To be surprised by the names of the “posh kids” at DDs school

[marilee]

Hi all, my DD just started primary 1. The catchment area for her new school is super mixed with all the nicest houses in the town but also 2 council areas so a real mix. We live in a council flat, I can’t say I’ve rubbed shoulders with the more middle class half of the town and I grew up in a firmly working class area so this is the first time in my life I’m properly mixing with this group (I know that’s awful but it’s just how life has been for me so far).

I don’t know why but I was expecting all the posh kids to have more extravagant names but almost every single one of them is just a very basic name (James, Harry, Anna, Clara, Emily, Emma etc.). While the names I’d normally have associated as being more “posh” are actually the names of the kids from my area (Rafferty, Arabella, Florence, Theodore).

AIBU to be shocked by this? Is this normal or a little regional quirk?

Agree with this.

There were a lot of Hughs in Ireland, for example, because Hugh was used to translate the Irish name Aodh. I remember seeing a documentary about fishermen in the west of Ireland, mostly elderly men, and every second one seemed to be called Hughie.

Anyone can name their child whatever they want.

Actual wealthy people tend to give their kids basic names so they don't get mocked for being "posh" that's why all the royals have basic names like Harry William Elizabeth etc

How is Louis remotely in the same ball park as James?

Louis is flamboyant and continental. French, even! James is plain, porridge with salt. Very different tone.

It's the same in Wales and probably Ireland. Class obsession is more of an English thing. Rhys, Nia , Cai , Gareth could be rich, poor, underclass or the children of doctors and University professors.

I think it comes back to- whilst colonies were abused by the English, the English were abused by the upper classes. Only we are far behind in recognising it and still well in the Stockholm syndrome/ bootlicking stage.

Interesting comment I read a thread on here the other day where someone said ruby and Amelia were posh names.

Btw actual wealthy people aren't naming their kids raffle. It will be regular names like Charlie William and Harry

Also lols at Catherine wales being “true old money”

“Actual wealthy” people call their children Charlie William Harry so they?

what do you mean by actual wealthy?

I don’t even understand the point of this thread but I hope your kids aren’t at judgy as you. Please don’t pass this down to them.

Absolutely we do need to end this awful behaviour. I am hopeful for a generation who weren’t brought up on “benefits Britain” and demonising teenage mums. But they are being raised by our generation, the worst of which can obviously be seen here.

it’s so emotionally immature too.

What were you expecting? Tarquin Cholmondeley- Warner? 😂

“Wealthy people aren’t naming their kids Raffie”

Think I probably know more about the people I know than you do!

Pretty obvious what I meant. Like the comment above this one said they aren't calling their children Tarquin charlmondey Warner. They don't want to draw excess attention to their children and have them be bullied for being "posh" hence they give them regular names. Even the royals name their kids William Harry and George etc.

There is flamboyant arty posh you know vs boring landed gentry posh. Quite different circles. You will find plenty of more exotic name choices in the former.

You are a snob.

That's what I did, and I think that (Rishi, stop teasing your sisters !!) it has really paid off. They are (Maggie, do NOT make me come over there !!) not at all silly and (Liz, if you're not careful your face will freeze that way !!)

Well, at least baby Archibald Primrose is lovely and statesmanlike.

Alright speak for yourself but In my area the Amelia's, rubys and Alfie's are all pretty upper class 😉

No idea about Scotland but we do not have a 'primary 1' in Ireland.

I am in Ireland myself and just found out today that my kids have old money posh names. They will be utterly delighted sarcasm when I tell them lol

Oh pleeeeease. What a disgusting post.

You might want to visit a council estate and tell your friends how many children are called Raffie, I dont think they'll be pleased given the tone of this thread

That poster obviously isn't aware of the antics that go on at top boarding schools 😬who's going to tell them

I didn't say she had a point, I said she'd made an interesting observation. Two very different things.

What awful behaviour? These threads are interesting. We don't have to read it if we don't want to I was a mum at 16 who has demonised teen mums?
I was also teased at school for having a "posh" name. Don't be sensitive

The lovely thing about schools like this is that the kids see that there is absolutely no fundamental difference between the friend from the council house, and the friend from the 5-bed detached.

It's nice if the parents learn the same.