Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

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I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

People who say “we’re all on the spectrum somewhere”. No we’re not. Fuck off.

Drivers who sit in long queue for roundabout , then once on (& completely regardless of pile of traffic behind them), stop ??? to allow others onto roundabout????? Obvs cannot tell them it’s actually illegal even?

I would purposely change the conversation back to me, everytime, they did this. Just keep talking about yourself, looking oblivious to the fact you’re doing it. You could have great fun with this!

When we stay with my DM on holiday she's incapable of leaving the house any earlier than 11am. Our DS has already been up for 5hrs by that time. Sometimes she says she's woken at 7am but just relaxed in bed for 2hrs.
However, when she has friends staying with her she's miraculously up at normal times.

The word 'Lush' used in any context other than a tropical rain forest!

She doesn't really exist, she's just following a script of "how perfect middle class mothers behave on trains". I bet her poo smells like bliss as well because she will have an anus attached fragrance spreader. You just can't compete with that.

People who start as message with “I hope you are well” with a full stop, not even a question mark.

It just makes me think you don’t give a shit but you want to look like a nice person.

I’ve even had it from a friend who knows I have cancer but has not asked how I am since I told her months ago. She was so upset a mutual friend went round to comfort HER. Neither of them ask how I am but both start messages with “I hope you are well”

My mil makes petty comments but claims she wants us to be friends
mil and fil favourite sil kids
my dad is gross he rarely baths has so much dirt under his finger nails he turns my stomach
my eldest dc can be spiteful I don’t like that side of them
my bf is hard work always crying and complaining about her life but never accepts advice for how to fix her issues.

I hate this too. Its so fucking insincere. Like you give a shit how I am.

But it’s grammatically correct. They’re not asking you a question, just saying they hope you’re well — not that they necessarily do, just because it’s a conventional way of starting a communication.

My DS answers every message with K what's wrong with OK!!! It's one more letter
Also everything is my bad, always no sorry or anything else just my bad...

Group WhatsApp, discuss a schedule for shopping/cooking?

I’ve never really let this inhabit my brain too much or it would cause so much resentment but yes pisses me off.

My mum died very young, before her parents, my Grandparents. In Scottish law this means my siblings and I inherit instead of her.

Grandparents wrote will accordingly giving siblings and I the legal minimum (shared between the siblings) because they were worried our Dad would take the money. Mum’s surviving siblings got twice/three times as much!

Anyway we grew up and were adults (away from Dad crucially!) by the sad time the inheritance was to be shared out.

Grandparents never changed will and Mum’s surviving siblings didn’t do a deed of variation to make the split fair (even though they commented on the unfairness of it!). Wasn’t a huge amount of money for my Aunts but our sibling share of Mum’s share in our 20s would have been life changing.

I resent it. My DH often comments on the unfairness of it all. What ended up happening is that Mum’s siblings ended up inheriting 5 times as much as we did.

That, plus all the years without Mum stung. We have cousins and they always got more than we did in gifts from grandparents whilst they were alive. Our Mum was the black sheep of the family. Surrounded by golden children, who never put a foot wrong.

The performative FB posts that go as follows-
“Happy 2nd birthday to my little man. You are the kindest, most handsome, gorgeous little boy and we are so blessed to have you. Keep being you kiddo!” followed by three million photos of said child.
YUK. Your 2 year old isn’t on FB so why are you addressing it to him?? It’s just performative nonsense.

What’s wrong with “Satan is 2 today!” and a couple of pictures.

It's exasperating!!

I'm sorry you can relate and I'm sorry about your mother.

Mine goes on and on about how her feet hurt, her back, her heart, her swollen joints. Says she's on 1000 cals and the reason her diet is stagnant, the only reason she can think of, is because she drinks Diet Pepsi????

I lost 16 stone so I know what it takes to lose and maintain a loss for a lifetime so you'd think she would find someone else to pity her lies but nope! Comes to me and punishes me with hostility when I forget myself and try to help with practical solutions instead of joining her pity party of lies!

I'm exhausted and can see she will die a horrible death all because she hates the life she chose to create.

I am so tired of trying to be everyone's guidance counsellor, dietician etc

I'm verging on serious burnout by being so compassionate to everyone who takes but never gives anything but negativity.

Screaming into a void.

Brother constantly calling and pestering me about money. I was sending money monthly at great personal effort (single mum) and my CC debt was mounting up to help him cover my mum’s expenses (he also takes half her pension for expenses!).

Come to find out he makes 5x over minimum wage. I’ve been sending money for no fucking reason.

I honestly don’t think I’ll ever speak to him ever again.

My DH gets up for work at 6am, that disturbs me with the alarm going off and the fussling around. He then comes back into the bedroom at 7am, generally just after I've went back to sleep, to say bye and gives me a kiss and disturbs me again. Been living together for 25 years and I really wish he didn't wake me up at 7am every morning.

Can't complain though as he is a good one, my daily despair will always be my secret.

Ha ha ha - I write that on every email.

It is grammatically correct but if it’s just statement why include it all? Just ask me your question. You are
more likely to get an answer as I won’t be pissed off :)

it is about useful as saying it’s raining outside.

People who get on buses with rollators and are selfish enough to take up two priority seats because they won't fold the fucking thing. I had one this morning ask me to move so she could take up two seats with her gadget and she then got off after ONE stop.

@Pricelessadvice

What’s wrong with “Satan is 2 today!” and a couple of pictures.

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DFiL has finally done this aged 96. I get your rage. Even with wills and PoA, sorting out elderly parents is a time consuming kafkaesque nightmare. What it would be like without these in place makes me feel a bit sick.

This is like complaining about people using gas heat when they can build a fire. Why shouldnt they use something that can make their life easier - and literally make their life longer?

In nowhere in the same league,my mother was the same

I gave birth and had really bad after pains

I commented to her that I should take some painkillers and was screamed at

'I HAD FUCKING TWINS!THOSE AFTERPAINS WHERE MUCH WORSE THAN YOUR FAKE PAINS NOW!YOUR PUTTING IT ON!'

When I was assaulted and was pretty shaken up about it,I got the same response

'I WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD!I DESERVE MORE SYMPATHY THAN YOU!AND I THINK YOUR LYING'

I was hit by a car and was badly shaken and bruised all over (but nothing broken thankfully) and all I got was 'IVE HURT MY FOOT!THAT HURTS MUCH MORE!'

The final straw is when my brother and sister in law lost a baby to miscarriage

My mother walked in to their bedroom where sis in law was resting,fresh out of hospital and screamed 'IVE LOST 3 BABIES!YOUR PAIN ISNT AS BAD AS MINE IS!3 I TELL YOU!YOUVE ONLY LOST ONE!'

Sis in laws mother threw her out and my mother sulked for months,until sis in law got pregnant again and suddenly my dc didn't exist and this child was the next god

Narc bitch,thankfully I'm now nc

I didn't think about it at all until my periods just stopped at 50. It was a horrible 6 years though.