On holiday and they’ve taken the key and won’t answer their phone

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On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset.

Today we decided to do different things.

Normally I’ve had the apartment key when we’ve gone out together, but I asked them to pop it in the key safe this time. For whatever reason, they didn’t — and with their phone switched off I can’t get hold of them.

I’m making the best of it with a quiet day to myself, but I can’t help feeling a bit upset. It’s left me feeling quite stuck, literally and figuratively. I can’t leave the apartment! I’d never want to make someone else feel like that.

Any advice on how to handle the rest of the trip without letting this sour everything?

Fuck that. I'd be booking somewhere else or going home.

You get treated how you allow people to treat you. Are you completely powerless here OP?

Why did you go on holiday with them? Is it your mother by any chance?

I think I'd just let it be soured. They're obviously abusive why should you pretend they're not?

When did we stop saying 'relative' and change it to 'family member'?

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I’m thinking husband….

Don't be a dick yourself. Go out, bring your valuables with you. If they are not back when YOU get back then leave and go elsewhere. That's what I would do, and if it did turn out to be a mistake on relative's part, start again. But one more incident of any sort and l'd leave immediately.

Someone must be able to supply you with a spare key. What if you both were out and access was required for a fire or some other emergency. Come on there is a way.....

I’m taking a wild guess that this is your mum and that you have had a lifetime of this shit?

But, I would just go out and explore. Get dinner. Enjoy time alone. Come back later on when they will definitely be back. If they message and ask where you are, ignore them.

So just get what you need for the day and go out? Not sure i understand why you’d need to sit in and waste a day of your holiday, surely you’re not continuously back and forward to your room but out and about most days on holiday anyway

I agree with this. Just leave and have the rest if the holiday happily by yourself. Its ridiculous to be held hostage by this person.

If you are abroad I'd just pack a bag with what I need for the day and evening and not go home till this evening. Day on the beach or whatever then on to a beach bar or somewhere for some dinner and cocktails. If it happens again id be tempted to book another room for myself somewhere and leave them to it.

I run an holiday key and there’s obviously a spare key somewhere. Not the agency but the cleaner would if course have one. I’d be contacting the owner.
When your relative returns I’d say it was totally unfair of them, esoyogctgey were on a day trip so wouldn’t be back! Though why didn’t you discuss plans beforehand? If they wanted the key so desperately why not say ok but meet me back here at X? Though their refusal to use the lockbox has just been an inconvenience to all. I’d certainly have words and never go away with this person again.

I'm thinking mother too. OP, this is very unkind and possibly even unsafe. I'd pack my bags and leave if I was you. They've literally held you hostage which is unforgiveable. Grab your stuff, passport etc and go. Leave them a note explaining that you were extremely upset and unsettled by their behaviour.

Is this you with the sister and the luggage tag at the airport the other day?

How did they refuse if not answered the phone?

Seriously I would pack my bags, leave the apartment and go home. Let them return to an empty place and wonder where you are. Then don’t answer your phone.

Are you on holiday holiday as in abroad, or a few hours away? I’d honestly consider going home, no arguments, just a ‘I’m very wrecked, this wasn’t the holiday I thought it would be’ or something similar

So would I, but now I’m in my 50’s I put up with a lot less nonsense than I used to (the only benefit of ageing as far as I can see!).

If its self locking then no problem.

Just grab your stuff and go out for the day.

Absolutely no need to stay in.

Take documentation that you've rented it and ID then if friend isnt back later the staff could let you in.

Thats very controlling. Can you get another key? Or go out when you know they will be back within a hour or so and atleast get some fresh air.
Is it your partner?

punch to the throat when they get back?
prob not

Say firmly: if you don't put the key in the safe, i will go out and leave the door wide open.

And never go anywhere with them again where you have to rely on them not to be a knob. Tell them this.

dick move, sis.

The solution is straightforward surely ?
Pack all your stuff and leave , either go to another hotel or home or anywhere but don’t go back there.
You're giving this person all the power , take it back !

If you can afford it, move out and find another hotel or come home

If you really cannot afford it, make it the very last time EVER you go anywhere with them

Why are the pair of you communicating by posting threads on Mumsnet about each other?