On holiday and they’ve taken the key and won’t answer their phone

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On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset.

Today we decided to do different things.

Normally I’ve had the apartment key when we’ve gone out together, but I asked them to pop it in the key safe this time. For whatever reason, they didn’t — and with their phone switched off I can’t get hold of them.

I’m making the best of it with a quiet day to myself, but I can’t help feeling a bit upset. It’s left me feeling quite stuck, literally and figuratively. I can’t leave the apartment! I’d never want to make someone else feel like that.

Any advice on how to handle the rest of the trip without letting this sour everything?

I needed a good laugh 😆

Honestly I would go home. Who is this person?

🤣

You could pack and go home.

The sister has already told us off for laughing.
We've been told this thread isn’t for our entertainment by her….

Surely everyone is happy now though, all in the apartment together. It is late.

Too much 'they' and 'them', it's one person who is presumably a he or a she.

Should have read more of the thread before posting.

Sorry, why would you go on holiday with someone like this?

IF you thought that your sister was going to stay in why did you need to take the key? Also why didn't you just ask hervwhat her plans were before you left?

@Thefastandthecurious5

phone off/refusing to answer = upthrust fingers

I would have used the time they were out to pack, let the door lock behind you and find a hotel to stay in.

Their behaviour is totally unacceptable and massively selfish. I really wouldn’t be spending any more time with them until I’d had a heartfelt apology.

Exactly! And who wants to stay indoors all day whilst on holiday!?

"On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset."

"There is a key safe that they have refused to use so it’s not an accident. It’s very much their way or the highway. the door is self locking so I would have to wedge something in between it to be able to leave. They are on a day trip and have refused to come back early to let me out! I told them about the key safe repeatedly and they won’t use it."

"They’ve said it was “safer” for them to take the keys so they would have the option to return to the apartment. Whereas as I obviously don’t have that option…"

There's a reason you "don’t always see eye to eye" - they're abusive. They know exactly what they have done, and they have done it deliberately.

Do not give this family member the tools to abuse you. Never let thm be in possession of the key again. Never. Lock it into the keysafe under a code they don't know (the code can be changed). Wear it round your neck if you have to.

And if possible, I would just exit this holiday altogether. Holidays are meant to be restful and fun, you are going to be on edge waiting for the next shitty behaviour from them - that's not a holiday. I wonder if putting you on edge was their aim, to make it clear to you that they are more important (in their eyes anyway) than you.

This is utterly batshit hilarious. Well done 😆

Are you okay? Do you feel safe with your sister? (who BTW, you went to lengths to avoid identifying)

I just want to know what a key safe is

The Unchuckle Sisters
Not to me
Not to you

Its a safe
You put a key in

I don't understand why you wouldn't have 2 keys. If they told me there was only 1 key available, I would take the key down to the local locksmith and have another made then turn that in with the original key when we leave. Luckily all the places I stay use key cards or digital locks so I don't have to worry about it.
If I was leaving for the whole day I would leave the key with the person staying in. If they happened to be out when I got back, I'd just call them.

Go out and do what you want for the day.

Ask the accommodation for another key.

It's bonkers that there is only one key.
Every day do exactly what you want but be polite to holiday friend.
Be responsible for your own enjoyment of the trip.

Regardless of who has the key the other one should communicate via phone to the accommodation owner and request that they let you into your rooms, every time, if they will not recommend using the key safe.

But the keys should have been left with the person who was most likely to have been nearest the apartment for the day.

Did they have a tug of war with you last night?
Someone needs to take you to timpsons.

You are simply a travel companion for this person, someone to pay half towards accommodation etc. They have no consideration for you in terms of being able to access the apartment as and when you want to other than when they’re there to facilitate this. They are making you a prisoner in your own existence.

Don’t you see how they are using you? Pack your stuff and find another hotel and don’t go away with this manipulative, controlling individual again!