AIBU to feel convinced that most people view crying, even if it's an appropriate/logical response to a stressful or upsetting situation, as being soemthing that is inherently shameful or a sign that someone is a weak person?

[Nonoanddefintelyno]

As an adult, I feel much more pressure to not openly show my emotions compared to when I was younger. I often get the sense that generally most people's consensus on crying/showing emotion is that you should never cry over a small upset or just because you're having a day where your hormones are making your emotions much more pronounced. I feel like the only time crying isnt seen as being completely weak as a human behaviour is in exceptional circumstances, such as if someone is going through three or four highly traumatic situations all at once. For example, it sounds completely moronic but I got caught in a rain storm earlier, I went to the group where I have my outreach wellbeing meet up on a Wednesday each week, but I was completely soaked when I arrived and honestly when i got into the building i felt close to tears and i could feel my voice going blubbery/shaky when i walked in because i just felt like i must have looked so unkempt when i arrived with my clothes and shoes sopping wet etc. i tend to honestly cry at least once most days, although I usually try and do it with some discretion so only around people I trust or if someone else is also crying then it feels safer to do. If im being brutally honest, I feel like on past occasions when I've been in the company of people who have a "happy go lucky"/seemingly endlessly positive attitude towards life, I've felt like if i were to express any "sad" or difficult emotions through crying, in front of them, that i'd get criticized or slandered for not being able to match their same happy, carefree, positive attitude

I agree, OP. Crying over trivial things is seen as a but pathetic.

I love a cry, but I’d not do it at work or in any environment where I felt embarrassed to do so.

Being able to control yourself is part of being an adult. Most adults don’t openly cry because they stub their toe, or something goes wrong at work - that would be childish and inappropriate.

Crying everyday over small things is a worrying sign.

Sometimes it's last straw thing on a shit day and you've held it in. Or you've been holding emotion in for a long time. Crying at an outreach wellbeing group should surely be ok? I've cried at trivial things but it's rarely about that thing.

Generally strong emotions need an outlet, particularly anger, frustration and sadness. Sometimes you have to hold it in at one time, but a lot of bad things happen when people bottle emotions up, are not emotionally literate, can't work out why they feel that way or don't have an outlet or someone to talk to.

Like being a parent of young children is so hard as you have to hold yourself in at home and at work and don't always have time to process how you feel, you are knackered, you are the last person on your own list and your patience reserves can wear thin. I became depressed as a result and suffered from stress and anxiety.

Honestly yes. I probably would judge someone as lacking resilience if they cried because they got wet in the rain
Im also old school enough to believe that crying frequently at work is unprofessional.

Agreed

It is...but for some people a strong emotion is not getting what they want, whereas for others it is the death of a parent. I would class crying because you are experiencing a strong emotional reaction to not getting what you want, for example, as a sign of weakness.

I got caught in a rain storm earlier, I went to the group where I have my outreach wellbeing meet up on a Wednesday each week, but I was completely soaked when I arrived and honestly when i got into the building i felt close to tears and i could feel my voice going blubbery/shaky when i walked in because i just felt like i must have looked so unkempt when i arrived with my clothes and shoes sopping wet etc.

I think the example you have given is weakness, crying because you got caught in the rain and thought you looked a mess doesn’t seem like a reason to cry.
I think sometimes it’s weakness and sometimes it’s not, just depends on the situation

Absolutely this! Can't stand the emotional vampires who manipulate people with their 'poor me, poor me' tears and use it to get out of work tasks.