Page 12 | Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

pinknailvarnish1 · 2025-08-26T16:12:38+00:00

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH). MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the *very* best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves. My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it. Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying! And breathe...... Anyone else?

Poobs2022 · 26/08/2025 21:04

My dad NEVER offers to pick up a restaurant bill. My husband (annoyingly) always says "oh I'll get this". Dad's wife protests and says no. Dad stays silent or says "oh thanks". Not once does he offer first. My husband and BIL are often the first to buy a drink or offer to pay the bill and my Dad just takes the piss. Sure, we might insist but at LEAST offer so we can say no.

JudgeJ · 26/08/2025 21:05

JackGrealishsCalves · 26/08/2025 18:45

And when you do come to empty it you
a) can't get the bloody bin bag out without wiggling it for ages (and it invariably rips)
b) stuff falls from the top of the bin onto the floor
Yes,,I have a bin stuffer too

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I was that bin stuffer! Since OH died I don't stuff it as I'm now the one who has to get it out, usually splitting the bag too.

Hithismyname · 26/08/2025 21:06

People who don't put their rubbish in the bin.
People who don't pick up their dogs mess.
People who hockle and spit in the street and I probably have a million more. Oh and when I was attending my sons parents evening years ago one parent had her Pjamas and slippers on.

LokiDoki75 · 26/08/2025 21:06

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/08/2025 18:41

Oh, and this is strangely specific but -

everyone who admires my dog and then says 'I had a Jack Russell once' (or their mother did, or their friend, or there was one down the road...)

She's a fucking Patterdale. They aren't like Jack Russells - they are WORSE! A MILLION TIMES WORSE!

Phew. And also she's a bitch, not a 'lovely boy'. Thank you.

I have a Patterdale cross, I feel your pain 😂

Rainbow1901 · 26/08/2025 21:07

My DH who leaves things as pointers that he has done certain things instead of putting things away.
For example he will hoover and then not put the hoover away so that I will know that he has hoovered. Or mow the lawn and leave the mower out and not put it away in the shed. Or clean the bath or shower but leave the bath mat on the floor saying that he can't bend down to pick it up. Or do a DIY job about the house and leave his tools or materials out. Or not clean up as he goes meaning that I'm throwing away rubbish or boxes because he can't be bothered to put them in the bin or recycling. 🙄
To be fair I have told him about all these irritating things and he just says 'Oh Sorry, I'll do it next time' but just carries on.

AgentPidge · 26/08/2025 21:09

lotsofpatience · 26/08/2025 19:25

MNeters that start their theads by announcing they are long time users but they have cnanged their username.
Nobody gives a shit! Do you think we'd pay less attention if you were a newbie??? Give over.

I think there's often a reason for this - if they post something like "AIBU that DH wants to tie me up during sex", they're likely to get the "Interesting first post" or "School's not back yet then?", so they start by saying they're a long-time MNer.

somethingnewandexciting · 26/08/2025 21:09

shuggles · 26/08/2025 21:04

@somethingnewandexciting The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent.

This is just a suggestion and I do not know how feasible or worthwhile this would be, so please do not do this without doing a bit of homework beforehand:

Are you able to increase pension contributions, and then use your £30k savings to compensate for your decreased earnings, until you get to a point when you can qualify for child benefit again?

I suspect pension pots aren't considered in whether people qualify for child benefit, so increasing pension contributions while slowly bleeding the savings pot could be a way to qualify for child benefit.

Thanks for taking the time to reply!
I think with pensions you can't touch them until 58 or something - the point of having the savings is so that we can function in a disaster without missing a beat. I've had a traumatic life and can't not have some back up nearby or my anxiety becomes a huge issue (all ironically part of why I can't get a higher paid job annoyingly!). So I'm stuck on just above minimum wage but, savings! I at least feel proud of me for having them, even if the govt think I'm not poor enough!

CluelessAboutBiology · 26/08/2025 21:12

Tangelablue · 26/08/2025 20:24

My mum misgenders my lovely dog all the time. I've given up correcting her. No idea why she thinks my dog is male with a female name.

