If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

[JustCiri]

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

The constant drive to eat is awful, I'm hungry most of the time, eating something gives very temporary relief.

It just crept on. I was obese by the time I was in the last year of primary school and throughout my teens my weight matched my age so I was 16 stone at 16 years old, 18 stone at 18 years old. I maxed out somewhere around 21 stone which is about 134kg.

I found out when I was 27 that I had insulin resistant PCOS which accounts for some of the weight gain once I hit puberty, and over the years I was able to lose some weight by cutting all carbs out of my diet and heavily restricting. By doing that I was able to level out at about 16 stone which is 101kg but couldn’t get below that.

On WLIs I am now 10st which is about 64kg and at 5ft 8 that gives me a BMI of 21. I was prescribed Mounjaro by the NHS for T2 diabetes and it’s been amazing, much better sugar control that I had with insulin and metformin combined and since getting my sugar levels into normal losing weight by sticking to a low carb high protein and fibre diet of around 1400-1600 calories a day has been really successful for me.

I went from 86kg to 50kg with MJ, by changing my diet and exercising more.

My diet was shit because of lockdowns, working from home, an abusive marriage, a five year court case, being a single parent with no support, working shifts. It took a good 6-8 years to get this way.

But also, being little. At five foot, my TDEE is 1200-1400 calories. That's hard when you're trying to live the above kind of life.

@JustCiri how did having children cause you to gain weight. You birth them and the extra circulation goes/placenta comes out and babies weight is removed from your uterus. I’ve only ever lost weight with having children due to not feeling like eating because of abdo fullness and early morning sickness.
so don’t blame the babies. You ask naively how people gain weight. Just the same way you did. Don’t blame pregnancy. You ate too much. Think about why. That will help you lose it.

Stating facts doesn't mean you lack empathy. I'm a stress eater. I have lots of empathy, but it doesn't help to deny the facts.

Covid lockdown, lost some but not all, then Corticosteroids for Crohn's, lost some but not all, and then a difficult pregnancy which put me at 115kg just before giving birth. Again I've lost some but not all, it's like each time a bit sticks. I'm also nearly 40 now

I’ve been down to (can’t convert at this time of the morning!) 14 stone 7 and was happy and comfortable there at and felt good
I get on the scales and doctors say oh they must be wrong, let me get another set and then look confused that I’m so heavy

I'm addicted to chocolate.

No.

You went from 86K to 50K with Munjaro.

And that's fine.

Gosh there are some absolutely vile comments here...

Not sure of your point. MJ isn’t magical. You do have to change things too.

Started with not enough food during parts of my childhood, resulting in a disorderd relationship with food. I find it very difficult to let food go to waste, because I grew up not knowing if or when there would be more, so there is a strong compulsion to eat whatever is avaliable, even if I'm not hungry.

Pre-kids it didn't have such a bad effect on my body shape, despite occasionally overeating to the point of being sick in early adulthood, when I first had access to money, and therefore as much food as I wanted.

I gained a bit in pregnancy, as everyone does, but initially got back in shape quite well, when it really started piling on is when I started making food for the kids. Neither are good eaters, so there's often food left. Even if I'm not hungry and know I won't enjoy eating their leftover fish finger, I really struggle to just put it in the bin. That same voice that as an underweight 6yo, was a survival instinct, is still there despite now being fat 35yo.

Medication for me. But without the meds I'd be totally loopy. Fat and sane beats skinny and entirely crazy.

It's almost as if people vary...

Monjaro is a tool which @daffodilandtulip used to help her make better things food and exercise choices.

And that too is fine 😬

Eating crap. Particularly chocolate.

About 6 years ago I lost 3st quite easily and quickly just by eating consciously. Nothing faddy, no missing food groups out, not even counting calories. No exercise. It was literally "Am I hungry? No. Then put that food down. Or yes, I am hungry. What is a better choice than chocolate?".

Unfortunately I got complacent and am now back to eating family bars of chocolate each day and fat.

