Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

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I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

My brother. Been a drug addict for 15 years, constantly on the edge of society. Just lost his job. Asks us all for money, self pitying the world owes him something. He has the audacity to be annoyed that I have a mortgage and car but I hold down a job and have always worked hard. I’ve lost patience with him.

One of my mum friends complains she has no time to herself, but despite being a single mum she has more childcare from her parents and her ex MIL than anyone I know. She says she can’t do exercise but on her free nights and days sits on the sofa watching trash telly eating chocolate.

Ah I feel better now 🤣 I’m going to hell!

I have a similar situation in my family & there were lot's of 'proud of you' quotes on Facebook. I wanted to write what? Proud of what? Getting pregnant at 17 with no job, money or home? Dad is unemployed as well & baby number 2 is now on the way. FFS!

I've been suspecting my dad had a bit of a problem with drink for a while but not on the level of alcoholic. He's always been a bit useless and never put me first.

Recently asked him to pick me and my daughter up from hospital as we'd gone in by ambulance so didn't have the car. Dd has a life limiting condition and is 6. He oohed and ahhed, said he supposed he could miss having a drink that night (I rang him at 4pm to ask if he could pick us up at 8pm once the dr signed us off for home leave). He made a huge fuss about being unsure where to pick us up from, it was sunday so quiet and he works at the same hospital we were at! He huffed and puffed. I told him to forget it and we'd get a taxi. He definitely would have come but I also know he would purposely have been late/parked in an awkward place/been funny with us. I'm from a family where people are made to feel dreadful when they say they felt hurt by something.

I won't say anything, but have definitely been pulling away from them for a while now. I will never treat my DD like that.

They’re not like fully open but they’re not fully closed and you can just see the whites of his eyes so he kind of looks like he’s possessed. I might tell him on my deathbed but I haven’t decided yet.

That is a very good point. So much so it may even stop me getting annoyed in the future - thank you!!

My DH scratching his balls - gives me the absolute ick!

People who think of themselves as very empathetic but can only empathise with people who have the exact same problem as they do.

Eg sister in law suffers with anxiety which, by nature, comes with irrational worries.But if someone expresses anxiety about something she doesn’t share herself she’s not very understanding. It’s hard to give a specific example but imagine a person with a severe phobia of clowns who cannot go to certain public places in case a clown is there. She posts statuses about how disabling this is and shares events to spread awareness. Then she meets someone with a phobia of dogs and tells them that it’s silly and dogs are amazing and that they should just understand that the dog won’t hurt them. It’s not that but it’s along those lines in terms of baffling hypocrisy.

MIL (unrelated to SIL - the other side) is similar in that she thinks her exact experiences are normal and anything else is very strange.

She has various neurosis, is quite emotionally open and often talks about and reflects on her childhood. She often says “I’ve always been a bit like X because my mum always used to Y” which I initially assumed meant she was quite self aware.

But if anyone else shares anything from their own life that’s different she acts really shocked in a way that feels a bit uncomfortable.

As an example, she might share that her own own parents wouldn’t let her ride a bike as they were so scared of her falling off. She knows it’s irrational but shares it as a somewhat interesting anecdote and laughs it off. She says it’s just “how they were”.

But if I mention in passing that my family would only eat together at the table about half the time growing up, she acts as if it’s the craziest thing she’s ever heard and like my family is extremely dysfunctional or it is terribly sad that I grew up that way.

It’s really uncomfortable because she loves to have these really intense chats sharing stories from the past but I cannot share even passing mundane comments about myself or family or I feel like an alien. Or like I am speaking badly of my family.

A couple of her own family have a chronic but often misunderstood illness and she is always complaining about people making ignorant comments or not being understanding but when it comes to another illness that someone we know has, she is the worst for making ignorant comments or implying they’re being lazy.

The irony is that she’s training to be a therapist and I can only imagine her sitting gasping in horror at everyone who speaks to her.

Woman I sit next to at work with the fake nails, the sound of them tapping on the keyboard 😱

On the other side of me I have a woman who literally eats all day - 6 packets of crisps, share size M&Ms, 5 pack of doughnuts, 2 rounds of sandwiches, Haribo etc. She's slim so she can, but the constant eating is hard for me who due to a medical condition must not gain weight.

I want to work from home 😂

Put it in the oven on some bread, you get garlic bread 😀

That’s even worse 🤣🤣🤣 god love him.

I used to work with a child who did this. His mum used to say that he looked like a vampire 🧛‍♂️

The Israeli government.

Heavily filtered "glamour" shots constantly posted on social media, mainly FB, followed by numerous comments of , lush hun, stunning, " gawjus" etc.

It's not real!!

Genius

Your friend isn't worried about inconveniencing and upsetting you.

I wouldn't risk being late to wait for them. I probably would put up with a slow walk back if 9 didn't have anything on.

It's just a conversation. If they really would hold a grudge because your timetables don't align, you are better off.

I would say, "Hey, when schools starts, I will be leaving at X time. If I don't see you by then, I will see you at school." Then "that's not going to work for me". And stick to your guns.

I have a close friend that was late for everything. We used to meet up at soft play and the cinema with the DC when they were small. I told them twice that it bothered me that we were all kept waiting. The third time, I said I would be starting on time and would see them there. They were late, we left when we said we were going to. I only ever arrange to be places that it doesn't matter if they are late. I don't alter my plans to fit in with their rudeness.

Laughing/cackling about nothing, eg after every sentence.

Loud uncovered yawning.

Poor grammar and I don't mean the odd typo.

Nosiness.

We were/are pregnant (even worse, 'when we was pregnant').

Constantly referring to a baby as 'Baby'.

Holiday cards.

Stupid Mumsnet abbreviations.

Xenophobia.

I feel your pain. Why is it always me who makes the decisions? In every aspect of my bloody life!

Sidebeforeself
Ooh another one! Don’t know how to describe this , but people who always offer an explanation - no matter how outlandish - for something that you are moaning about. For example, if I moan that someone has parked across two spaces, instead of saying “Yeah, what an inconsiderate git”, they say something like “ Maybe they had a medical emergency and had to pull up quickly” etc etc. My BF does this all the time and it makes me want to scream!

I do this generally because the thing the other person is giving out about I have done in an emergency, when I didn’t realise it etc and then you hear someone say ‘die all people who do this, selfish assholes’ so you feel the need to let them know

@RJ2023
Oh God, I feel your pain.
I worked in a multi-national team and was frequently asked to proofread texts.
At one point, I half-jokingly said, if I see the word synergy or synergies one more time, I'm going to stop reading and correcting. The End.

I had a wonderful Pattie boy, lost him last year at the age of 16. He was an absolute ball of limitless energy and mischief (in other words an extremely lovable little SHIT) and I always remember when he was being desexed at the age of 15 months, asking the vet if it would calm him down any. He looked at the dog, looked at me and said flatly "he's a Patterdale. No."

He did eventually calm down when he was 12 or so...

Edited due to spelling mistake.

A parent that can choose to be stay at home parents because they don’t necessary need the income. Gosh I’d so love to have that be a choice in my life but unfortunately we need two incomes in this house just to pay the bills.

My colleague being incompetent and so creating more work for others to pick up.

Dangerous in my line of work and, apparently, not noticed until I've started making noise about it.

Why do you sleep in the same bed?

My friends are the same, when I offer options 'I don't mind, whatever', but then when I choose, 'oh, hmmm, maybe not there though'. 😑

Maybe they don't want to meet up 😂

She's nearly eleven. I look forward to the calming down stage arriving...