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If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

272 replies

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

OP posts:
Spike666 · 08/09/2025 06:44

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 06:14

People commenting on my weight doesn’t bother me. But haverin cuddies like you do. You know, the kind of malicious posters who haunt these threads looking for attention whilst making an arse of themselves - not that they realise that’s what they’re doing because in their world any attention is good attention.

Going forward - just know that whilst posters like myself can spot an idiot on Mounjaro, we can also spot idiots l who aren’t on it but need these boards as much as we do because of who they are.

Edited

Mate!

No!

You must know what it's like to go through your life with people commenting on your weight?

It's outrageous from either end of the scale.

I hate it.

Oldel · 08/09/2025 06:46

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

How did you gain weight?

Brightlittlecanary · 08/09/2025 06:51

I got up to 95kg, I hit peri and stopped smoking at the same time , and also went home based in my job, all together , and just started gaining, the three together really did for me, I was always a healthy weight before.

As I gained, I developed insulin resistance and then increased cortisol due to menopause, and really it was a vicious circle I couldn’t get out of, due to the metabolic issues making me hungry and craving carbs. I also developed sleep apnea, which made it worse, as I was waking up throughout the night repeatedly, so I was also exhausted, making the whole thing impossible and miserable.

I’m now back to 57kg , bmi 20, with mounjaro and maintaining for the last nearly 4 months on a 5mg dose now. Sleep apnea is gone, my blood pressure is normal and I’m off the meds, and I work out 6 days a week, sleep like a log.

just being able to sleep makes an enormous difference on its own. But yeah, for me menopause, stopping smoking, going home based was the start of it then developing metabolic issues and sleep apnea compounded it. If it wasn’t for the drugs, I would be very unhealthy and my doctor recommended them as I was at risk of an event,

Oldel · 08/09/2025 06:54

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:37

I had two babies in 3 years, causing the weight gain.

I had 3 babies in 5 years and didn't gain any weight. I don't feel the need to judge you though.

EnglishRain · 08/09/2025 06:55

I’m a healthy weight, but my weight is 70kgs. Sounds like that’s a good bit heavier as a starting point than you (I’m 5’9). The day I have birth I was 88kg. If I wasn’t careful I easily could have been 80-85 from the get go post partum, and I had a baby that didn’t like the pram and I struggled with heat with the sling. Would have been so easy to become a couch potato. Too hot in summer when she was born, then into cold and wet autumn and winter.

SoOriginal · 08/09/2025 06:56

‘I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight’.

Yikes OP, that’s a big weight gain, I didn’t gain that kind of weight in pregnancy. How did you let that happen?

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 06:58

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:27

i think you should eat as many sandwiches as you like—enough to make up for the fact that, judging from your replies on this thread, you’re still a few sandwiches short of a picnic as far as obesity and its many causes are concerned.

Ok.

I smoke.

I bloody love cigarettes.

We all have our bad habits.

icallshade · 08/09/2025 06:59

5ft 10
Heaviest was 126kg.
Multiple reasons- 2 babies in 3 years, stress, emotional eating, place a high value on food ie been brought up that food is important, a reward etc.
I also have arthritis and am on/off steroids and biologic drugs to manage my condition.
Am currently 99kg- lost 27kg since January with 15ishkg to go.

outofofficeagain · 08/09/2025 07:01

These threads always bring the worst personalities.

The kinds of people who read of trauma, profound grief, illness and stress and respond with ‘lazy fucker tho’

I’d take compassion over firm abs anyday.

Dymaxion · 08/09/2025 07:04

134kg, although haven't been less than 63kg for over 20 years and only managed to be that weight due to being poor and not being able to afford food.

My weight gain is as a result of eating far too many calories and not moving around enough. I ate lots of carbs of the beige variety, potatoes and pasta and bread mainly, my portion sizes were huge, rarely if ever felt full, but conversely also rarely feel hungry and don't suffer from food noise, lots of stress, far, far too much wine. It's taken me 15 years to get to this point, and I am not sure why I haven't dealt with it sooner. Although I have had some success in the past, I have an innate ability to sabotage myself when doing well !

Morningswim · 08/09/2025 07:04

outofofficeagain · 08/09/2025 07:01

These threads always bring the worst personalities.

The kinds of people who read of trauma, profound grief, illness and stress and respond with ‘lazy fucker tho’

I’d take compassion over firm abs anyday.

