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Beryls · 04/09/2025 16:42

I had a boob job at 29 for the same reason and it was very noticeable as I very small anyway. I didn't go massive, knew what I wanted and have never so much as given a second thought to my breasts ever since which was such a relief after years of being painfully conscious both with clothes on and off.

It made a massive deference to my confidence, being able to buy bras that fitted, clothes looked better and even the way I held myself changed. My mum was really supportive and told me to go for it, I'm very glad she did.

TyroleanKnockabout · 04/09/2025 18:39

BauhausOfEliott · 04/09/2025 16:28

Honestly, it’s really upsetting me to think of her beautiful young body being sliced into

It's not about you. She's 25 years old, a grown adult woman. She can (and should) make her own decisions about what she does to her own body. You don't have any ownership over her body just because you happened to give birth to her and your own emotional response to her 'beautiful young body being sliced into' isn't remotely helpful or relevant to her choice.

I understand why you feel the way you do, but I'm afraid you need to face the fact that your feelings, when it comes to another adult's body, simply don't matter.

All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling, frankly. She's 25 years old and is just as capable of making an informed decision about her body as any woman on this thread is. She's not a bloody child FFS and it's beyond patronising for people to assume that she can't make her own choices on this matter.

Tell her she cannot get a mammogram with implants

That's utter bullshit. You can absolutely get a mammogram with breast implants.

I’m 25 too, and I’m one of the posters who said she should do a ton of research. Because it’s a fucking massive decision and lots of people have regrets. It’s also a decision based on body dysmorphia, and no one is going to tell her she’s beautiful just the way she is unless her mum does. We live in a world where plastic surgery is so normalised that people forget that there are risks. The surgeons are incentivised by money, it’s not in their interest to tell her she doesn’t have uneven boobs.

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 04/09/2025 21:03

BauhausOfEliott · 04/09/2025 16:28

Honestly, it’s really upsetting me to think of her beautiful young body being sliced into

It's not about you. She's 25 years old, a grown adult woman. She can (and should) make her own decisions about what she does to her own body. You don't have any ownership over her body just because you happened to give birth to her and your own emotional response to her 'beautiful young body being sliced into' isn't remotely helpful or relevant to her choice.

I understand why you feel the way you do, but I'm afraid you need to face the fact that your feelings, when it comes to another adult's body, simply don't matter.

All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling, frankly. She's 25 years old and is just as capable of making an informed decision about her body as any woman on this thread is. She's not a bloody child FFS and it's beyond patronising for people to assume that she can't make her own choices on this matter.

Tell her she cannot get a mammogram with implants

That's utter bullshit. You can absolutely get a mammogram with breast implants.

You do talk rubbish. There is nothing “appalling” about advising a person to do some research and watch the videos online prior to signing up for surgery.

Gov.UK guidance was posted upthread. It contains information about mammograms for those with breast implants. It clearly states “mammography can be less effective in women who have breast implants. This is because the X-rays cannot ‘see’ through an implant to the breast tissue behind it.” Take the time to read it and you might learn something.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/breast-screening-breast-implant-guidelines/breast-implants-and-breast-screening

Breast implants and breast screening

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/breast-screening-breast-implant-guidelines/breast-implants-and-breast-screening

Anchorage56 · 04/09/2025 21:12

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 04/09/2025 21:03

You do talk rubbish. There is nothing “appalling” about advising a person to do some research and watch the videos online prior to signing up for surgery.

Gov.UK guidance was posted upthread. It contains information about mammograms for those with breast implants. It clearly states “mammography can be less effective in women who have breast implants. This is because the X-rays cannot ‘see’ through an implant to the breast tissue behind it.” Take the time to read it and you might learn something.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/breast-screening-breast-implant-guidelines/breast-implants-and-breast-screening

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What's your point about the mammogram? The person you quoted said you can get mammograms with implants which is true. If you read a few lines further it also says people with implants can get extra xrays taken to make it more effective. Also if the implant is behind the muscle then pressumably it's not so much of an issue anyway.

opencecilgee · 04/09/2025 21:43

If she’s worried about this, how will
she feel about her body in 10/20 years? After kids?

Id love to have my 25 y/o B cups back. Id take asymmetrical for that!

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 04/09/2025 21:56

Anchorage56 · 04/09/2025 21:12

What's your point about the mammogram? The person you quoted said you can get mammograms with implants which is true. If you read a few lines further it also says people with implants can get extra xrays taken to make it more effective. Also if the implant is behind the muscle then pressumably it's not so much of an issue anyway.

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Yes, I know it’s true. . The guidance also states “Screening does not check your implants. If you think you have a problem with one or both implants, we won’t screen you. You need to see your GP who will check whether you need to be referred for further investigations.”

The person I quoted went off on a tangent stating “All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling…” If you read the entire thread perhaps you will understand.

Knowledge is power!

Anchorage56 · 05/09/2025 06:59

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 04/09/2025 21:56

Yes, I know it’s true. . The guidance also states “Screening does not check your implants. If you think you have a problem with one or both implants, we won’t screen you. You need to see your GP who will check whether you need to be referred for further investigations.”

The person I quoted went off on a tangent stating “All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling…” If you read the entire thread perhaps you will understand.

Knowledge is power!

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That's two completely different things though. What's the fact that mammograms dont check implants (of course they dont!) got to do with someone ranting about the other things mentioned. I did read it.

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OutbackQueen · 10/09/2025 07:00

I’m pleased to say that DD went for a consultation yesterday and has decided against the procedure. The surgeon identified the wrong breast, as did I (the one my daughter was concerned about but we both thought was fine) as needing an implant and also said that her breasts were only very slightly asymmetrical.
He said one is only a bit higher than the other but that there was nothing that could be done because of the way they sit on her rib cage.
She can now appreciate that the way she sees herself, as opposed to how others see her, is the issue here.

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Motnight · 10/09/2025 07:17

That's good news, Op.

Tink3rbell30 · 10/09/2025 07:55

Brilliant news.

LlynTegid · 10/09/2025 08:16

Thank you for the update OP.

SeaBreezeDewberryMusk · 10/09/2025 08:38

Great news. Sounds like she saw a brilliant surgeon 🙌

Thursdayschild2025 · 10/09/2025 10:30

OutbackQueen · 10/09/2025 07:00

I’m pleased to say that DD went for a consultation yesterday and has decided against the procedure. The surgeon identified the wrong breast, as did I (the one my daughter was concerned about but we both thought was fine) as needing an implant and also said that her breasts were only very slightly asymmetrical.
He said one is only a bit higher than the other but that there was nothing that could be done because of the way they sit on her rib cage.
She can now appreciate that the way she sees herself, as opposed to how others see her, is the issue here.

Thank God, such an invasive and sometimes dangerous operation, cutting up healthy flesh for no reason at all and ruining her ability to breast feed. There was nothing good at all about this idea, thank goodness she has come to her senses.