To have some sort of reaction to his death.

[FlexiSadie]

I found out tonight that my ex has died. It wasn't a happy relationship and it ended more than a decade ago. He was violent and it was a messy period of my life but I still have unprocessed feelings.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for here. My brain hurts.

It is natural for lots of feelings about him to come flooding back. Almost like there might have been unanswered questions or unresolved things, anc you now know you might not find those answers. You can feel loss for people you didn't love.

Emotions are funny things. They have their own life. Sometimes, you just have to ride them out with the expectation that they will settle on their own. All sorts of thoughts and memories will float through while this happens.

If they don’t settle within a reasonable timeframe, then you may have to look at more active intervention into your own mind.