Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

[pinknailvarnish1]

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

@pinknailvarnish1

Do we have the same MIL? 😄

When I told mine I’d been diagnosed with breast cancer, she gave me a long blank stare, then turned to my husband and said “Well obviously, her having cancer is better than having hay fever like me. I’ll never be cured of my problem”

I didn’t expect any sympathy, so I wasn’t surprised!

People who don’t give a shit about how they live or about how they force their neighbours to live. Have some fucking respect.

My inlaws are mean and tight, they stayed in our small house (we live abroad) for 6 weeks, came to dinner about 4 times a week, not once did they bring any wine to have with dinner or offer any money for bills. They were happy drinking the wine we bought though. They expect us to pay for meals when we go out and we recently rented a beautiful house in the English countryside...paid for everything, they were the only ones out of 15 that didn't offer a contribution. I'm getting to the point I can't stand to be around them as the expectations are really pissing me off. I have told my husband how I feel and he agrees but what can we do ...I don't want him not to see them.

Fuck me, that's one of the worst things I've read on here.

Hope you're OK 💐

I've been keeping a list of these for a while. I swear I'm not uptight. Buckle up, it's a long list.

• specific requests for low value small ads items instead of just giving it away for free or asking for a euro, magnum mini ice creams, haribo, specific brands of coffee
• people who bring children to saunas, even if they're quiet.
• mumblers
• knitted cardigans that look like jackets worn by muscle men, especially if they're polyester
• people who make obvious suggestions about how to identify murder victims from Interpol posts, as if the police hadn't thought of doing that already, "check the serial number", "check the dental records".
• people gifting voucher gifts like 1x Babysitting or 1x romantic cooked meal. What a lame idea.
• Christmas dinner flavoured sandwiches/anything. Christmas panini, straight in the bin.
• People who wear matching Christmas pyjamas.
• people don't wash their clothes or bedding before using it.
• people who say "you'll be speaking to my lawyer" about minor inconveniences. You know they don't have a lawyer and aren't intimidating anyone.
• people who offer dodgy financial courses directed towards multiple audiences at once, advice like "stop living paycheck to paycheck" and then "buy rental property". Huh?
• people who comment on social media about AI destroying the planet and then have photos of either meat or their short and long haul trips on their profile, or both.
• old people who complain about the behaviour of "kids nowadays". We're one generation away from beating kids into submission at school and home, it might take time to adjust.
• people who say they "dont watch TV" to sound superior but stream for hours. No one watches TV like its the 90s, you're better than no-one.
• people who have feather pillows on their sofa with the feathers poking out and stabbing you in the arm. Get new ones or stop inviting me to your house.
• people who sins"price point" instead of price.
• people who post chatgpt answers to questions on social media, like they're doing a public service
• people who comment on recipes and and about the weirdest substitutes, courgettes for sugar? NO, obviously not Janet.
• people who say "picky bits" for food
• people who suggest donating book hoards to local libraries, no one wants ancient dusty moldy books.
• people who dont have a simple prepared answer to "what do you do?" and explain that it's complicated. I dont care what you do Marcus, it's small talk.

My mum does this, only discusses my dad instead. It’s been like that my whole life but I’d love to do what you’ve done and tell her I don’t want to talk about it anymore. It’s unbelievably draining.

People who never talk to their infants and young children, leave them sitting with their mobile phone at all times and then wonder why they have speech delays etc. If having a child is going to be an inconvenience to you to that extent then I strongly suggest you don't have one.

The same goes for parents who believe their child can do no wrong, you might be able to say that while they're school, but you'll be proved very wrong when they end up in prison the minute they become an adult. Do some parenting!

People who don't speak clearly. I have partial hearing loss and lip read, but there seems to be a whole subset of society who don't just mumble, they mumble into the top of their neck. So I can't only not hear them, I can't see their mouths either. I'm perfectly friendly, there's no need to look at the floor when you're talking to me!

You can always just say I don’t want to deal with it and let solicitors step in.

I have told my DP’s if they don’t sort it they will be at the mercy of social services and solicitors unless my siblings step in. I have shown them all the resources to help them with POA and if they choose not to do it that’s fine. I’ve never been an inheritance chaser so I can live with my decision.

I don’t want to be POA but I’ve made it clear if they don’t appoint one they are leaving their futures in the hands of SS and solicitors.

Poorly spoken and articulated English - speech peppered with dropped aitches, glottal stops, double negatives and every sentence full of 'fillers' - "to be fair", "see what I mean"? and "like" amongst others.

Overuse of superlatives, particularly "super".

Sadly, it appears to be endemic now and, for me, at least, it is synonymous with fingernails being drawn down a blackboard and leaves me wanting to rip my ears off!

I got stuck with one of these for years. Over and over the same shit with me used as an unpaid counsellor. Energy sapping. Had to go NC for my sanity

"knitted cardigans that look like jackets worn by muscle men, especially if they're polyester"
So specific 😂😂😂

Jeez. Nothing to boast about is it and saps lapping it up. Fucking grim.

Thank you so much, that’s kind of you! I’m recovering very well 🌺

My DH is lovely and I’d never want to fall out with her, for his sake. It stung a bit when she said it! - but I have to accept her for how she is, she won’t change. She’s fallen out with absolutely every other family member over the years and now has no one left except us, but still can’t imagine her behaviour is the reason. It’s everyone else who’s the problem!

Being the one who sorts out everything for my parents, for decades, despite not even living close because the other two are so ditsy. I have ADHD. I'm supposed to be the ditsy one but in comparison, I'm the sensible, methodical plodder so get landed with literally months of unpaid skivvying and admin on behalf of my even more hopelessly ditsy parents. Just spent yet another entire day sorting out their paperwork when I should be at work, while one sibling is off her face at festivals and the other is swanning off to yet another long haul holiday. But... They are lovely and I love them, I wish they wouldn't just stare like bewildered kittens at me whenever any grown up grunt work needs to be done.

Is that not being complicit in benefit fraud though?

Rather than injustice? Wow.

Apparently you should put a piece of bread underneath whilst cooking and make garlic bread.

My Dad did a POA a few years ago. He wasn't ill or anything, just felt it was time. Fast forward a few years, and a few illnesses later, and I can't tell you how many times we've relied on this. I have no clue what we would have done without it. So I agree, this really needs to get sorted!

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An old friend I’ve had to stop contact with because they are adamant that having a heart transplant ruined their life!! Also convinced that transplant patients “these days” have it so much easier.
Every fucking conversation ever was about their dreadful life. I just couldn’t cope anymore… also couldn’t actually say that out loud!!

All the hard work that goes into staying slim, and others taking ozempic.

OMG!!