If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

[JustCiri]

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

Stress mainly, also bad habits formed in childhood haven’t helped, I know I am an adult and can make my own choices but I am a firm believer that good and bad habits are made early on in life and I didn’t have much of an example with my parents regarding diet and exercise as well as portion control.

I expect OP can. Which is why she asked the question.

I agree

Friend who talks openly about her weight gain journey, says that crisps and cheese are her downfall foods. She isn't interested in sugary or 'junk food' aside from crisps.

I observe that she likes to drink milk as a routine beverage & she focuses a lot of her socialising and day around meals. She is just... more excited about food than I was at her age. She is prone to anxiety because of abusive childhood. Bouts of anxiety undermine efforts to keep exercise in her routine or find self-discipline around food intake.

I eat my feelings and have no "off switch" ie I don't feel full.
I am in the 70s kg wise but was 82 at one point. Im only 5 ft tall.

I had an abusive childhood. I was SA'd at 3, and when it happened again, I was sad and hurt, and instead of asking why I was upset, my mum went mental at me, I guess that was my earliest memory of feeling alone.
I spent the rest of my childhood being physically and emotionally abused at home, and being bullied at school. My only comfort became food.
That continued into adulthood. Food was my friend when I was happy, when I was sad.

It became a cycle of feeling so bad, and blaming myself, feeling anxious that my own childhood was so bad I wasn't able to give my own child a very good role model, and that I could never reach the lofty heights of normality- however hard I tried. Nothing felt like enough. I was a failure in my own eyes and again, my only "nice" thing was food. But after that food, I'd feel like I was proving to the world how I was a lesser person, worthy of ridicule, deserving of embarrassment and disgusting. I tried so many diets, but then I'd binge eat. How could I break this cycle? Food was my happy, food was my sad, every feeling was accompanied by food.

I actually reached 23stone 10. I was HUGE, massively unhappy, massively unhealthy. GLP1s are all that really help switch off the need for food constantly. Far more helpful than counselling, or antidepressants

Struggled with my weight in my teens and twenties until I started focusing on being healthy, eating till I was full, not skipping meals or snacks but eating eggs every morning, wholewheat pasta and lots of fruit and veggies. Finding exercise that you actually enjoy otherwise you will not stick to it.

Once you cut out the crap you will feel sooooo much better that you won't want to go back to eating junk.

And chuck out the scales.

The only way of doing this is by consuming significantly more calories than burning. There might be lots of reasons behind it (stress etc) but there’s only one way to actually gain the weight

I was 101kg when I started WLI, 16stone.
i have insulin resistant PCOS and my body craved food all the time. I was always quite active but was still eating far more than my body needed.
With WLI I’m able to eat 2 balanced meals a day without a snacks, carbs only once a day and I’ve lost almost 6 stone and back to a healthy BMI at roughly 65kg.

I'm currently 107kg, I have been a few kg more.

Most of the answers so far seem to be from people who are unhappy or ashamed about their size. That's not me. I've always eaten well, home cooked, lots of veg, usually organic. Lots of butter. When we have a glut of home-grown fruit, we have a lot of fruit crumbles, with custard! And I do like chocolate!

I had an initial weight gain of a couple of stones, fast, when I had a difficult pregnancy with a lot of bed-rest, my baby was still born and I comfort ate afterwards.

And after that my weight just kept drifting up. I might be kidding myself, but I don't think I look as heavy as I am. I'm a size 20, which is still within the "normal" range at e.g. M&S, Next, Tu. There are styles I couldn't wear without sizing up, but I just don't wear those styles. If I can't get into it in a 20, I don't buy it.

I do worry that it will impact on my health at some point. I've made it into my 60s without any health issues (other than the recurrent miscarriages of my 20s and 30s, but I wasn't overweight back then.)

I'm not unfit. I can't run, but I swim (Tesco size 18 swimsuit), enjoy gardening, walk, bop around the kitchen to music.

I know I'm fat because I consume more calories than I use, but I also note that 3 of my 4 great grandmothers, all busy farmer's wives, were obese in their 60s (4th great grandmother died in childbirth, so no idea what she'd have looked like), as was one grandmother (also a farmer's wife) and my mother, now in her 90s, has never been slim either, although she's never been as fat as I am.

A lot of things. Body changing as you get older and suddenly food and exercise affect you differently. Change in life circumstances leading to stress. Injuries forcing to stop very active sports "career". Eating too much and not really noticing and all that.

