Partner pissing me off

[Chasa]

Plans for yesterday was ripping out fitted wardrobes. Not long after we are up around 8, he goes upstairs to start. I said can you not wait until I have emptied them? He said I'm only taling doors of just now. He did so in his usual hash bash way of doing things. When carrying them downstairs to put in back garden I noticed he had clipped the living room wall. I said can you watch what you're doing. He proceeds to say that he pays the bills and can do what he wants it's his house. For info, it's a joint mortgage. He works full time, me part time in order to look after dc 4 and 10. He's an arsehole right?

That is an arsehole way to speak
does he do that all the time?
DIY is almost guaranteed to be stressy
am sure the wall can be made good?

You both sound like you’re sniping at each other.

Let him do the entire project and have yourself a lazy day... And reconsider your future...

Agree with above. Both need to slow down and reduce the stress.
Expect some damage and mess.

The wall can easily be touched up yes. He has been known to yes, same old boring things said and arguments. I won't be taking anything else to do with the bedroom being done. He'll soon find out how far he won't get.

My thoughts exactly.

Yes my STBX also did this but instead of saying he pays the bills so he can do what he wants, mine threw wobblers and said do it yourself then.

After many, many years of this I reconsidered my future. I'm slowly covering up the chips from a previous owner but I know that no more will be appearing 😉