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DP’s aunt misgenders her own cat! Its female but aunt always says “he” and “him”.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 26/08/2025 21:12

somethingnewandexciting · 26/08/2025 20:38

The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent. Feckless relatives who never bothered to save earn 70k and get child benefit because of tax loopholes and get to go on lavish holidays. Pisses me off as they laugh about it being free money and how they "deserve" it.
I know it's not popular opinion but I really resent that because I planned for a rainy day I don't get decades of support like they do.

But savings don't affect child benefit entitlement- do you mean UC?

Namechange2700000 · 26/08/2025 21:15

My relative pisses me off. They are elderly now so can’t say anything about them in real life as I’d sound awful but here goes….

They are completely healthy but if someone dies of something…. They have it/think they have it.

They have lots of money but constantly say they can’t afford XYZ.

They have zero sympathy/empathy for anyone else.

They always play the victim.

They lie constantly then pretend they are confused.

They constantly talk badly about the people who do the most for them.

They are selfish.

They are unable to hold a conversation about anything unless it’s about them.

They really don’t care about anyone else accept themselves.

They treat everyone differently but pretend they treat them the same.

They are never, ever happy.

Some of their children are just like them and are awful.

They constantly shit stir and fake confusion/lie.

They bully one child in particular.

They are never happy for anyone’s achievements.

They have been like this their entire life.

Frankenpug23 · 26/08/2025 21:16

People who put shit quotes on social media- and expect loads of ‘you okay hun’ responses

One of my sister in laws- shes is rude & selfish

My DH and all his naps! No thought that I may have been up all night with a poorly child! No, he must nap!!! Drives me insane!!

My DH and his hobbies/ hoarding- our house is covered in his latest hobby.

LividSquidward · 26/08/2025 21:17

somethingnewandexciting · 26/08/2025 20:38

The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent. Feckless relatives who never bothered to save earn 70k and get child benefit because of tax loopholes and get to go on lavish holidays. Pisses me off as they laugh about it being free money and how they "deserve" it.
I know it's not popular opinion but I really resent that because I planned for a rainy day I don't get decades of support like they do.

Dude, how many houses do you need to replace the boiler in if that's barely enough??

Also, CB isn't impacted by savings. Only income. UC looks at savings if that's what you mean.

Spottydogtoo · 26/08/2025 21:18

A relative of who comes up with every excuse going for being morbidly obese, big bones, problem with her metabolism, says she has tried every diet going and they don’t work for her. The diets do work whilst she is actually doing them. Has on average at least one coffee and cake out every day with no thought to calories whatsoever. It affects her life so much and what she can do, she just doesn’t want to make a change enough. Has a fairly good job in healthcare but cannot understand or want to listen to anyone trying to explain it comes down to calories in vs calories out. Now taking a weight loss drug, still not losing the weight because what she does eat is absolute sugary junk, think a tub of ice cream for dinner and still consuming a ridiculous number of calories a day. Infuriating.

Grandparents who act like the devoted grandparents to their friends and online yet in reality live 10 drive mins away and have never show any interest in seeing their grandchildren.

People who try to keep up appearances, everyone else has a dog and they feel left out so get a dog so they can post online about it and be in the dog club. Reality is they don’t walk the poor dog and it’s just a trophy dog.

I could go on for hours!

GlasgowGal2014 · 26/08/2025 21:20

somethingnewandexciting · 26/08/2025 20:38

The fact I have saved for emergencies (£30k, 2 kids and just me, hardly enough to replace boiler and pay for a 2nd hand car) means I can't get Child Benefit, even though I am a single parent. Feckless relatives who never bothered to save earn 70k and get child benefit because of tax loopholes and get to go on lavish holidays. Pisses me off as they laugh about it being free money and how they "deserve" it.
I know it's not popular opinion but I really resent that because I planned for a rainy day I don't get decades of support like they do.

Having savings doesn't rule you out of receiving child benefit. The child element of UC, yes, but not child benefit itself. And it sounds like that's what your relatives are getting too. It used to be universal but now it tapers off if someone in the household earns more than £60K, but as you suggest you can get round that by putting more into pensions etc.

Dissappearedupmyownarse · 26/08/2025 21:21

How every teeny tiny aliment now must be perimenopause...... no, its JUST A FUCKING HEADACHE!!!!!

Nearly50omg · 26/08/2025 21:32

NotSmallButFunSize · 26/08/2025 17:27

All my friends won't stop talking about perimenopause - every teeny tiny thing that happens to anyone must be a symptom.....

