Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

[pinknailvarnish1]

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

People who are professionally “nice” and never offend anyone but don’t have anything about them: no personality or opinions on anything and won’t ever challenge or debate something or stand up for themselves.

You know the type: constant over-enthusiastic questions about you and your life, saying they “don’t mind” in response to any questions, laughing in the right places, bending over backwards to help and advise others when it’s not necessary but never saying or thinking anything in the slightest way different or surprising.

Invariably they irritate people with their lack of substance and then get huffy about being taken advantage of.

It probably sounds really unkind and I wouldn’t say it to somebody, but I find people like this incredibly draining to be around.

My boss.
Micro manager, disorganised, passed the buck when it goes wrong, plays people off against one another, refuses to adhere to policies she doesn’t agree with.

Would have left years ago but due to mat leave couldn’t. The team are finally realising she’s the issue and are all coming together to speak up.

if you ask her she’s the best person

@InterestedDad37

OMG - picky bits! Cant believe I didn’t think of that. I even hate seeing it written down. Sounds so gross 🤢

Or bits of anything, come to that. Picking up a few bits, or packing a few bits - I don’t know why I hate it, but I do. What’s wrong with saying things?

My 12 year old daughter has an eating disorder she's having treatment for. If she needs a snack or anything she will just come and tell me she is hungry but won't say what she wants, I have to list everything we have in the house. Last night I had spent ages tidying the kitchen after my 5 month old finally fell asleep and she did it, I got slightly irritated with her not just saying what she wants so she stormed off to her room and wouldn't talk to me. Then my husband bollocked me because we have to get her to eat more. My 7 year old autistic son will constantly say "I want a snack" but not specifically what. It's like I spend my life thinking up snacks and stuff

My friend who continually rehomes animals that she's rehomed and has had more 'love of my life's than I've had hot dinners over the last 15 years.

Ex mil messaging me asking me what exh is doing, etc when I have nothing to do with him at all.

Ooh another one! Don’t know how to describe this , but people who always offer an explanation - no matter how outlandish - for something that you are moaning about. For example, if I moan that someone has parked across two spaces, instead of saying “Yeah, what an inconsiderate git”, they say something like “ Maybe they had a medical emergency and had to pull up quickly” etc etc. My BF does this all the time and it makes me want to scream!

I agree with you. Also, "nibbles". They both make me want to punch the person saying it.

Yes, this. I just can't afford it so I'll have to continue with the food noise and working out everyday 😩

People who stare at my little boy because he's disabled and in a wheelchair. Yes, sometimes he screams because he's in pain, yes sometimes he has his dummy because it helps him cope with his pain. Yes, he makes random movements because of his disability. Yes sometimes he has a seizure and that makes him cry out too but you don't need to stare (and I do mean stare rather than just look).

Oh, and this is strangely specific but -

everyone who admires my dog and then says 'I had a Jack Russell once' (or their mother did, or their friend, or there was one down the road...)

She's a fucking Patterdale. They aren't like Jack Russells - they are WORSE! A MILLION TIMES WORSE!

Phew. And also she's a bitch, not a 'lovely boy'. Thank you.

Sounds like a lot of mumsnetters. Maybe they had.. have… but maybe they needed too. 😂

• my ex husband - everything is always someone’s else’s fault, he’s a crap father and I just feel so sorry for my 2 eldest.

• my PIL so hands on with the first 3 grandchildren (SIL’s), regularly dogs, horse and house sit for weeks at a time for BIL, sees GGD regularly, but only sees our son 4 times a year!

• my brother - my poor mum does absolutely everything for him, I don’t understand how hard it is being a single father with 2 children (he has one 50/50 and the other EOW), but my mum does the pick ups, the dinners and everything in between. I feel bad if I ask to help with DS7. My DH work away all week and I’m on my own with 3 children?!?

• my colleague is soo loud when he eats, I have to put my headphone in.

• my garden, needs to much work doing to it and gardeners/landscapers never come back to me.

• next doors blood dog that barks as soon as I enter my garden.

• school mums - no I don’t want to join the bloody class WhatsApp group as your precious knobhead son has lost his water bottle for 78th time this week

A work colleague eats a yoghurt at her desk every day and seems to genuinely spend five minutes scraping/scrabbling around with her spoon in the container at the end of it. Scrape, scrape, scrabble, scrabble goes the spoon. Again and again and again

It’s finished! Enough! All the yoghurt has clearly gone!

People who have no respect for wildlife. Was in a country park today. One woman running straight at young deer causing them to bolt. Then a man going out of his way to come off the path to where a young child in my company was happily watching ducks and chase, almost kick them, so they dispersed. Both adults age at least 30, not kids. Both completely unnecessary behaviour. Both people middle eastern to look at, my perception is some cultures just don't have the same norms towards wildlife and the countryside that the average Brit does. The second one looked right at us with malice as he did it, then pulled part of the tree above us off, just threw it on the ground and walked back to his group of relatives (we assumed) on the path - who seemed to have no problem with what he did.

And I didn't feel I could say anything in either situation, workout receiving abuse or worse, in front of the children I was with.

And when you do come to empty it you
a) can't get the bloody bin bag out without wiggling it for ages (and it invariably rips)
b) stuff falls from the top of the bin onto the floor
Yes,,I have a bin stuffer too

I have a friend who does this. Last time we had lunch I just watched her scrape the spoon around, and around, and around… for a solid minute. There was nothing left. Absolutely nothing! Please stop! 😂

One of my friends, who is so lovely in lots of ways, is so incredibly rigid and Type A that it can be stifling. It’s so hard to relax with her because everything is timed to nth degree. if I take 5 minutes longer to finish my lunch than she planned, I’ll look up to see her eyes boring into my soul, visibly irritated that I’ve not inhaled my food per her schedule!

My adult cousin is chronically online and has now started using Americanisms in every conversation - math, vacation, SODA 🤮

I’ve got a friend who will say things that aren’t right. When I contradict her she’ll say “yes I know” 🤣

My MIL only asks after me as a lure to trauma dump on me and if I don't beg her faux problem from her or seem sorry enough about her pathetic non issues she blanks me and never even gives me a chance to address her fake concern about how I'm doing. 6 weeks or so, 25 plus years, rinse and repeat.

DH has inherited his parents idiocy. Short fuse, lives to complain and do nothing to sort issues but puts others down who do the same as deflection.

DD is a princess. Never had hardship and will make my life hell to ensure this remains the case.

Mother is 25+ stone, complains about aches and pains but swears she eats 1000 calories max a day.

I'M SO FED UP so I tell DH I need some space to get away from the negativity. Might book myself a few days away somewhere, so he asks if I want to go for a coffee with him?????

NO NO NO NO NO

Thanks for listening

That’s just so sad. Those poor animals…

I hate that too: my DP is obsessed with not wasting food and has to scrape every last molecule off a plate. It drives me batshit.

SJWs are usually not fighting actual injustices

People who ask for advice for how to improve a situation they constantly find themselves but don’t want to make any changes.

@pinknailvarnish1@Earthbound4 MIL saw what happened when her brother died without a will but she’s still in denial. My DP both sorted POA in their early 60s. Both sadly gone and PIL know they had everything sorted so that me and DB didn’t have to worry about what they would have wanted. Grrrrr.

He’d hate my father. He has to leave the smallest piece on his plate, whatever he’s been eating, as otherwise it’s implying that whoever prepared/served the food didn't make enough. And also it’s bad manners to eat it all and show you have no self-control!