Page 7 | Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

pinknailvarnish1 · 2025-08-26T16:12:38+00:00

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH). MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the *very* best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves. My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it. Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying! And breathe...... Anyone else?

DeadMemories · 26/08/2025 19:20

My dad has been in and out of hospital lately, going to the ER pretty much daily. Parents are in their 70s otherwise fit and healthy. My dad drives them to the hospital then my mum rings me to bring her home.

it takes me over an hour to get there and back, she rings at 7am or 11pm then complains it took me ages to get to her, sometimes I have been eating my dinner and she rings, sometimes it’s twice a day I have to go and get her and it’s caused issues with DH getting pissed off. My mum can drive but refuses to and won’t take a taxi, she doesn’t need taxis she just rings me. A few times I have just got in from work and I go straight back out knowing I won’t get home for another 90 minutes due to the traffic.

I do it for my dad, he worries about how my mum will get home, gets very het up and stressed, my dad would do anything for anyone so I do it for him. My mum wouldn’t cross the road to help anyone.

ShiftingSand · 26/08/2025 19:22

speckledfens · 26/08/2025 18:09

Distant family member has just been made a “nanny” at 34. Announced on FB.
The 16 year old daughter who is pregnant was removed from her care as a toddler, for a year or so. Did not attend school for the last two years despite school attendance officers visiting ect. So no social skills, no importance of education, just sat at home in a flat on benefits vaping and morbidly obese. No prospects, nothing.
To make it worse, this whole child’s life she has constantly demanded pets- hamsters, rabbits, g pigs, dogs, cats. She gets them, and they are either dead or rehomed within 3 months. So my hopes aren’t high for a baby tbh.

Anyway pregnancy is announced on FB, I’m going to be a nanny at 34 ect. Along come the swarms of comments “ahhh congratulations hun” ect ect ect

Pisses me off that nobody is saying what we’re all thinking.
You failed your kid.

Looks like it’s going to be rinse and repeat for the next generation 😐

DahliaJug · 26/08/2025 19:22

StepsInTime · 26/08/2025 19:16

It is grammatically correct but if it’s just statement why include it all? Just ask me your question. You are
more likely to get an answer as I won’t be pissed off :)

it is about useful as saying it’s raining outside.

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Well, I don’t disagree, but phrasing it as a question is just another distraction from whatever the point of the email or letter is anyway.

Charabanc · 26/08/2025 19:22

MyDogHumpsThings · 26/08/2025 18:57

I realised I’m going to get flamed for this, but I despise all of the mumsnet acronyms! All of them, all the time. I hate them.

My pet hate is people who think that initial are acronyms.

CluelessAboutBiology · 26/08/2025 19:22

@JustPassingThruHere you lost 16 stone? That’s amazing, well done.

@AgentPidge “Nibbles” is a hamster’s name, not food.

Namechangerage · 26/08/2025 19:22

arcticpandas · 26/08/2025 19:09

She doesn't really exist, she's just following a script of "how perfect middle class mothers behave on trains". I bet her poo smells like bliss as well because she will have an anus attached fragrance spreader. You just can't compete with that.

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Yes!! It always feels quite performative to me. I do envy the slim bit 🤣

Kingsleadhat · 26/08/2025 19:23

AgentPidge · 26/08/2025 18:39

I agree with you. Also, "nibbles". They both make me want to punch the person saying it.

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And even worse, nibbly bits

Cherrysoup · 26/08/2025 19:23

JustPassingThruHere · 26/08/2025 18:47

My MIL only asks after me as a lure to trauma dump on me and if I don't beg her faux problem from her or seem sorry enough about her pathetic non issues she blanks me and never even gives me a chance to address her fake concern about how I'm doing. 6 weeks or so, 25 plus years, rinse and repeat.

DH has inherited his parents idiocy. Short fuse, lives to complain and do nothing to sort issues but puts others down who do the same as deflection.

DD is a princess. Never had hardship and will make my life hell to ensure this remains the case.

Mother is 25+ stone, complains about aches and pains but swears she eats 1000 calories max a day.

I'M SO FED UP so I tell DH I need some space to get away from the negativity. Might book myself a few days away somewhere, so he asks if I want to go for a coffee with him?????

