I always remember I met up with my best friend from childhood as an adult and she has a job in illustration and I said “oh yes I remember you were always amazing at drawing as a kid. I wish I could draw” and she said “you used to say that when we were kids but you just sat next to me and never drew”.
And she’s right. There I was not ever putting any effort in at all and acting as if she’d magically got good at drawing even when I watched her draw constantly as a child and I knew she’d studied for years after too.
I am now decently good at chess and ironically it annoys me when people tell me I am lucky I have a logical brain or get irritated when they cannot beat me even though they only just know the rules.
Can you imagine the hours of playing, reading, studying, tactics practice, learning openings? I was absolutely not a natural chess genius. I’d say compared to the average person who specifically has an interest in chess I was a bit worse. I’m not ever going to be a grandmaster but I am better than pretty much anyone I meet outside of those who are very into the hobby.
Natural talent does exist in some ways but it’s only really relevant to the very top level - the best in the world. For everyone else who is good and who makes money out of things, they just practised. A lot.
It’s the same for everything. So many of us talk like people woke up one day and won the skill lottery. Like they stepped up to a piano and did a little tune. Completely ignoring the years and years of practicing and getting things wrong and keeping on going every single day. Every single day is a lot. It’s not like my uncle taught me three blind mice on holiday and I found I had a knack for it. It’s imagining every time you’ve had dinner since you were a kid. They’ve practised as often as that. That is so much.
I dreaded opening this thread as Mumsnet isn’t often the place to be earnest or proud of something you do but actually a lot of posts have been quite nice or neutral.
I don’t know anything about photography so I cannot help. I’m baffled though that you’d think they must be so bad you’d be embarrassed to learn with other amateurs. They’re really just perfectly normal photographs. Why would you know as much as people who have learned all the theory?