To think this Facebook request leaves alot to be desired?

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Do you think teenagers should look for their own jobs, instead of the parents posting on Facebook?

Saw this by a parent. Does anyone know of any work going for a 16 year old?
No please or thanks. It was written by the parent.
Where's the basic manners? So lazy also.
I looked for my own work at 16. If I knew of any work going. I probably wouldn't answer this. I'd prefer someone who was looking themselves or someone that was more polite and possibly went into more detail.

Personally it irritates me when people put in lots of niceties for what is a pretty straightforward question. They’re asking for leads. If they get suggestions, they may well say thank you then. This isn’t a personal exchange between two people.

Teenagers these days seem to struggle with day to day life, never mind having to actually proactively apply for their own jobs😂 parents do way too much for older teens now, they've got really crap social skills and resilience because they just aren't given enough independence at all.

Maybe your group is different but in general Facebook groups, a parent asking about possible job vacancies doesn't imply that they will be filling in the application form or attending the interview for the child

I know you are talking about resilience etc etc, but if a 15/16 year old asked you personally how/where can I apply for a part time job you wouldn't help them ?

While you’re nitpicking, it’s “a lot” not “alot.” They are two separate words.

From what I’ve seen, there seem to be more responses to queries about part time jobs, when the applicant has made the post, as opposed to a parent making the request.

My eldest is in her 30s I supported her getting PT work it was only 4 hours but that job helped her gain the independence and tools to apply for a more secure retail pt job, which we also helped her with the form, you don't teach teenagers resilience and independence by expecting it just to happen as if by magic !

It's just a parent helping out a child. Nothing wrong with that at all.

I don’t see the problem, in fact I’ve done it myself on the local Gossip Girls page. I thanked people who responded. My 17 year old has been job hunting for 5 months applying online to jobs and dropping her CV off in person. She doesn’t have FB and she is autistic so what she has already done has pushed her out of her comfort zone. Still no joy and she’s getting down hearted. She did completely independently find a volunteer role in a charity shop but even with this experience she can’t get a job. I walked into jobs with minimal effort at her age, my mum got me a job from a client of the bank she worked in.

Very common here where I am for parents to post asking about job vacancies. Lots of the groups will be neighbours, local area, hobby etc so the kids wouldn't be in these, actually most aren't on Facebook. It's handy to ask in case someone knows of a vacancy that they've missed. I guess it's similar to posting on a forum you don't really write please and thank you when asking something, some do .

Of course I would. I'd direct them where to look online and leave them to it. I wouldn't be one of those parents that fills in the application for their kid. It's a skill you need to learn and that's not going to happen if mommy is doing all the work for you

What's your issue though? That they didn't say please or thank you or that they are asking on behalf of teenagers? They should have said please or thank you. There is no reason that they can't ask in behalf of their teens. Facebook is more for oldies. There would be no point my DD posting on her Facebook (or anywhere on her socials actually) because she only has her friends on there. I have fellow old people on mine. I do think encouraging teens to be proactive, ie posting themselves on town forums is good, but there's nothing to suggest that this teen hasn't done that. Not sure on the point of your post.

I kind of get it, when the kids are 16. The issue I have with it is when they're older - say, 18 onwards. Why aren't they capable of taking the initiative?

So if they said mum what does this mean you would say i am not telling you, I am p not talking about doing everything for them, but you seem to putting across and all or nothing attitude

I imagine they’ll say thank you to any responses.

Why do you need a thank you?

I helped my niece write her Cv, which helped her get a job.

Why shouldn’t she benefit from my experience?

Nothing wrong with looking for leads as long as the kid is doing the same too. Facebook isn't widely used by that age group so even if the kid created a profile their posts might not get much traffic. I expect if you went on their insta/Snapchat/tiktok your might well find them posting for themselves.

Kid has no chance if the parent doesn't even realise they should be on a jobs website instead of facebook.

I dunno about that. All sorts of little local businesses might be looking for someone a few hours a week in a role that's appropriate for a teenager. We hired a teenager who now cuts our lawn and a few others in the village based off a Facebook post.

I was about to say ‘back in my day…’

Until I remembered that my mum got me a job when I was 16!

@Coffeeishot @nomas of course id help in that sense. I was talking about when parents just do the whole thing for the child. If my child wanted help with a CV then obviously I'd tell him how to do it, but I wouldn't write it out for him which is what seems to happen. When I was 15 I looked for my own jobs and typed up my Cv myself with absolutely no help from anyone. I think teens nowadays need to be more proactive in helping themselves without expecting their parents to do all the work for them

Yes the lack of manners would put me off. Not very polite, no please or thank yous.

I agree it looks better coming from the child but I wouldn't be put off by the parent asking, just as long as they asked properly.

@TaupeRaven I found my son his apprenticeship too at 16 - he still had to do the interviews etc -

I have asked the question on FB for my son. He does not have FB, if there was anywhere taking on I would point him in that direction, but not do it for him.

There are so few jobs for 16 year olds we are willing to look and ask everywhere.

I have to say it annoys me too, not the initial question about leads but on my FB groups and Next Door it's very often followed by more stupid questions.
Eg. Does anyone know of any openings for my 16 yo?
Answer: I know XX in town is looking
Parent: Do you know the times and days?

Go and bloody ask or send your child with a CV fgs