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To think that shoplifting is not my f#%*ing problem

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ShoveItUpYourArseMargaret · 07/09/2025 16:23

I can't he the only one. I've never stolen a thing in my life.

I have had it up to here with the extra security measures in shops lately.

Today in Sainsburys, I went back to the aisles with my PAID FOR shopping, to check the price on the shelf l as I'd been overcharged SO actually Sainsbury's were stealing from me. As I went back through self-checkout area where I'd paid, my trolley wheels then locked 🙄

....Also, not long ago, I did some shopping in TK Maxx and boots and the alarm went off when leaving TK Maxx because the person on the till hadn't deactivated the security thing. We went back to the till and the security person WHO HAD BEEN STANDING THERE WATCHING US, came over and rifled through my bag. I told him some of the stuff was from boots and he said, no, he had to check that too. In the process, one of the items from boots costing £10 went missing. So TK Maxx actually stole from us.

I used to love TK Maxx but wont go there anymore now.

Shoplifting is NOT my problem, I don't do it and never have. I'm not a criminal and expect not to he treated like one. Shops who are happy to take your money but treat genuine customers like shit are in danger of scaring off people who are there to spend money, they'll just end up full of shoplifters. 🤷‍♀️

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Dogosaurus · 08/09/2025 08:36

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 08/09/2025 08:31

Well for some unknown reason I set off the security alarms for pretty much every shop I walk out of, no idea why can't figure it out. Happens when I have a coat/ don't have a coat/ have my bag/ don't have my bag/ have my phone/ don't have my phone. There is no reason I can find as to why.
BUT I have not once been stopped or searched ever! I just keep walking it is only reading this thread that I realise security guards actually do take notice of them

My friend had this and it turned out to be an item of makeup, I think a mascara, that had some sort of security tag on. It took her ages to work out.

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:36

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:35

Well you didn’t get it

and too right!!!

what’s it to you anyway?

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:36

Compensation options also include goodwill gestures like vouchers or discounts.

Digdongdoo · 08/09/2025 08:36

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:33

Large supermarkets, if a customer has XYZ issue

If you say so.

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:38

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DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:38

Maverickess · 08/09/2025 08:34

Please give a full and detailed description of a shoplifter in the context of having moments to do so, so that they can be reliably identified without there being any chance, ever, that
a) a shoplifter will not be stopped because they appear like a paying customer and
b) a paying customer will not be stopped ever, under any circumstances.

I wouldn’t know

Tiredofwhataboutery · 08/09/2025 08:38

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:27

And you think you deserve a “big” voucher?

I’m not sure if anyone deserves a “big” voucher. I suspect you probably deserve at least an apology. It irritates that you are supposed to automatically know what items need security tags deactivating, even the staff don’t know which is why alarms ping off so frequently. The shops need a better system so non shop lifters aren’t inconvenienced. I’ve said upthread I don’t steal and have given up waiting politely at the door when alarms go off. Nothing happens.

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🤣 yes of course with small children looking on

Glowstickparty · 08/09/2025 08:39

Im with you it’s annoying but also annoying for the shops losing lots of money. I wish they kept checkout staff instead of self service. I’m sure staff that lost their jobs wish this to. Surely that solved half the problem. I also didn’t give permission to be filmed while I pay.

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Yes but do you?

TheAutumnalCrow · 08/09/2025 08:40

Chompingatthebeat · 08/09/2025 07:54

Supermarkets deliver

Yeah, stuff I didn’t order, crap substitutes I didn’t want, in the wrong sizes, brands and flavours that I can’t eat. And then they charge you for ‘delivering’ it.

Don’t even get me going on the stuff that is clearly being robbed during the process of loading the vans.

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:40

Glowstickparty · 08/09/2025 08:39

Im with you it’s annoying but also annoying for the shops losing lots of money. I wish they kept checkout staff instead of self service. I’m sure staff that lost their jobs wish this to. Surely that solved half the problem. I also didn’t give permission to be filmed while I pay.

Those cameras arrrgh!

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:41

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:39

Yes but do you?

bloomin heck I bet you’re a tricky work colleague! 😆

EasternEcho · 08/09/2025 08:44

I don't live in the UK, and don't shoplift, and thankful that I'm not in a situation where I would need to. But the narrative of supermarkets that they have to raise their prices to offset shoplifting is self-serving. Their cost is wholesale, not retail, Shrinkage is already factored into their forecast, due to spoilage, damage, and theft and the cost is already factored into pricing models. They also post record profits year over year even during the pandemic. The price increase being passed on to shoppers is basically just increasing shareholder profits, as losses are not eating into their bottom line. The sheer quantity of goods thrown out each day is eye popping.

For what it's worth, this is from Forbes on Sainsbury's for period ending March 2025 : " Strength at the core meant underlying operating profit from its retail operations breached £1 billion for the first time last year. This was a shade over the prestigious benchmark and up 7.2% from financial 2024. Underlying pre-tax profit was up 8.6%, at £761 million.

Sainsbury’s said that “we have delivered a record-breaking year in grocery, outperforming the market every quarter for a second consecutive year and making our biggest market share gains in more than a decade as more customers come to Sainsbury’s for their big trolley shop.”

MifsBr0wn · 08/09/2025 08:44

Gettingbysomehow · 07/09/2025 17:55

I didn't know they could lock your trolley wheels 😐

They don’t.

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:45

TheAutumnalCrow · 08/09/2025 08:40

Yeah, stuff I didn’t order, crap substitutes I didn’t want, in the wrong sizes, brands and flavours that I can’t eat. And then they charge you for ‘delivering’ it.

Don’t even get me going on the stuff that is clearly being robbed during the process of loading the vans.

Using Asda delivery - fastest were uber drivers and when it was absolutely melting I paid the £8 delivery fee

Although the driver messaged me she was at the door, less than half the shopping turned up and I called and messaged that I thought she’d left some bags in her car and was redirected to uber who didn’t know the driver etc and couldn’t connect me

LillyPJ · 08/09/2025 08:47

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:18

They had no reason to believe I had shoplifted because I hadn’t

Not reasonably, it was demanded

They had some reason. You just don't know what it was.

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:48

LillyPJ · 08/09/2025 08:47

They had some reason. You just don't know what it was.

They didn’t - I shopped there all time time - never stole and was friendly with the other security guard - this was a temp I think

PaniKotta · 08/09/2025 08:49

stillhiding1990 · 08/09/2025 07:36

Love the sound of this - where is this?

Japan, I imagine......if not, Japan is like that.

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:50

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:48

They didn’t - I shopped there all time time - never stole and was friendly with the other security guard - this was a temp I think

Head. Wall. Bang.

They did have reason to believe. Maybe it looked like you’d slipped something in to a bag whilst in reality you were reaching for your glasses

Crownit · 08/09/2025 08:50

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:48

They didn’t - I shopped there all time time - never stole and was friendly with the other security guard - this was a temp I think

Have you been back?

Hoppinggreen · 08/09/2025 08:51

I have never stolen anything either but I have no issue with the measures shops have to put in place to prevent shoplifting.
If you want to be annoyed get annoyed at the people who make such things necessary

Digdongdoo · 08/09/2025 08:51

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:48

They didn’t - I shopped there all time time - never stole and was friendly with the other security guard - this was a temp I think

It's happened a couple of times and neither you nor the security guard have any idea why?

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:52

Digdongdoo · 08/09/2025 08:51

It's happened a couple of times and neither you nor the security guard have any idea why?

Trying to prove himself I suppose?

Digdongdoo · 08/09/2025 08:52

DeeKitch · 08/09/2025 08:52

Trying to prove himself I suppose?

Prove what to who?

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