Agreed

Lalaland1956 · 08/09/2025 07:10

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

Sexual abuse as a child by grandparent, followed by emotional abuse from my mum and dad for the next 20 years. Depression, anxiety, undiagnosed ADHD until a year ago and that makes for a recipe of over eating and getting fat.

notasillysausage · 08/09/2025 07:10

ItsAMoooPoint · 07/09/2025 21:21

I gave birth to my second child and then we had the pandemic shortly after where I had to do online learning with a child in reception while dealing with the newborn and keeping everyone quiet so my DH could work from home. Barely left the house due to restrictions and exhaustion, and the end result was bad mental health which led to a lot of weight gain. Still trying to regain control of it all five years later! I've literally doubled my weight since my uni days 🥴

So yeah, mental health.

I could have written this. Mine stemmed from the pandemic, had my 3rd child who had health issues for her first two years and didn’t think about what I ate and used it as a comfort. I had undiagnosed anxiety and a stressful job, resulting in a breakdown. I am still struggling to lose the weight now.

Fedupbeingfat · 08/09/2025 07:12

In Nov 24, I was the heaviest I have ever been at 18 stone 4 lbs. (116kg)

How did I get there? ……

Many, many years ago, when I was 11 stone, I went on a diet, I lost a stone but went back to my old ways and put it back on plus another stone so I then weight 12 stone.

I went on another diet, I lost the 2 stone but went back to my old ways and put it back on plus another 2 stone so I then weight 14 stone.

I went on another diet, I lost 2 stone but went back to my old ways and put it back on plus another 2 stone so I then weight 16 stone.

Then with life’s stresses, I discovered the most delicious, sweet alcohol, so not only was I fat, I was drunk and fat and it’s fair to say suicide was at the forefront of my thoughts every hour of every day.

I had a wake up call in November 24, lots of people I knew were talking MJ so I thought let’s give this a go in order to lose weight.
10 months later, I have lost 4 stone. More importantly and surprisingly, MJ has stopped the alcohol cravings and I have not had any alcohol in 10 months. I am exercising so much more and the suicidal thoughts have completely diminished.

MJ has given me so much more than weight loss, it has given me hope!
I don’t want to imagine life not taking MJ so I am on it for ever.

MinnieBaldock · 08/09/2025 07:12

I'm 15 stone. I've lost 8lbs in 4 weeks on WW. I put on loads of weight when I retired and packed up smoking. Also I have a shop 2 mins from my house, so getting chocolate and chocolate fingers was my down full. I have loads of clothes that don't fit but am determined now to lose the weight. So eating crap is why I put on weight and also no exercise.

notasillysausage · 08/09/2025 07:13

The thing about being overweight, it is often a symptom of mental health issues and trauma. The endless judgy comments from those who can’t fathom how someone can get that weight don’t help “eat less, move more; eating too much crap” as we have already seen on this thread! Those that don’t understand have very low levels of empathy.

Sundaymorningcalla · 08/09/2025 07:15

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 07/09/2025 21:26

Quite right.
We get fat by laying on the sofa inhaling donuts all day from our sheer greed and laziness.
Nothing more to it.
All this nonsense about genetics playing a part, or trauma, or health conditions, or abuse is just that.
Fat apologists!
Stoning would be too good for us.
We should be paraded through the streets on a forced march everyday, made to subsist on a diet of gruel, no wait that’s a carbohydrate and far too good for us - let’s say broccoli, until we are a size which does not cause disgust to the eyes of decent people and we stop being a drain on society.

The only people who blame fat on being die to genetics are idiots and are in serious denial about their lifestyle choices.

It's the only way they can validate their gluttony and lack of control over what they consume relative to calories expended.

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 07:16

Someone further back mentioned they’d like to be 85 kilos but I can no longer find the post, sorry.

Anyway SmartBmi is a newish way of working out your BMI as it takes more into account than the normal one size fits all current BMI charts.

