To let DD vape in her room with the window open?

[ByBoldLeader]

DD (16) vapes. I’ve tried over and over to stop her vaping but nothing works. Up until now I’ve said she can’t vape in the house at all but it’s got to the point where she is spending more and more time out of the house just so she can vape. She keeps asking why she can’t vape in her room with the window open (I suspect she’s already vaping in her room with the window open to be honest). I’m considering just letting her vape in her room (as long as she has the window open) at this point because I’m not going to manage to stop her vaping altogether (I’ve tried to stop her vaping altogether but nothing worked) and she’s spending so much time out of the house just because she wants to vape. Would I be unreasonable to let DD vape in her room with the window open? Does anyone else let their teens vape in their room?

Sorry but she’s 16, you allowing her to do that is basically enabling her addiction. You banning it in the home would force her to smoke less, yet you allowing it she would smoke all day every day freely. This is some baffling parenting. Fyi they start off vaping, then they turn to cigarettes, then it goes to weed. And I’m saying this as someone who has watched many of my loved ones say ‘it’s just vaping’ and a few years later be full on addicts.

She's addicted to one of the most addictive substances on earth. If she ever gives up, that won't be the reason.

Your information is a long way out of date - and wasn't ever relevant except to factory workers.

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Yeah let her vape in her room. And why not a couple of cans of lager too per night shes 16 shes grown up and says she can handle it….

See how it adds up. Just say no.

Do you know where she works, do they sell vapes? Report them for potential under age selling? Can you get into her bank app? See where she spends money as it’s likely one of those places?

If she starts in the house it’ll normalise it. Dont. It’s not normal.

What is she vaping? Nicotine or something worse eg cannabis?

I suspect you correct and she probably is having a few quick vapes in her room, but is aware that she's not allowed, so is exercising some restraint as she doesn't want to get caught. If you ok vaping in her room, it means she can do it as much as she likes (likely a lot more than she is right now) as she no longer needs to worry about being caught.

I'd be finding out where she's getting them from. They just closed down a shop in my town for selling to under-18s.

No I wouldn’t let my dd vape in the house or garden.

Does anyone else in the family vape?

Same way we all got cigarettes and alcohol when we were under age probably. A friend, a friends older sibling/cousin etc.

I still can’t decide what to do

How long has she vaped for? Has she had a winter of vaping or has it been a fine weather addiction? It’s September, nights are drawing in, it will soon get colder and darker. So

are you happy with her letting all the expensive heat out of your house by opening up windows in her room every half hour or so just so she can damage her lungs with whatever junk has been put in the vape?

or are you going to make it really uncomfortable for her to carry on with this dangerous and anti social habit by insisting she goes outside ( properly outside, not standing by the door/in the porch so the fumes blow back inside the house), shutting the door after her - see above re expensive heat.

I know which I would do!

Did you see the news yesterday that at least 10% of vapes being used by children contain the dangerous synthetic drug 'Spice'?

Food for thought, I'd say.

No I wouldn’t let her, it smells disgusting. No incentive for her to stop you if you do this. I view vaping the same as smoking and that wouldn’t happen in my house either.

I don’t understand what else you want from this thread to be honest. You asked what everyone else would do - almost everyone said this is a terrible idea. And also won’t solve the problem of her not wanting to be at home (which is totally normal!). And you still don’t know what to do. What else do you want anyone to say?

It doesn't sound like vaping is exactly a good idea

https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/e-cigarettes/health-effects.html

You seem remarkably chilled about your 16 year old doing something addictive and damaging to her health. Especially considering the fact that you say she’s been doing it for “so long “. How old was she when she started?

Personally I wouldn't. At present she needs to make an effort to vape. Allow it in the comfort of her room and she'll never have it out of her hand.

I knew lots of teens growing up who took significant risks and because they weren't allowed to do certain things at home - drinking, smoking, sex, drugs. I'm not saying you need to allowed her free reign but I would be worried about where my 16 yo was if she was away from the house all the time. I think vaping in the garden would be better than doing god knows what and maybe out the bedroom window when its raining.

Just don’t. This is something you can’t undo if you let her. Then if she gets extremely ill you didn’t help that happen.

My DSS mum let him vape in his room for a while and we were disgusted. I’m not some snob, I’m in a council house here.

It's so difficult. Both mine vape and I've noticed with my DS that when he smoked it wasn't all the time. With vaping it seems constant although he's going to give up. Maybe let her vape in the garden? Does she want to quit?

I definitely wouldn’t let anyone smoke or vape in our house. At her age surely school, homework and after school clubs are taking up most of her time so she should have little time to vape?

I used to vape for the CBD juices, and also used some 0 nicotine juices. I vaped inside my own house, and the steam used to just dissipate on its own. I've stopped now, but if she wants to vape, why not let her use the garden?

@ByBoldLeader

For your information, just to strengthen your own resolve.

Perhaps all her pals also vape and she may just do it to fit in (small hope)?

What's your family social life like, is it busy enough?

I understand you'd rather she was at home but allowing her to vape in her room or the garden is condoning the very behaviour you are trying to discourage.

And it's illegal after all

eta; if you ever discover the retailer selling these products, you should report

How far does she currently go to vape? I'd let her do it in the garden if it's been going on as long as you've made out. The forbidden fruit and all that.

No way to bedroom but allow her to vape in the garden.