On holiday and they’ve taken the key and won’t answer their phone

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On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset.

Today we decided to do different things.

Normally I’ve had the apartment key when we’ve gone out together, but I asked them to pop it in the key safe this time. For whatever reason, they didn’t — and with their phone switched off I can’t get hold of them.

I’m making the best of it with a quiet day to myself, but I can’t help feeling a bit upset. It’s left me feeling quite stuck, literally and figuratively. I can’t leave the apartment! I’d never want to make someone else feel like that.

Any advice on how to handle the rest of the trip without letting this sour everything?

Well if that other poster really is your sister Op she sounds a nightmare.

Hope you get away asap!

The obvious thing to do would have been leave the key with you & you use the keysafe if necessary.

You're on holiday with a controlling arse

Have you paid your share of the holiday?

It will be the machines in the airport where you have to put them on the conveyor belt to weigh them and then it prints out the tag for you to attach, then it tells you to press the button to activate the belt. You can’t take it off the belt in the middle and nobody else can use it during the process. So nobody would be thinking that.

I would be reading them the riot act on their return and insisting on them either using the key safe or leaving the key with me. Then forget the ‘reset’ and never go on holiday with them again.

And to answer your question unless they agree to use the key safe it will ‘sour’ the rest of the holiday because it means you won’t be able to go out. It’s mean, controlling, batshit behaviour and you need to call them out on it.

No men were harmed in the making of this thread.

I’d go home! That’s how I’d handle it. Leaving the apartment door wide open as I left…

LTK

Take the key off them when they get back and don't let them have it back. This is abusive behaviour.

How completely ridiculous. Did you get the key from the keysafe when you arrived?

When I went away with my sister, there was one key. If one of us was doing something without the other the last one out left it in the keysafe as we are not asshats.

It's hardly being a martyr

Instinct tells me the family member will be unhappy about them doing this (undermines their control) and if something did happen then they would blame OP

I’m beginning to wonder if such bogus enquiries are attempts to research human behaviour for the purposes of a self-published book. Hoping to elicit other people’s similar experiences, plagiarism for the use of.
(Whereas surely only a blithering idiot would choose a holiday such as this as the ideal opportunity to put right a fractured family relationship.)

Gosh, how do you feel about all the super aggressive advice the mums nutters are giving your sister about you?

You have several options OP:

• leave and go stay somewhere else
• call the owner for a second key
• lock the door and leave taking you passport and other things, come back when they are back

But really, why are you putting up with this? Who tf is this person to treat you like this?

I agree, there was an almost identical post recently but that was the man who’d left his partner and children in the apartment because they’d had a snack and wasn’t ready for dinner, or some such shite.
It’s getting tedious

Last person to leave takes the key - your sister has serious control issues. I would do as people suggest though and go and do something lovely with your day, bring a book and get back in when your sister gets home. No point in staying in all day!

I really need to know what the owner’s rationale for not leaving the key in the key safe was.

I just want to know where the OP is now. Has the mad sister hog-tied her and gone out on the piss? Murdered her and hidden the body in the (unlockable) wardrobe? Sold her to camel traders?

I mean - it's not like they could be the same person is it so something's going on.

Leave a large window slightly open so you can enter if you need. Take your passport with you

I'm struggling to believe the owner went to all the trouble of installing a key safe only to tell guests not to use it.

A couple of issues:

1. Why have you gone on holiday with someone you don't get on with and who does not appear to respect you much?

2. Why on earth do you only have one key? When DH and I go away anywhere, either to a hotel or self-catering, we always ask to have enough keys/key cards to have one each. So we each have the freedom to come and go as we wish.

Is there a reception or concierge you can phone or visit to get another key or are you not in that type of accommodation?

This sounds very badly planned. You are probably with a very self absorbed person (your DH??) and it will never work. Don't go on holiday with them again.

Did you discuss this with your sister? Why wouldn't you go back and give her the key when she wanted to go out?

I think I'd be pretty firm with the owner and tell them you had to have some means of being able to go out separately, therefore her choice was to supply another key or agree to the key safe being used.

So why don't you just go out, and come back when they're back and you can get in?

Be fair. It could be a decretive key safe. Just there to look nice

This trip would be over for me. How utterly selfish. Take your items and leave the door unlocked. Go and stay in a hotel.