I am the same age but cannot be arsed to think about it - I think most of us are too young for it to actually be an issue, it's more just that we have busy lives and have hit 40!

I just glaze over the conversation but it's getting really boring

You are an arsehole! Lots of us are soo badly affected by menopause we become suicidal and feel like we’re losing our marbles! Some are lucky to never have any symptoms at all so just be bloody grateful you don’t end up in pain all over, feeling like you’re losing your mind and loads of other health conditions that start up as a consequence of menopause

Phoebesparrow · 26/08/2025 21:32

Pushmepullu · 26/08/2025 20:11

The friend who goes on and on and on about her mental health. She doesn’t stop telling people she’s seeing a counsellor because of her mental health. She can’t make decisions because of her mental health. Life is soooo bad for her because of her mental health. Her relationships are suffering because of her mental health and on and on and on. To anyone who will listen and sometimes to those who don’t. Thing is the only thing wrong with her mental health is the fact that she just wants something to be wrong with it as she enjoys being a victim. I just want to tell her to go and meet someone with real MH problems.

I work with her twin

And her husband

Any tiny slight in life (like having to show up on time to do their jobs/actually do their jobs/their favourite brand of biscuits in the supermarket have sold out/'their' table has someone else sat there/they missed their programme on the tv the night before) results in a shit tonne of moaning and 'but my mental heeeaaalllttthhh!'

Honest to God,she was once asked to hurry up (or rather stop pissing about doing nothing) she flounced out mid shift and came back with a sick note for depression

Cue 8 weeks of both of them off (funnily enough,this was mid summer and the weather was nice) leaving the rest of us to cover their work and they came back,lasted two weeks and both went back off with 'mental health'

This is how it goes with the pair of them-you can time it on the calendar

How they still have jobs,I do not know

She had a baby about 6 months ago (and is finding babies are not the best for mental health) and as soon as she went off on maternity leave,he took the time off too on his own version of mat leave (endless sick notes)

They come in and gloat about the time off that they are enjoying while the rest of us work like dogs

Her brother is exactly the same (he had 7 months off due to his mental health) and her mother is the worst for it (she doesn't work for us but she has collared me outside to moan at me about her mental health more than once)

They need to grow up and spend time with people with real mental health issues to see how lucky they are and to grow up and stop being such lazy twats

They piss me off,I see them walking towards me and I just want to run away

ChelseaDetective · 26/08/2025 21:33

MarryMeTomHardy · 26/08/2025 19:03

You need to cook it on a slice of bread - then if it leaks you get a bonus slice of garlic bread!

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I haven’t bought Chicken Kiev in decades. I just added it to my online shop so I could cook it on a piece of bread. Genius.

abracadabra1980 · 26/08/2025 21:35

Having to be in my DM's presence, for more than about an hour. Probably, sad, but true.

JudgeJ · 26/08/2025 21:36

Assssofspades · 26/08/2025 19:54

My friends are the same, when I offer options 'I don't mind, whatever', but then when I choose, 'oh, hmmm, maybe not there though'. 😑

Maybe they don't want to meet up 😂

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If I asked my late OH what he'd like to have for dinner he usually replied 'I'm easy' to which I would reply 'Yes, I know you are but what do you want for dinner?'

Thisisbetweenyoumeandtheinternet · 26/08/2025 21:37

My DH turns the front door lock up when he comes in meaning I can’t open it even with my key and have to ring the bell. I literally glare at him every time and ask him to stop doing it but he doesn’t!

People who literally talk about themselves and have an inability to ask questions back about you.

When someone phones me for something they can text about.. fuck off I don’t want to answer my phone! (I don’t so they have to text!)

Having to make small talk twice a day on the school run.. eurgh no thank you I just want to ignore you all!

Thisisbetweenyoumeandtheinternet · 26/08/2025 21:37

My DH turns the front door lock up when he comes in meaning I can’t open it even with my key and have to ring the bell. I literally glare at him every time and ask him to stop doing it but he doesn’t!

People who literally talk about themselves and have an inability to ask questions back about you.

When someone phones me for something they can text about.. fuck off I don’t want to answer my phone! (I don’t so they have to text!)