NO NO NO NO NO

Thanks for listening

Do it, it’ll be brilliant!

Sogfree · 26/08/2025 19:24

cheesecurdsandgravy · 26/08/2025 17:26

I work with children and young people with disabilities.

There is nothing that I find more infuriating than parents who are exaggerating their children’s needs because they want more benefit money/respite care/to excuse their own crap parenting.

I regularly fantasise about telling them they’re talking shit and that everyone knows it. But, instead, I am limited to writing careful worded reports which are simply added to everyone else’s carefully written reports because there is absolutely no way that we have the time/energy to divert to fight their bullshit.

You've said it far more eloquently than I could.

The parent whose 9 year old child we toilet trained at school deserves my highest wrath, as she refused to support us at home and insisted we went back to nappies in school because of "his anxiety". Aka her benefits claim.

lotsofpatience · 26/08/2025 19:25

MNeters that start their theads by announcing they are long time users but they have cnanged their username.
Nobody gives a shit! Do you think we'd pay less attention if you were a newbie??? Give over.

Sharkpenis · 26/08/2025 19:25

cheesecurdsandgravy · 26/08/2025 17:26

I work with children and young people with disabilities.

There is nothing that I find more infuriating than parents who are exaggerating their children’s needs because they want more benefit money/respite care/to excuse their own crap parenting.

I regularly fantasise about telling them they’re talking shit and that everyone knows it. But, instead, I am limited to writing careful worded reports which are simply added to everyone else’s carefully written reports because there is absolutely no way that we have the time/energy to divert to fight their bullshit.

This is so frustrating because I had professionals fighting for any respite, id have been happy for an hour and not getting it. I was told that I was a good mum and I put them first and advocated for the children.

I begged for help. Got nothing

LlamaNoDrama · 26/08/2025 19:26

People who stop miles away from the give way/stop line (no cycle section). Why has everyone started doing this?

people at work who moan about others not pulling their weight, when they also don't pull their weight.

dsis who moans about being skint and how she has no pension set aside yet is constantly abroad and posting about unnecessary lavish things no one needs. It's no one else's fault she prioritises holidays over pension payments.

smallpinecone · 26/08/2025 19:27

Mumof2amazingasdkiddos · 26/08/2025 18:59

Fucking hell I've read some mental stuff on here over the years but this is top 5, no screw that its first place gold medal crazy!! I'm not sure getting a gold medal from a complete stranger on the Internet will help take any of the sting out of this nasty comment but you have my utter sympathy for having to deal with such a self absorbed absurd woman!

I hope you are doing well love and you've kinda proven her point and been cured!

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Thank you for the good wishes, I really appreciate that! 🌸 Well on the road to recovery now.

I’d forgotten she said it until the PP reminded me with their self-centred in-laws! She repeated that comment to my mum, who was much more upset than me, not knowing my MIL well at the time. Takes all sorts to make a world, I guess!

cheesecurdsandgravy · 26/08/2025 19:28

MickGeorge22 · 26/08/2025 18:29

Is that not being complicit in benefit fraud though?

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No, I absolutely would draw the line at that! My role is within education.

Whilst I am contacted sometimes by assessors for DLA/respite, I can only give what I see (and can evidence) in school.

Unfortunately however, unscrupulous parents who know that we have no right to say that we disagree with their experience of the child as we cannot see them in their own home exploit this.

All we can say is that we do not see XYZ in school but that they may present differently at home (as all children/YP do!). Unscrupulous parents can, and do, use this as leverage to ask for XYZ provision because they know it cannot possibly be verified.

OhHellolittleone · 26/08/2025 19:28

A friend likes to walk to do pickup together. My house is on her way so she says she’ll pick me up, fine. But evvverrry time she’s late which then messes with my timings for my younger child. I’ve tried leaving without her and texting but she’ll say ‘stop at the corner I’ll only be a second!’ Or she’ll not reply so I feel rude. I also hate walking back with her as her child is soooo slow, which makes my child slow and it infuriates me. But she’s nice and it’s not a reason to not be friend. Husband said to just tell her we can’t walk together, but he doesn’t realise she’d be upset and it would affect our friendship! But omg it’s annoying.

