Why are my twins so much more chaotic than other toddlers

[Cokefirst]

I have 17 month old twin boys, they are CHAOS.
We used to be able to go for a quick brunch and wonder around shops as a family and bring them home for naptime, but now it’s just tantrums and throwing food and screaming.

They don’t let us go out and do anything. I don’t take them to events etc because they’d be too rowdy. They babble a lot but aren’t saying more than a couple words yet so I understand they get frustrated they can’t say what they want, but it’s gone so chaotic so quickly.

I have 2 other friends with toddlers (not twins) around the same ages and they are both toddler girls, and they are so well behaved. Just an odd whinge here and there but they sit eat listen and just let their mums do their outings.

I don’t know what to do or if I’m being unreasonable in comparing my boys to those girls. I can’t even parent them properly yet as they can’t understand when to be quiet and calm down.

I tied them together. Sewed a wrist strap to make it shorter, secured them together with it and then another one strapping me to the least cooperative one. It's the only way I could ever take them anywhere once they were out of the buggy. Fuckers take off in different directions otherwise.

This.

Mine are now 5. And we are only now starting to enjoy (as opposed to endure under duress) family meals out.

Twins are totally different to two standard sibling children. Awesome and bloody awful in equal measure. Our non twin DC were a walk in the park in comparison. I firmly believe mums of triplets should be awarded an OBE in the delivery suite.

It gets easier, I promise. I remember when ours were about 3, losing my absolute shit because we'd dared to do something as exotic and luxurious as a trip to Wickes. We only wanted a tape measure and to look at the flooring. DTwins bolted. We couldn't find boy twin for a good 2 mins and it was awful. He was inside a fucking vanity unit cupboard. Girl twin was screaming. We went home. Tape-less, naturally. I lost it when we got in the car, properly yelling at everyone, out of sheer frustration that even the mere attempt to buy a tape measure had to be such a fiasco.

We managed a carvery recently. This was the stuff of dreams 2 years ago.

Sending love and solidarity 😁

I think a pair of toddlers creates the work of 5 individuals ones.