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Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

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Chompingatthebeat · 31/08/2025 15:33

I"m happy to do it

OnTheRoof · 31/08/2025 15:35

I dislike the tax relief element also. None of my charitable donations will be made in a way that allows any unrelated business to derive benefit.

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:35

Chompingatthebeat · 31/08/2025 15:33

I"m happy to do it

Every time?

I was asked in every shop I went in on Friday.

The company will claim that back and make even more money from me.

Im in money ranting mood.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 31/08/2025 15:35

It drives me crazy, Tesco do it all the time for whatever random charity is on their list.

Oftenaddled · 31/08/2025 15:36

I don't think companies do get tax relief in the sense of it bringing their general tax bill down, though? They're just not taxed on the donation - it's not counted as part of their profits, which is fair enough.

Just posting that to check I have it right, because I have wondered.

Yes, I'm in two minds about this. I don't mind a please tick this box to donate sort of approach. Even a handset instead of the old collection tin on the counter, okay. I think forcing you to select no on a transaction is potentially confusing for a number of vulnerable people. And I don't like the verbal request to donate - it's something some people will feel shy about refusing and that's not fair on them

Lots of ways for shops to encourage donation but I don't think it should ever be the default option on payment systems or a verbal request. It should be opt-in, and your own business.

PauliesWalnuts · 31/08/2025 15:37

I refuse. They donate and say oh, this is from “insert retailer name here” when it’s the customers doing the donating.

Chompingatthebeat · 31/08/2025 15:37

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:35

Every time?

I was asked in every shop I went in on Friday.

The company will claim that back and make even more money from me.

Im in money ranting mood.

To be honest i don't go to the shops that often, but 20p here and there is not alot to donate

Hollyluna · 31/08/2025 15:38

I’m with you OP. Totally agree.

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:38

Jellycatspyjamas · 31/08/2025 15:35

It drives me crazy, Tesco do it all the time for whatever random charity is on their list.

Our Tesco makes 99% of shoppers use self service tills so I dont feel so bad pressing no.

I know the staff dont care and probably get fed up of asking. Apart from the woman in the charity shop who was quite out out when I (politely) said no twice.

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intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 15:38

If i want to give to charity it will be a charity of my choosing, not Tesco"s

BishyBarnyBee · 31/08/2025 15:39

The place it really gives me the rage is WHS where they are robbing you blind with inflated prices because you are a captive audience at a motorway services or rail station, then they add a charity donation as well. Just no!

DancingNotDrowning · 31/08/2025 15:41

I could understand it in a charity shop, but a super market asking me to roundup feels like a cheek.

I deliberately choose who I donate money to and don’t want my cash used to support a cause I would not ordinarily support

ChiefCakeTestertoMaryBerry · 31/08/2025 15:41

Oxfam price something at say £19.99 and then ask if you want to round up to £20. Just charge £20 if you want £20!

hmmnotreallysure · 31/08/2025 15:41

Happy to do it in the charity shop, not happy to do it in Poundland

YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 31/08/2025 15:42

A no here. If a company feels charitable, like Tescos, perhaps it could pay their staff more. Not using my donations to temporarily boost their bank accounts before donations made in their name! Companies only do what benefits them!

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:45

Oftenaddled · 31/08/2025 15:36

I don't think companies do get tax relief in the sense of it bringing their general tax bill down, though? They're just not taxed on the donation - it's not counted as part of their profits, which is fair enough.

Just posting that to check I have it right, because I have wondered.

Yes, I'm in two minds about this. I don't mind a please tick this box to donate sort of approach. Even a handset instead of the old collection tin on the counter, okay. I think forcing you to select no on a transaction is potentially confusing for a number of vulnerable people. And I don't like the verbal request to donate - it's something some people will feel shy about refusing and that's not fair on them

Lots of ways for shops to encourage donation but I don't think it should ever be the default option on payment systems or a verbal request. It should be opt-in, and your own business.

Yes they can. They can remove the charitable donations (that customers make!) from their profits.

As someone above said, they arent doing it out of the kindness of their heart!

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ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz · 31/08/2025 15:45

I always round up in McDonald's because I like to support the Ronald McDonald's houses. I generally decline in other shops. In a charity shop it would probably depend on whether I feel they have under or over charged for whatever I've just bought from them!

Crushed23 · 31/08/2025 15:46

Oh, it’s everywhere. I live in the US where there is tipping culture (fair enough) but then I’m asked would I like add an extra $1 here, $5 there to such and such charity. If I said yes to all, it would literally be hundreds of dollars a month. I know nothing about the charities in question or the tax benefit to the companies asking, I just hit “no” every time.

DelphiniumBlue · 31/08/2025 15:47

When Tesco pays full tax on its profits then I might not get so annoyed about them asking me for money. But it's a hard no from me.
Reminds me of a charity I signed up to donate regularly to - within 10 minutes I had a call from them saying the amount I was donating ( a sum suggested by them) , approx £5 a month, wasn't enough because [admin reasons] so could I increase it ? I was flabbergasted at their CF-ery, told them no and that I was cancelling the monthly payment that had just been set up.

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:47

ChiefCakeTestertoMaryBerry · 31/08/2025 15:41

Oxfam price something at say £19.99 and then ask if you want to round up to £20. Just charge £20 if you want £20!

Yes! It feels like shaming customers at the till. When I said no, the lady looked at me like I was stealing from the chaaarrrriiiteeee.

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ThejoyofNC · 31/08/2025 15:47

The worst is when they expect you to donate, without even telling you what the charity is.

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:48

DelphiniumBlue · 31/08/2025 15:47

When Tesco pays full tax on its profits then I might not get so annoyed about them asking me for money. But it's a hard no from me.
Reminds me of a charity I signed up to donate regularly to - within 10 minutes I had a call from them saying the amount I was donating ( a sum suggested by them) , approx £5 a month, wasn't enough because [admin reasons] so could I increase it ? I was flabbergasted at their CF-ery, told them no and that I was cancelling the monthly payment that had just been set up.

That's bad.

There admin costs probably include constantly sending mailshots to people who once looked in their general direction.

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Bluevelvetsofa · 31/08/2025 15:48

They do it in a local garden centre. I say that I donate to the charities I want to support and that’s sufficient.

GleisZwei · 31/08/2025 15:48

Chompingatthebeat · 31/08/2025 15:37

To be honest i don't go to the shops that often, but 20p here and there is not alot to donate

  1. Actually 20p over a few shops might be too much for some people.
  2. It's annoying constantly being asked.
DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:49

Crushed23 · 31/08/2025 15:46

Oh, it’s everywhere. I live in the US where there is tipping culture (fair enough) but then I’m asked would I like add an extra $1 here, $5 there to such and such charity. If I said yes to all, it would literally be hundreds of dollars a month. I know nothing about the charities in question or the tax benefit to the companies asking, I just hit “no” every time.

I dont like the US tipping system. I know its there to stay but it is just another way that companies screw people over.

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