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Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

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pinknailvarnish1 · 26/08/2025 17:12

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH).

MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the very best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves.

My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it.

Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying!

And breathe......

Anyone else?

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taxguru · 26/08/2025 20:09

LetGoLetThem1234 · 26/08/2025 19:43

Woman I sit next to at work with the fake nails, the sound of them tapping on the keyboard 😱

On the other side of me I have a woman who literally eats all day - 6 packets of crisps, share size M&Ms, 5 pack of doughnuts, 2 rounds of sandwiches, Haribo etc. She's slim so she can, but the constant eating is hard for me who due to a medical condition must not gain weight.

I want to work from home 😂

She may get away with it now, but in years' to come she'll suffer due to that kind of crap eating.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 20:10

PassTheLemonDrizzle · 26/08/2025 20:04

Parents of neurotypical children who have no idea how easy they have it—and still complain about things I can only dream of.

My daughter is non-verbal and autistic. We have to watch everything she does, every second of the day. There are so many challenges I could list, but honestly, I’m too exhausted to even type them out.

It never ends. I’m going to be on high alert for the rest of my life—right up until I drop dead.

@PassTheLemonDrizzle I know it is tough girl 🥺

hugs xxx

NNforthispost · 26/08/2025 20:10

Snidey passive aggressive people. I had a supervisor once - I’d had a death in the family and hadn’t taken all the compassionate leave because work was busy and there was no one to cover mine (conveniently my supervisor “didnt know how” to do my work). Anyway I needed to go and pay for funeral service and got stuck in the bank so ended up taking half hour longer than expected. When I returned to office (despite having gotten in early so I actually didn’t miss any working hours) I was told that ‘someone in the team complained about you taking the piss’. No one had complained - she’d clearly forgotten she’d told me she’d done this several others on the team - avoided confrontation as she couldn’t manage it, so claimed another colleague had mentioned it. Best thing was she suggested it was a senior manage so I trotted straight over to him, set it out and asked what his problem was. Funnily enough turns out he didn’t have any issue and told me to take as much time as I needed given I’d been working most weekends of the previous eighteen months.

Snide two faced witch.

Cantabulous · 26/08/2025 20:10

That other people’s parents are still alive, but mine are not

Pushmepullu · 26/08/2025 20:11

The friend who goes on and on and on about her mental health. She doesn’t stop telling people she’s seeing a counsellor because of her mental health. She can’t make decisions because of her mental health. Life is soooo bad for her because of her mental health. Her relationships are suffering because of her mental health and on and on and on. To anyone who will listen and sometimes to those who don’t. Thing is the only thing wrong with her mental health is the fact that she just wants something to be wrong with it as she enjoys being a victim. I just want to tell her to go and meet someone with real MH problems.

Strawberrydelight78 · 26/08/2025 20:11

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 17:19

Mine is petty compared to yours but

My dd(6) with autism does many things to drive me up the wall, as all kids do!

But the one thing is that she messes up the duvet on my bed

So I will put the duvet on top of us, as we're getting ready to go to bed, or having a late night snack as we have done during this summer. Its neat and covers both of us and is in the right place on the bed

She will decide to hide under it at an odd angle

Or she will roll herself in it, so its not in its right place

Or just pull it half off the bed

So when I get into bed, the duvet is the wrong way round, its half off the bed, its not in its place. It just really pisses me off 😭😭😭

But I cant say anything, just silently curse in my head and then let it go

My son has autism he hates an unmade bed. If I make a bed he has to lie in it and mess it up for some reason. So I just gave up making beds. 😂😂😥They say it's good to air your bed anyway.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/08/2025 20:12

bumchic · 26/08/2025 17:29

DH falls asleep literally the minute he lies down and it’s infuriating. How can he just switch off like that?

Also I have irrational ugly jealousy of people who have grandparent childcare available to them. My DC have no GPs who can look after them and I am sad about it every time I see families who have.

It’s not just the falling asleep in seconds, @bumchic - they then snore, and snoring is basically loud boasting about how well they are sleeping, whilst keeping you even more awake. The bastards.

Newusername1234567 · 26/08/2025 20:12

My colleague, who sits right opposite to me, bites his nails, not little nibbling…eating them as if its his only meal for the day. Constantly. Non stop. Nice young lad but oh my God…

Crikeyalmighty · 26/08/2025 20:13

Pensioners ( ones on 30k plus including private pension) plus house often fully paid off moaning about losing winter fuel allowance or in fact anything that isn’t to their advantage.my 27 year old son on £37k in London and without much hope of buying a house doesn’t get it - why should they ? If it’s really really that tight tgat £250 or so makes a difference , do some equity release.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 20:14

JaneyDC · 26/08/2025 19:57

I feel your pain.

My DS (also 6!) messes up my duvet most days. I'll literally make the bed and go and get something. By the time I'm back, he's been in it, scrunched it up and taken himself off to do something else. I've moaned at him SO many about this and when I stopped and actually heard myself, I couldn't believe how petty I was being! It still gives me the rage though and I still tell him off!

I also get annoyed with my DH's sister and her family. Her and her husband are always off out with friends or having dates and always asking my PIL's to babysit. I feel like they have a monopoly on the grandparents. We rarely ask, but when we do, his parents are most often already booked in by them! It's ridiculous! Can't ask my folks as they're not close. We don't kick up a fuss as it's not our right for free childcare obvs.