I know that chocolate screws me over. Chocolate and biscuits. I dont have biscuits in the house because I cant control myself around them. I need to accept that same is true of chocolate.

Injections aren't for me. I know I can do it without them. It's just committing to it.

The posters can’t help themselves. They’re nothing more than billy no mates attention seeking idiots -the exact opposite of the very brave women here who are continuing to tell their story here despite them.

I was over 130kg at my heaviest. I was miserable, sleeping my life away and had binge eating disorder - but I wouldn't purge after so all the calories remained with me. I have since discovered I have adhd. This is significant.
I also have pcos so gaining was effortless and losing was near impossible. I lost 10lb in a year through blood sweat and tears. Then I discovered mounjaro. I pay myself and I have lost 46kg. It's helped with the fatigue, inflammation, binge eating you name it.
I see it as a miracle drug.
Was some of my weight gain my own doing, yes absolutely but the root cause of why I ate so much/wrong types of food, wasn't all my fault. I now feel I deal with food like a normal person and it's thanks to the medication. I still have to try but it's not trying for nothing.

I would just like to warn people that this is the OPs first post ever on MN. Why would you join Mn to ask this??

There is stating facts and there is being inflammatory. “Eating crap” is not stating facts, it’s judging.

I just want to input my experience as a slim person. I’m about 7.5 stone and a size 8 and have one child so have gone through one pregnancy. However, for anyone thinking that I must be more disciplined or active than someone overweight the answer is no. Everyone is completely different. I used to have severe health anxiety so extremely worried that I had cancer. I read years ago that feeling full was a sign of ovarian cancer so I became very aware and nervous if I wasn’t hungry. This ended up causing me to never eating til I was full, I always wanted to make sure I was a bit hungry. Awful and now I don’t have the same anxiety it’s still a habit I can’t get rid of. So for anyone thinking that a slim person has it all together…they don’t!

Fucking perimenopause, Covid, 14 hour work days, stress & emo eating leading to incremental creeping. Was 96 kg at the height of it, always the healthy, walked tonnes, etc, but ate too much.
Am now 69 kg - took 2.5 years. Did most off my own back with exercise upped and changing eating habits (used MyFitnessPal to count all cals), and then used WLI to help w me not relapse for the last bits & maintaining on that with just a couple of Kgs to go. Best thing I have ever done for myself - including the WLI! No regrets.
I want to be 65 kg if I can, SUPERhappy w where I am now (also quite tall - 5’11”) and mindful to not lose too much.

being fat child, then pregnancy, yoyo dieting, and at the end insulin resistance (when you have sudden hunger strikes), hashimotos, anaemia which contribute to lack of energy do do any activities.
And NHS advise? please loose weight.

Exactly.
It’s a great tool but no magic bullet. I use it and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made for my health. My cholesterol’s down, my Hc1a thingamegic is down from 40 to 27 lowering soooo many risks for me, my BMI is in healthy range, I feel like myself, and so much happier because I’m healthier and have lower risks.
How I got there is in my other post above.
But it doesn’t matter how, and is of no consequence to that poster who is just bitter and putting others down for things that do not affect her life in the slightest!

Big UP to anyone who’s doing stuff for their health and making changes to feel better, live better & longer etc. However you get there, I fucking applaud you! It is hard to lose weight no matter how you do it & the benefits are more than just your skinny jeans. So well done!!

I've never been over 100kg but I have been a stone or 2 heavier than I like at times and I can identify the reasons.

First time I was working long 12 shifts which really disabled me from being able to have any sort of routine with food and exercise. I was also around a lot of people at work who were eating rubbish and I think that influenced me a bit. Anyway I lost that weight once I moved to a 9-5 job and could look after myself better again.

Second time is having children. This is because I have next to zero time to look after myself, to do exercise (plus still have pelvic pain even a year after birth), I'm sleep deprived, stressed. Also have very little time to invest in hobbies or activities that provide pleasure so the quick route to pleasure is food.

Am yet to lose weight, still over worked and stressed in my current situation but I feel like I'll get there eventually.