This isn’t a funny prank is it?

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I’m (f54) really annoyed with my partner (64m). I just called him as he was meant to be back after a couple of hours for a lunchtime drink in town with a bloke from work and that persons friends who I don’t know. Not bothered about him being out later as was just calling to see if he wanted dinner… but someone (who I don’t know) answered the phone and said he’s been taken to hospital. I said “what? Seriously? What’s happened” and he said yeah he’s in hospital. I said you best not be being a dick and he just burst out laughing and passed the phone to my partner who called me back and was annoyed and thinks I’m overreacting. I never call him when he’s out or set any restrictions as he’s an adult but I wanted to check if he wanted dinner making… and as he’s 3 hours late home it gave me a real fright to hear that as I’ve only met the bloke once in passing and I didn’t recognise the voice. My partner is drunk and telling me it was funny and to lighten up.. and have I put my hrt on.. which has made me really annoyed,

aibu - Jokes are meant to be funny surely? I also get to decide what makes me laugh and for all he knew I could be calling to tell him a family member was unwell as I never call when he’s out and he knows this.

His mate's a div. It's not a funny prank for one, especially on the person's partner and especially if you don't know him.

I'd write hubby's comments off as being pissed and trying to get a chuckle out of the lads, but he'd be apologizing.

I think they can be funny if they’re about someone dying or being injured. Jeremy Beadle’s alien prank was superb!

Ew. This would give me the ick. It's stupid and completely unfunny. Surely the advantage to being with someone 10 years older than you (and in their bloody 60s!!) is that they are mature. What's the point of putting up with the downsides of being with a guy that age if he's going to act like a childish little prick?

I loathed Jeremy Beadle. But then I loathe all pranks. I love jokes and wit, but anything more physical leaves me cold. But I am prepared to admit that this might just be me and the way my sense of humour operates! Different people work differently.

He messaged and asked if I wanted to meet him for a drink and I replied no I’m eating. He said fine. So I sent this.

I do not want an argument with you. You all think being cruel and worrying me is funny and everyone I’ve told thinks it was cruel. I never call you and to hear a strange voice saying you’ve been taken to hospital was awful. I believed him. And when I said really he said yes he’s at the hospital now. The man is an utter prick. There’s nothing funny about that. Nothing whatsoever. I’ve had calls like that about loved ones and my blood ran cold as I didn’t know who had answered. To think it could be funny is beyond comprehension.

I know he won’t apologise. He will double down saying it was a laugh.

I do feel really shaken. It took me back to calls about my Dad, my mum and my son being in hospital. It was cruel and I’m grateful for everyone taking the time to reassure me I wasn’t being over sensitive. Hes been very critical of me lately and this just puts the lid on it. But I’m not getting into an argument with him. It’s noted and I’m not going to beg him to see things my way. If he thinks my pain is funny then that’s all I need to know.

He’s replied and said grow up and stop being a drama queen

😪 So he doesn’t care how much his friend hurt you, or care about your emotions or history with similar bad phone calls 😪

I assume this is sarcasm re finding jokes about people being injured or dying funny? Or are you a man, with that username?

I’d be tempted to just not come home one night.

I’m so sorry. It takes you right back to that feeling.

And with the HRT comment, and no apology… I’d be done but not everyone would. It’s all up to you.

Jesus, what a prick. I'm so sorry op, his attitude is appalling. What would it cost him just to say 'oops, sorry love'?

If I were you I wouldn't do a single thing for him from now on. If he has such a low regard for you, why should you cook his dinner, do his laundry, buy his stuff in the shopping? Just stop, let him crack on.

I'd just go somewhere else for the night (or longer) can you do that? Don;t bother telling him where you are and when or if you will be back. Give yourself some space away from him to decide whether you want to be with this absolute arsehole. He's disgusting and doesn't actually give a shit about upsetting you.

It’s my house. I’m tempted to put him out but I can’t lock the door to stop him using his key. It’s a utlion lock

I'd reply and say "if you think that was being a drama queen, how's this - don't bother coming back, I'll put your clothes in a bag on the door step in the morning you can pick them up and put your key through the letterbox"

Ang get the locks changed.

It’s your house and you’re not married- so in the morning, you can ask him to leave if that’s what you want?

Was going to say this. I think me and my friend actually did this to one of our Mum’s. I still feel a pang of guilt when I think about it now.

I would suggest to stop saying you are hurt or trying to make him feel sorry. Instead, ignore him and dont do anything for him. Plan some time away, by yourself, and if he complaints tell him to grow up and stop wining.

Better still - show him the door. Say you gone off him, sorry, but your vagina clamped shut and will not be welcoming him anymore.

I can’t afford the mortgage without his rent tbh. But don’t worry, I’m making plans. I was going to show him this thread to make him see how wrong he is but that doesn’t change anything.

I would be very tempted t tell him to fuck off and go sleep somewhere else after that comment.

Get a lodger.

yeah I think he gets a kick out of me being hurt. I will just say I’ve been thinking and maybe it would have been useful to be admitted to hospital as you’d have somewhere to stay 🤣

i will just reiterate that pranking went out in the 70s before I was born. He’s very sensitive about getting old.

Tbh it would be a bloke most likely and I just want my own space.

hes home now. Pissed

Don't do anything for him, just leave him alone to sort himself out.

And definitely do not be doing his laundry or cooking meals for him for the next few days.

I think he has to go really, life is too short isn’t it.