Having to make small talk twice a day on the school run.. eurgh no thank you I just want to ignore you all!

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 26/08/2025 21:37

Phoebesparrow · 26/08/2025 18:14

I have a (ex) friend who cannot let things go

I met her at work and we became friends outside of work too

She pleads poverty all the bloody time but will find money for wants but can't afford needs-endless texts moaning about how skint she is,can't even afford dog food or a pint of milk,but wanted a kitten so bought one and will buy crap on temu

But the worst one is she rants on about things from years ago

Ill be minding my own business when I get a message from her,ranting on about her ex (who left her for another woman) 11 years ago

Shes had no contact with him (or her) but I am forced to go over and over it all again and and again (and how she broke another exs nose for no real reason apart from she felt like it,ive never met this guy but i feel i know everything about him)

She shagged a bloke after she broke up with him and from what I can gather,this bloke treated her like a princess but she got the ick and ghosted him

Cue hours,days,weeks,years of going over and over it again and again (the ick seems to have come about because she stayed over at his and he bought her some shampoo and a toothbrush-again,shes picked over this endlessly and by doing that,hes abusive)

Shes shagging another bloke who is messing her about and paying her for sex

Again,endless hours of going over every single tiny detail (he said,she said) and then I see them hand in hand walking down the street the next day,looking all loved up

Hours later,I get the messages again (rinse and repeat)

It's awful but I told her I don't really care anymore,I'm out of energy and have distanced myself from her as I can't keep going over every single thing over and over and she refuses to listen to advice,she just wants to moan but its all the same shit)

I'm a terrible person but I can't keep doing this

You are so NOT a terrible person…..she sounds an absolute self indulgent , mahoosive pain in your arse ! Xx

SometimesUnsure · 26/08/2025 21:38

Football. Its constant and there are so many matches across so many competitions. Games, podcasts, adverts, all some people want to talk about etc... Also the rolling around, the moaning at the ref etc. The game itself isn't too bad its all the extra stuff that pisses me off. Just play the game and enjoy it 🤷‍♀️
I enjoy watching sports in general but I'm already fed up of being surrounded by it 🙈

PersephoneSmith · 26/08/2025 21:38

Crole · 26/08/2025 18:20

I've been keeping a list of these for a while. I swear I'm not uptight. Buckle up, it's a long list.

specific requests for low value small ads items instead of just giving it away for free or asking for a euro, magnum mini ice creams, haribo, specific brands of coffee
people who bring children to saunas, even if they're quiet.
mumblers
knitted cardigans that look like jackets worn by muscle men, especially if they're polyester
people who make obvious suggestions about how to identify murder victims from Interpol posts, as if the police hadn't thought of doing that already, "check the serial number", "check the dental records".
people gifting voucher gifts like 1x Babysitting or 1x romantic cooked meal. What a lame idea.
Christmas dinner flavoured sandwiches/anything. Christmas panini, straight in the bin.
People who wear matching Christmas pyjamas.
people don't wash their clothes or bedding before using it.
people who say "you'll be speaking to my lawyer" about minor inconveniences. You know they don't have a lawyer and aren't intimidating anyone.
people who offer dodgy financial courses directed towards multiple audiences at once, advice like "stop living paycheck to paycheck" and then "buy rental property". Huh?
people who comment on social media about AI destroying the planet and then have photos of either meat or their short and long haul trips on their profile, or both.
old people who complain about the behaviour of "kids nowadays". We're one generation away from beating kids into submission at school and home, it might take time to adjust.
people who say they "dont watch TV" to sound superior but stream for hours. No one watches TV like its the 90s, you're better than no-one.
people who have feather pillows on their sofa with the feathers poking out and stabbing you in the arm. Get new ones or stop inviting me to your house.
people who sins"price point" instead of price.
people who post chatgpt answers to questions on social media, like they're doing a public service
people who comment on recipes and and about the weirdest substitutes, courgettes for sugar? NO, obviously not Janet.
people who say "picky bits" for food
people who suggest donating book hoards to local libraries, no one wants ancient dusty moldy books.
people who dont have a simple prepared answer to "what do you do?" and explain that it's complicated. I dont care what you do Marcus, it's small talk.

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There comes a point where the issues say much more about you than the people you are moaning about…