Was he in the wrong

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I was dropping my children off this morning to a friends house and as I turned into a road there was a car blocking the road, engine on just chatting to someone in their driveway.
The other side of the road was blocked with parked cars so I patiently waited behind him while he continued his conversation until eventually after about 10 minutes I gave a toot.
The man looked at me angrily screeched into a space and got out by the driver door called me a fuckimg slut, bitch and a few other things I didn’t hear while making hand gestures and then held his hand on the horn until I’d driven round the corner.
After I dropped the children off I drove back down the road and noted the car was still where it pulled in and the man was standing in the driveway still chatting and entering the house.
My husband is due home in a minute and wants a word with this man but before he does I just wondered if he was in the wrong blocking the road as ds seems to think he’s aloud to for 15 minutes before it is a problem but this man’s attitude implied he’d take however long he wanted.
All I can see online is about delivery drivers/workers right to block the road, not just chatting to people in the street.

I don’t want to send hubby round if he’s not really done anything wrong although I think he’d like a word anyway about the language in front of the children.

He was a cunt..
You weren't.
Not sure your dh will be OK approaching such a neanderthal....

He was wrong to block the road (it's in violation of the highway code I think) and he was very wrong to react the way he did when you beeped.

I am not sure what good your husband will do though, what is it he wants to get out of a confrontation? If the man blocking the road isn't a neighbour/someone you are likely to encounter again, it probably isn't worth the hassle.

I think he’ll be fine, husband is quite diplomatic and he wouldn’t become violent.

What is hoped to be achieved by your husband having a word?

Man was in the wrong but I would just leave it

I think it’s just about showing him, it’s unacceptable to behave that way.
He was a man about 60 something and thought he could intimidate a woman from the comfort of his car with no repercussions when I’m sure if it was a 30 year old man (such as Dh) he’d have behaved differently.

I understand what you’re saying but that’s the attitude he is relying on.

You were very patient to wait 10mins before beeping!

what a nobhead he was.

Come on, we know your DH wants to intimidate him right back 🤣 I'm not saying I disagree with the impulse, I'd want to smack him upside his rude little head, but be serious, there's not going to be any enlightening come-to-Jesus conversation!

I’m not sure that you sending your dh round will make the slightest difference to this idiot’s attitude op. But good luck with it.

I would have no problem standing up for myself if this was me i dont need my husband to stand up for me I am not a child, so if I cant see a need to do it myself why would my husband make a difference?

In the words of Eastenders "Just leave it" 😁. Honestly though, there is really no point instigating a further confrontation. It's over, he's an arsehole, move on.

Jesus - don't "send your hubby" to do anything. Yuk.

Well I’m not at 5”1 and little over 7 stone I don’t fancy standing up to an aggressive man while I have my children in the car and a baby as well he knew.

I’m not sending him, he would just like a word with him.

Nobody is disputing he was 100% in the wrong. Just wondering what you think sending your dh will achieve.

YABU to be sending your husband round, you’re not a child in school 😂

I'd have taken his licence plate and reported it to the police for the language and intimidating behaviour.

He was absolutely in the wrong beginning to end. How dare he be so disrespectful to others in the first instance and just sit there holding you up...and his behaviour from then on was outrageous. He intimidated and hurled abuse at you - as a bare minimum an apology is in order!

It’s very “my mum wants to speak to your mum” vibes, unless you’re actually 12 and your husband is actually your dad its very weird behaviour

I'd note the car, and check if it was taxed and mot'd and report if not.

If it was, then I'd make sure I wasn't excessively careful while walking past it with a kids scooter, bike or pram. Or lipstick.

I’m not entirely sure what it would achieve but if there’s a slight possibility he will think twice before behaving that way again it’s worth it.
Doing nothing like he expects guarantees he will see fit to do it again.

I think it's a very good idea for your husband to talk to him. Make him feel very uncomfortable. Why should he get away with behaving like that?

Same.

Also the man may be older but could punch your dh. Dh could fall and bang his head be brain damaged or die. Happened to 3 people I know of. 2 died one is brain damaged. One of the ones who died was just punched for fun leaving a wife and 2 dcs under 5. I used to do the dw's hair. He was coming home from work. Still makes me well up thinking about it.
Or nut job could have a knife. There's any number of scenarios and nothing good will come out this.

Get the reg and report. Or ignore.

He's not going to feel uncomfortable. He's going to tell her husband to fuck off.

I’m surprised you waited 10 mins!!!

Obviously you’re not unreasonable

I’m another vote for don’t send DH. I’d be telling my DH to stand down and leave it, some people are just nasty and vicious and don’t care about others. He isn’t going to suddenly change because your DH has a quiet word with him - is he?

This man seems unhinged. Is it worth a fight? No