Sharkpenis · 26/08/2025 19:29

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/08/2025 17:27

My chicken Kiev leaked all the buttery juice all over the foil and I'm absolutely distraught 😳.

Cook it upside down and it shouldn't leak

Momstermash94 · 26/08/2025 19:29

People who bring up mistakes you made over 15 years ago when you were a teenager, despite the fact you have grown massively and matured considerably since then.

smallpinecone · 26/08/2025 19:29

Sogfree · 26/08/2025 19:24

You've said it far more eloquently than I could.

The parent whose 9 year old child we toilet trained at school deserves my highest wrath, as she refused to support us at home and insisted we went back to nappies in school because of "his anxiety". Aka her benefits claim.

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Oh no…. that’s truly awful. Poor little lad! Some people don’t deserve children do they 😢

SpanThatWorld · 26/08/2025 19:32

outingouting · 26/08/2025 17:26

I am completely BU and obviously can’t repeat this IRL but I’m currently next to a middle class Boden mum on the train who is driving me potty with her perfection.

Her son’s eating vegetables and nuts (tomatoes!!! Pistachios!!), he’s well behaved - adorable, in fact, they’re on their way to daddy who is cooking dinner for them (‘aren’t we lucky, Oscar!’) she’s got designer jeans on, pronounces her Ts, has a clean buggy, is pretty and slim. And I wish she’d just fuck right off and stop reminding me some people are just better at life!

I once sat on a bus with a woman who had given her toddler a snack pot full of celery and pak choi.

"Do you want some celery, Mummy?"

I want YOU to have that celery. I LOVE celery but I had SO MUCH celery before I came to get you that I want YOU to have ALL of that celery.

I think we were on that bus for about half an hour and not for 2 minutes did she stop with her paean to celery. Which, as well as know, is the food of Beelzebub.

MyDogHumpsThings · 26/08/2025 19:35

Charabanc · 26/08/2025 19:22

My pet hate is people who think that initial are acronyms.

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Another one of mine is people who forget to pluralise or make minor typographical errors…

smallpinecone · 26/08/2025 19:35

Can I also say crumbs.

FUCKING CRUMBS. They drive me mad. Especially when I've just vacuumed the whole house, and I have to do it daily. The sight of them in the corner of the kitchen makes my blood boil.

iamnotalemon · 26/08/2025 19:36

Catsandcannedbeans · 26/08/2025 18:54

DH sleeps with his eyes open. It’s fucking weird and it looks gross, but I’ve never said anything because he used to get up earlier than me so I didn’t see because his ex used to be mean about it. It’s very weird looking and I’m glad none of the kids do it.

Just to be clear, he is very sensitive about it so I would never make fun of him or tell him I find it gross - but I do.

I didn’t even know this was a thing and I think it would freak me out (best not to tell him). 🤣

Ohmygodnotnow · 26/08/2025 19:37

smallpinecone · 26/08/2025 18:17

@pinknailvarnish1

Do we have the same MIL? 😄

When I told mine I’d been diagnosed with breast cancer, she gave me a long blank stare, then turned to my husband and said “Well obviously, her having cancer is better than having hay fever like me. I’ll never be cured of my problem”

I didn’t expect any sympathy, so I wasn’t surprised!

Fucking hell, that's one of the worst things I've read on here!

LittleGreenDuck · 26/08/2025 19:38

pinknailvarnish1 · 26/08/2025 18:09

DH stuffing things into the bin. Never thinks to empty it into the outside bin, oh no, let's just keep cramming it in - someone else will empty it eventually - yes, always fucking me!!

In the bin? He's more advanced than mine, who puts rubbish on the counter top above the cupboard where the bins live.

Dont even get me started on clothes on top of the washing basket and dirty dishes on top on the dishwasher.

LillyPJ · 26/08/2025 19:38

pinknailvarnish1 · 26/08/2025 18:31

My Dad did a POA a few years ago. He wasn't ill or anything, just felt it was time. Fast forward a few years, and a few illnesses later, and I can't tell you how many times we've relied on this. I have no clue what we would have done without it. So I agree, this really needs to get sorted!

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I've done a will but not POA - yet. I don't really know what it means and it's one of those boring things I keep putting off. I know I should though.