the usual Saturday boy ( in my brother's class) wasn't working there. A brief chat confirmed that he wasn't doing the job anymore. By the end of the chat my mother had got my younger brother an interview on the Monday after school. He went in and got the job. He worked there until he left for university. Mums have always kept their ear to the ground. I got a weekend/ holiday job in a hotel because my friend and I went and asked after her mum said she'd heard they were looking for staff. Facebook is just the modern version.

Yes, ‘twas ever thus.

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Netcurtainnelly · 09/09/2025 13:13

Jamesblonde2 · 09/09/2025 11:49

Yes the lack of manners would put me off. Not very polite, no please or thank yous.

I agree it looks better coming from the child but I wouldn't be put off by the parent asking, just as long as they asked properly.

This.

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BauhausOfEliott · 09/09/2025 13:24

When I worked in shops, bars etc when I was in my 20s, we’d often have parents coming in asking if we had any jobs available for their teenager. Our answer was always no. Not because we didn’t have vacancies - often we did. But we only wanted teenagers who came in, on their own, and asked us themselves.

SunnyD4ys · 09/09/2025 13:32

Onthebusses · 09/09/2025 11:36

Kid has no chance if the parent doesn't even realise they should be on a jobs website instead of facebook.

Not so for my children and part time jobs, no jobs site have ever been used. Adverts in shop windows and word of mouth only.

The world is not the same everywhere

Tontostitis · 09/09/2025 13:34

We run a small family building firm and the amount of time parents contact us asking for their teenagers to have a job is unbelievable. However are most successful employee started at 19 having spent a couple of years in his bedroom because his sister who worked at the kitchen company ask one of us if there was any chance we could give him a chance. 6 years later he still with us he's incredibly successful and are one of our best ever hires.

SunnyD4ys · 09/09/2025 13:35

ohtowinthelottery · 09/09/2025 12:56

The ones that annoy me more are the posts from fully grown adults asking if there's any jobs going and stating that they have experience in care work.
Just about every care home and agency in the area is constantly recruiting staff. If you haven't got the intelligence to drop into their offices with a CV then I doubt I'd want to employ you. (And we live in a very walkable town so having no car isn't an excuse).

I agree, and even more so the ones that say any part time work going

At least make the effort to be a bit more specific in what you're looking for. I also saw an advert that said applications had to be via a CV, one person even asked how to apply as they didn't have a CV. Maybe they always had their mum do their interviews 😁

DressOrSkirt · 09/09/2025 13:36

Netcurtainnelly · 09/09/2025 09:55

No please or thanks though on the post?

It's a Facebook post, not a formal application.

FoxRedPuppy · 09/09/2025 13:37

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 09/09/2025 09:31

Are they not just asking if anyone knows of any openings? Not sure I can see anything wrong with that.

Most teens aren’t on Facebook, but perhaps a lot of business owners and managers are? Doesn’t excuse the rudeness.

whitewineandsun · 09/09/2025 13:39

Agix · 09/09/2025 09:32

Parent is just helping a child out and looking for leads. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Seems completely normal to me.

marshmallowfinder · 09/09/2025 13:44

Yanbu at all OP.
But, yabvvvu to write 'alot'. No such word. It is 'a lot'.

pokewoman · 09/09/2025 14:03

I live in a tourist area and see lots of people do this in the summer months for their children. Plenty of comments underneath saying this arcade/chippy/caravan site/cafe/bar are looking for staff - the places love having the 16 year olds because it's seasonal

Dangermoos · 09/09/2025 14:26

So a 16 year old is looking for work and you have a problem with how they go about finding it. Good for them for getting off their backsides when so many don't. Good for the parents as well, for being proactive, on behalf of a kid, who probably hadn't got the confidence to ask themselves. What a spiteful thread.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 09/09/2025 14:30

There's a good chance that the child didn't even know about the request
Parents are often over keen to 'help'

SpryUmberZebra · 09/09/2025 15:32

Netcurtainnelly · 09/09/2025 09:30

Do you think teenagers should look for their own jobs, instead of the parents posting on Facebook?

Saw this by a parent. Does anyone know of any work going for a 16 year old?
No please or thanks. It was written by the parent.
Where's the basic manners? So lazy also.
I looked for my own work at 16. If I knew of any work going. I probably wouldn't answer this. I'd prefer someone who was looking themselves or someone that was more polite and possibly went into more detail.

You are being unfair, it’s well known that it’s a lot harder to get jobs now so I don’t see any problem with a parent asking if anyone knows of job openings.

The no please ok a bit rude but not the end of the world but you seem to be upset that the child should be looking for his or her job himself, how do you know the child hasn’t been searching? It’s not as easy to get jobs at the likes of McDonalds, Tesco's etc anymore so you’re being very unreasonable and ridiculous.

You had graduates unable to find jobs due tot the worsening job market and the rise of AI but according to you no parent should help their child because you didn’t get any help when you were 16z. That’s some serious crab mentality.

InMyShowgirlEra · 09/09/2025 15:50

I agree with you- it makes me think that the parent wants the teen to get a job and the teen doesn't care!

Loopylalalou · 09/09/2025 15:56

ohtowinthelottery · 09/09/2025 12:56

The ones that annoy me more are the posts from fully grown adults asking if there's any jobs going and stating that they have experience in care work.
Just about every care home and agency in the area is constantly recruiting staff. If you haven't got the intelligence to drop into their offices with a CV then I doubt I'd want to employ you. (And we live in a very walkable town so having no car isn't an excuse).

On our (largish) village page we get known-to-be grown adults asking whether they’re “any work going”, with no mention of skills, limitations, ability to travel. whatever. I cannot help but feel a flash of savagery ever time I read one.

ohtowinthelottery · 09/09/2025 16:14

@Loopylalalou I wonder if they do it just so they can tell their job coach at the job centre that they are looking for work.
A relative worked as a job coach in a DWP related job for a while. It's quite clear some people have no intention of ever getting a job, but they go through the motions for fear of getting their benefits cut.

MidLifeMayhem · 09/09/2025 16:23

I would think well done parent helping child find a job and being involved etc. It’s a facebook question. Not sure what the problem is at all.