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Its so annoying isn't it 😭😭, in my head I remind me of my teenage self being annoyed with my younger siblings and have to really fight not to let out a 'omg stop itttt' 😄

Babygirlmamahere · 26/08/2025 20:15

My MIL and how she always talks over me. She does many many annoying things but an example is when she takes my baby DD away from me as soon as I arrive and when she doesn't cry, she comes back all smug and tells me 'see, she didn't miss you at all!' 🙄 my DP thinks shes completely innocent and the best mother ever so I get no backup from him either. I honestly hate her.

Aliflowers · 26/08/2025 20:15

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/08/2025 17:27

My chicken Kiev leaked all the buttery juice all over the foil and I'm absolutely distraught 😳.

That’s why you should always cook it on a slice of bread. Soaks up all the butter and a slice of garlic bread

MTWTFSSandrepeat · 26/08/2025 20:16

OMG (and this has just happened again) how DH totally ignores the meal plans for the week and uses all the ingreidents I have bought in some random meal and then I need to shop again. It annoys me SO MUCH.

DisabledDemon · 26/08/2025 20:16

People who park in disabled spaces when they're not. I'd have their vehicles crushed and if they happen to be in them at the time, well, that's a bonus.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 20:16

Strawberrydelight78 · 26/08/2025 20:11

My son has autism he hates an unmade bed. If I make a bed he has to lie in it and mess it up for some reason. So I just gave up making beds. 😂😂😥They say it's good to air your bed anyway.

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😭😭😭 i'm using that, 'just airing the bed!' Aha

Why are they like this, honestly!!

SatsumaDog · 26/08/2025 20:17

People who monopolise gym equipment not actually using it for its intended purpose e.g doing multiple exercises in a squat rack that don’t actually involve using the barbell. Standing right in front of the dumbbell rack whilst exercising and stopping other people from accessing the weights. Supersets involving multiple machines for half an hour rendering them out of use for other people during that time. Just general selfish shitty behaviour in the gym really pisses me off.

Mumofsoontobe3 · 26/08/2025 20:17

Vegalyra · 26/08/2025 20:00

My DH used to do this a lot in the first couple of years after our eldest was born. For every little bit of basic parenting he had to be praised like he was doing me a favour and deserved a medal. Used to drive me crazy. Luckily it’s stopped now. I think my repeated eye-rolling did the trick.

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Can you come eye-roll at my husband too? We have 3 children, from age 6 to a newborn, I tell him all the time .. nothing is done 'for me' I think he says it out of habit but it drives me absolutely scatty!!

WooleyMunky · 26/08/2025 20:18

Flag wankers.
Anti-flag wankers.

Fathers that act like they invented parenting.

MLM

Musk and Zuck and their shitty products.

Tesco discontinuing their admittedly seasonal summer potato salad. Proper fucking nice.

Matsukaze · 26/08/2025 20:18

SatsumaDog · 26/08/2025 20:17

People who monopolise gym equipment not actually using it for its intended purpose e.g doing multiple exercises in a squat rack that don’t actually involve using the barbell. Standing right in front of the dumbbell rack whilst exercising and stopping other people from accessing the weights. Supersets involving multiple machines for half an hour rendering them out of use for other people during that time. Just general selfish shitty behaviour in the gym really pisses me off.

And sitting on the equipment resting between sets while mucking about on their mobile

SatsumaDog · 26/08/2025 20:18

DisabledDemon · 26/08/2025 20:16

People who park in disabled spaces when they're not. I'd have their vehicles crushed and if they happen to be in them at the time, well, that's a bonus.

Absolutely. I see this all the time. Just lazy entitled people with no regard for those who genuinely need the spaces.

Strawberrryfields · 26/08/2025 20:19

The ridiculous obsession with dogs! If you’re not equally obsessed and don’t want precious doggo fur babies sniffing around you in every pub, cafe or office you’re practically the devil incarnate. I don’t mind dogs but I don’t worship them.

Tangelablue · 26/08/2025 20:24

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/08/2025 18:41

Oh, and this is strangely specific but -

everyone who admires my dog and then says 'I had a Jack Russell once' (or their mother did, or their friend, or there was one down the road...)

She's a fucking Patterdale. They aren't like Jack Russells - they are WORSE! A MILLION TIMES WORSE!

Phew. And also she's a bitch, not a 'lovely boy'. Thank you.

My mum misgenders my lovely dog all the time. I've given up correcting her. No idea why she thinks my dog is male with a female name.

FudgeSweet · 26/08/2025 20:26

Noisy fuckers REALLY annoy me. I find them so bloody inconsiderate!

I'm talking about if you're in a restaurant and you can't miss them because, despite the buzz of everyone else's conversations, you can't help but hear every word that one extra noisy group of people say. They're so noisy that you try to concentrate on your own conversation but simply can't because of that one group of attention seeking fuckwits. It drives me batty!

There doesn't seem to be any sense of decorum amongst some people these days. Kids don't seem to be taught to keep it down when eating out.

PonkyPonky · 26/08/2025 20:28

People who can’t use a calendar for school things so the school chat is just filled with
”when is the next forest school day”
”wait, what mufti day. I haven’t been told about this”
”does anyone know when the school trip is”
Just put it on your FUCKING CALENDAR FFS! So bloody rude to expect everyone else to remember for you.

PilatesAndLattes · 26/08/2025 20:32

Overweight people who think it’s very funny to address you as “hey fatty” or say “ you’re fat now” when you are pregnant, but you are back to a size 6 within a year postpartum with each baby.

People who spit in the street or blow snot out of their nose onto the pavement.

People who smoke in crowded public places/pathways.