Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

[pinknailvarnish1]

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

'Say it, don't spray it' is my usual comment.

My marriage!!!!! Fucking hate it 99% of the time. No way out though because I’m an idiot.

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This is ace😂

My SIL who hasn't worked since having DN 12 years ago...."ooh can't wait for holiday, takes husband ages to really wind down so we have to go for ten days or two weeks for him to relax"....yes because he works really hard funding you to do nothing!! Bemoans helping PIL past the basics, even though has no other tasks or commitments. Moans about being overweight but has all day everyday to go for walks and improve health and fitness. Doesn't ever offer holiday days out with our children that she says she adores and will put in SM 'gorgeous DN etc..."... Ooh that was a good vent!!

Most of we oldies have probably never heard the word perimenopause until it became the latest fad, the McCall effect as I call it, is there anything she doesn't promote??? It used to be something that happened and one came out of the other side, I don't even remember it!

The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent. Feckless relatives who never bothered to save earn 70k and get child benefit because of tax loopholes and get to go on lavish holidays. Pisses me off as they laugh about it being free money and how they "deserve" it.
I know it's not popular opinion but I really resent that because I planned for a rainy day I don't get decades of support like they do.

What pisses me off is posts appearing twice on Mumsnet threads. There is clearly something wrong with the program that it will accept two submissions of the same post in succession. It seems unfair to complain to the posters. No doubt they did not intend this to happen. From Horizon to double-posting, why is IT such shit?

Nibbly bits🤕

Tiktok videos that try to flog you something here's the link.👇

One yesterday for an online cake seller claimed they found a cake on their doorstep. Said oh they thought family had sent it so had eaten it. Yeah without checking the delivery label. Then said oh we asked on the group chat nobody had sent it.

One that really winds me up is people online using that awful vocal fry voice. It's obviously put on like nails down a chalkboard. I often comment say I can't listen to the video.🙉🙉🙉

Can you buy two single duvets?

My late MIL was like this, she once said 'Shall I clean your windows?' and I said I would have to check with OH as I wasn't sure which were 'my windows' and which were 'his windows', don't think she even noticed!

Poor coding. Mostly male coders. It always goes back to men.
Why - because men.

I am old, and most exercise classes I attend have other old people, usually women in them. The music is crap. I don't want to listen to George Michael. Or Michael sodding Buble warbling he just hasn't met you yet. The tutors seem to think - bunch of old women - I know, easy listening. We grew up in the sixties! Could we have some proper music please? FYI I don't say anything at the time; I remain silent and insert my earplugs. Rant over.

My Mum’s overwhelming health anxiety and relentless catastrophising about health. Her own, and everyone else’s. In the last few weeks she has diagnosed her other half with a heart attack, dementia and rheumatoid arthritis. The poor man actually has a knackered knee from playing rugby. She has diagnosed herself with three different flavours of cancer. She actually has chronic bronchitis from smoking.

I get regularly get accused of having anorexia, not because I’m skinny or have an eating disorder, but because I’m not actually clinically obese. She takes all the ridiculous health fearmongering in the Daily Mail as fact. It’s exhausting.

When we had our first house, 50+ years ago, the supermarkets would leave all the cardboard boxes out to taking shopping home. When we emptied the stuff OH would take the box to the bin, the old aluminium ones with a lid, and put the box inside without breaking it down, thus the bin was full! He got very annoyed if I said anything, he really didn't see a problem.

Haha I love this I might start telling him I emptied 'my kitchen bin' shall I empty 'your bathroom bin'? Passive aggressive word choice seems to be a way to make them listen!

Ive just watched a documentary on BBC iPlayer and I'm incensed to the max. It's so controversial that I can't even mention it anonymously on here.

That must be infuriating! Many years ago, an ex- (while struggling to find something nasty to say) yelled at me "I really hate the way your mouth moves when you speak!" I may have burst out laughing. I now live in an area where there are (for historical reasons) a lot of people who have profound hearing loss and we communicate just fine. Apparently I am very easy to lip-read.

So, you don't mind sentences starting with So? Drives me mad to hear it!

I think it's the same person lol

Shes never cleaned her house (I got the moaning texts about how it got her down but she never did anything about it)

Shes never brushed her teeth,in fact she had no hot water for well over a year as I refused to ring octopus on her behalf

I would buy her christmas/birthday presents as she claimed she'd get nothing from her mum

Utter bollocks,her mum props her up financially (her money goes on bills while friends money goes on tat and treats)
and she has two siblings (wails of 'but my sister is the golden child!im left out!')

Then it all comes out about her mum and she gets the most help out of the lot of them- a hell of a lot more help than ill ever have from my family but thats not good enough)

It's just the endless picking over details

I've heard a million times and her asking for my advice (which I give in good faith and if she followed it,would improve things)

Nope,she wants my advice to ignore it and then wonders why fuck all changes

I'm done

@pinknailvarnish1 Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

It looks like your brother has mumsnet syndrome.

@JudgeJ my late mum in law used to pop round and say ‘would you like me to take some of your ironing , I can see you are struggling to keep up on it ‘ - yep that would be because I’m working full time with a 14 week old out of necessity ( those were the days of sod all maternity leave ) and not working from home either. This was someone who didn’t work at all , late 50s /early 60s and hadn’t for at least 10 years as she was a trailing spouse on overseas assignments. I do know she meant well , but it was the use of ‘you’ and ‘I’ that somehow peed me off- no mention of her son doing any of these jobs.

@somethingnewandexciting The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent.

This is just a suggestion and I do not know how feasible or worthwhile this would be, so please do not do this without doing a bit of homework beforehand:

Are you able to increase pension contributions, and then use your £30k savings to compensate for your decreased earnings, until you get to a point when you can qualify for child benefit again?

I suspect pension pots aren't considered in whether people qualify for child benefit, so increasing pension contributions while slowly bleeding the savings pot could be a way to qualify for child benefit.

DH spends all year just sitting on the sofa and watching TV, that's it , nothing else at all. Then when we go away he can't understand why he struggles to do anything normal like a short 20m walk. I tell him that he needs to move around more when at home but he doesn't want to !