I mean, obviously me weighing 100kg is a lot and I'm obese. I'm not in denial. However, i also think that 100kg can be a lot more than you'd think based on looks.

i wasn’t 100kg but 90 for a while. Mine was basically happy relationship weight 🤣

I had always been around 10/11stone, then when we got together and were going on dates/takeaways in together it just snowballed from there. Then I was pregnant and ended up about 14.5stone a few months ago. It’s just attitude for me aswell, I can’t lose it unless I’m 100% all in, and really in the mindset to do it.

Eventually just got so fed up with myself & now back down to 12.13st, still a long way to go but feeling a lot better about myself again

An endocrine disorder that went undiagnosed for at least a decade.

Mounjaro is amazing. There are lots of anecdotal stories on Mumsnet about life changing effects for people with endocrine disorders, most people are still having it prescribed for obesity but recommended off label by there endocrinologist. Hopefully there will be some proper studies done on it in the context of endocrine disorders at some point but a lot of these conditions are extremely rare and currently the focus is on how mounjaro can help in more common conditions like heart failure, fatty liver disease, alcohol misuse etc.

I think GLP1 have the potential to be the next big revolution in medicine, like antibiotics were a century ago.

Obviously this is true but that doesn’t mean it’s simple.

WLI have been developed on medical research and science, not just vibes.

Genetics - research has shown that some people do produce less GLP hormones which make weight control harder

Upbringing - some children are brought up either with unhealthy food choices or (in my case) the belief that food = love

Neurodiversity - there is also research around ADHD in particular making people sensitive to dopamine responses which encourage overeating

Trauma - increased cortisol levels cause make gaining weight much easier and losing it much harder. Eating is also the body’s way of making us feel safe

Industry - UPF is designed to be addictive- it’s built in. The point about 3rd world countries and obesity is wrong. Poir countries (particularly in South America) where food giants have moved in have seen obesity levels soar.

We all have different bodies and different lives which will make our experiences unique.

My child died. Eating cake is the only reason I was able to survive.

Research says that bereaved mothers have a shorter life expectancy due t effects of grief itself and them ‘lifestyle choices’ that result. I suppose that’s my own fault for being so careless and I should just pull my finger out.

The ‘lazy and greedy’ critics on here have either not suffered trauma, loss or difficulty in which case they can keep quiet and jog on

Or (more likely) have suffered these things but their response has been heightened control and denial.

Some people end up fat, some people end up angry and bitter.

The fat people on this thread (myself included) are trying to take action to make their lives better. Not sure about the others.

Started in childhood. I just took sweets and chocolate whenever I wanted and my mum just couldn't be bothered to stop me. I also grew up with food associations with emotions. You passed a test? Let's eat to celebrate! You feel sad? Let's eat to make you feel better.
My mum had anxiety and depression a lot so the only real time we spent together was eating tubs of ice cream on the sofa watching TV.

It's very difficult to un-do a mentality you've grown up with. People say it's my responsibility now as an adult and I know that. But you carry all this mental load from childhood which takes a while (even if possible) to undo and rewire your brain.

Compulsive binge eating disorder.

I don’t like quoting posts but will make an exception for this one.
SoOriginal, are you naive or nasty?
Either way that’s a very unfair post.
Please educate yourself & try to be a bit more supportive of others.
I hope you continue to always be in control & that nothing ever goes wrong for you 🙄

I didn’t say it was simple and I didn’t say anyone is lazy or greedy. But it’s still the only way to 100kg

Childhood abuse. It's an addiction in my case. My parents controlled through food. Had they been alcoholics or drug addicts I might have turned to that instead. Takes a lifetime to undo some of the trauma.

@outofofficeagain I’m so sorry about your child ❤️

Highest dose of antidepressants. Went from around 70kg to 110kg, way too much for my 5’4 frame but no matter what i do doesn’t seem to shift, even more so now I’m perimenopausal.

I was 137 I am now 106. I have lost the weight following SW. I put the weight on wating too much and not moving enough, 3 pregnancies - life!

I have never been slim but I was more chubby than fat.

Then I developed arthritis which ended up disabling me. When you can't physically cook it impacts what you eat.

On good days I can do some cooking, but I can't stand and stir a risotto or roll out pastry.

So I eat too many ready meals and take aways.

eating!

But do you understand that it's not terribly helpful to say "calories in/calories out is the only route to 100kg" when the reason for the calorie surplus in this person's case is the trauma that comes from profound bereavement?