Im posting these links to it but please ignore that one links to a clinic for bariatric surgery. I’ve only posted it to show that SmartBMI is becoming more and more mainstream, that bariatric surgeons are starting to consider it a good indicator of a persons
target BMI

I use smart BMI and I came across it when my surgeon mentioned it to me when I asked them - well, what should I weigh. He looked me up and down and said 85kgs and lo and behold when I looked at SmartBmi’s it came up with 85 which is what I’d had in mind for a few years when thinking about - when I eventually manage to lose weight. One of the features I like is that it calculates the risk of weight related illness at the age you are, as well as x amount of years into the future.

https://www.idrlabs.com/s-bmi-calculator/test.php

https://westmedical.com/bmi-calculator/

AuntieDen · 08/09/2025 07:19

pandemic was stressful already (running own company and keeping 8 people employed) then I had acute kidney failure and was on high dose steroids (80mg a day high dose, 40mg is considered 'high' and I think 80 is technically over the max dose) which was slowly tapered. At some point in the middle of that shit show I started peri and then of course the stress of running a company post lockdown kicked in.

Plus you reach a point I think where it is all too much and chocolate is a good option.

Now I have peri symptoms somewhat under control I am finally focussed on weight loss but would personally rather not do the injections, so will be slow and hopefully steady.

I would say though that even at size 10 I was 9.5 stone (so 60kg?) because I was toned not skinny, so like lots of other pp probably heavier than average as a starting point.

Sadgirl101 · 08/09/2025 07:22

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/09/2025 21:23

Lots and lots of very serious stress and undiagnosed ADHD. According to my psychiatrist, I was eating lots of sweet stuff because I was looking for a dopamine boost.

This was me too. I have yoyo-d for years with my weight but as soon as I started medication form my ADHD my insatiable sweet tooth disappeared over night, I can eat intuitively and I have lost 2 stone/nearly 13kg in a matter of months

Comedycook · 08/09/2025 07:22

Sundaymorningcalla · 08/09/2025 07:15

The only people who blame fat on being die to genetics are idiots and are in serious denial about their lifestyle choices.

It's the only way they can validate their gluttony and lack of control over what they consume relative to calories expended.

Edited

When you hear experts discuss the obesity issue they usually seem to agree that it's multi faceted. It's not purely genetics but yes they do concede genetics play a part. It's a very complex issue and just throwing around words like gluttony is not helpful. There is of course an element of self control but it's not beyond comprehension that some people are going to find self control harder than others for various reasons. That's not a moral failing.

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 07:23

notasillysausage · 08/09/2025 07:13

The thing about being overweight, it is often a symptom of mental health issues and trauma. The endless judgy comments from those who can’t fathom how someone can get that weight don’t help “eat less, move more; eating too much crap” as we have already seen on this thread! Those that don’t understand have very low levels of empathy.

Ok.

I smoke.

I bloody love cigarettes.

We all have our bad habits.

I smoke my trauma. You might eat your trauma.

Other people drink or use drugs.

I do not judge you.

TATT2 · 08/09/2025 07:24

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:37

I had two babies in 3 years, causing the weight gain.

IMHO It wasn't the babies thar caused your weight gain - if you've lost it since. It was almost certainly a change in your eating and activity levels.

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 07:26

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 07:16

Someone further back mentioned they’d like to be 85 kilos but I can no longer find the post, sorry.

Anyway SmartBmi is a newish way of working out your BMI as it takes more into account than the normal one size fits all current BMI charts.

Im posting these links to it but please ignore that one links to a clinic for bariatric surgery. I’ve only posted it to show that SmartBMI is becoming more and more mainstream, that bariatric surgeons are starting to consider it a good indicator of a persons
target BMI

I use smart BMI and I came across it when my surgeon mentioned it to me when I asked them - well, what should I weigh. He looked me up and down and said 85kgs and lo and behold when I looked at SmartBmi’s it came up with 85 which is what I’d had in mind for a few years when thinking about - when I eventually manage to lose weight. One of the features I like is that it calculates the risk of weight related illness at the age you are, as well as x amount of years into the future.

https://www.idrlabs.com/s-bmi-calculator/test.php

https://westmedical.com/bmi-calculator/

Edited

Sorry, the 1st link should be this one.

https://www.smartbmicalculator.com/

Calculate your BMI, correctly rated according to age and gender

Along with your age, the rating of your body mass index is markedly changing. For a detailed overview, use your coloured health risk chart.

https://www.smartbmicalculator.com

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 07:26

TATT2 · 08/09/2025 07:24

IMHO It wasn't the babies thar caused your weight gain - if you've lost it since. It was almost certainly a change in your eating and activity levels.

Ya.

I had two babies in 15 months.

No weight gain.

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