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Found this bloody weird note….

406 replies

Radicalpiloti · 20/08/2025 00:04

Bit of a strange one. I finally got around to emptying my son’s schoolbag and amongst the utter rubbish (including a Batman figurine he insists isn’t his!) there was an envelope tucked inside with just “For You” written on it.

Inside was a list of instructions. Things like:

  • “Don’t forget to lock the back door at night.”
  • “Children should never sit on cold floors.”
  • “The blue cup is for milk, not juice.”
  • “Be careful who you trust with secrets.”

I asked DC where it came from and he just shrugged and said, dunno. Asked on my parent friends WhatsApp and they had no idea.

DH says I’m being dramatic and it’s probably nothing, but I feel really weird about it

i don’t even know what I’m asking but, wtf!

OP posts:
CoolPlayer · 21/08/2025 23:41

I can’t remember the details now but this has made me remember a time I found a note in some of my stuff and had no idea how it ended up in my stuff I came to the conclusion it must of fell out of a library book or something like that because it definitely wasn’t mine! Could just be something like that, wouldn’t hurt to take it to school with you and just ask his teacher if she/he has any clues x

anon666 · 22/08/2025 08:22

I'd suspect it some creepy prank the kids are playing on each other. But yes - weird.

Laurmolonlabe · 22/08/2025 09:30

No one "needs" privacy but if you want a decent relationship with someone it is essential, why not clone their phone and take their bedroom door off after riffling the school bag?

MellersSmellers · 22/08/2025 11:44

Possibly from the mum of the child who owned the batman figure, who popped both in the wrong school bag.
So there's a weird parent at the school.....

TheMerryCritic · 23/08/2025 18:09

Honestly? At ten years old both my sons would have found it ‘bloody weird’ if I was opening and reading notes in their bags without asking them first

IwanttotakeyoutoaNailaBar · 23/08/2025 18:13

NRTF Just a list of “things parents say to kids”.
Probably a group discussion in a lesson .

Charlize43 · 23/08/2025 18:16

I think it's OK as it doesn't say that you will die in seven days.

Andre1000 · 23/08/2025 18:18

Don't think twice about it if DC is not bothered. You will only drive yourself nuts trying to apply logic to something not intended for you or DC.

Nopenott0day · 23/08/2025 18:22

JackGrealishsBobbySocks · 20/08/2025 02:12

I'm with @InWalksBarbarella

Children need some mental agency, freedom, playtime, privacy, silliness.

A darkweb paedo isn't lurking in the schoolbag or the blazer pocket.

But a paedo may be disguised as a local school!!!

Returnofjude · 23/08/2025 18:29

Did the Op ever actually post a screenshot of said mystery note?

GroguMum80 · 23/08/2025 18:30

This would totally weird me out. It's not like threatening, seems like the advice a parent might give a child but the blue cup thing seems more personal

Motherrrrofone · 23/08/2025 18:32

I think you need to look into this further. I don’t agree with the other comments dismissing your concern either. Trust your instincts. I would at the very least bring this up with him again. Does he go anywhere without you maybe on the way to or from
school?

fancyFrock · 23/08/2025 18:36

Any chance he could be hearing voices?

fancyFrock · 23/08/2025 18:37

Or something OCD related?

Jdh172 · 23/08/2025 18:37

I find this really creepy.

NeedATreat · 23/08/2025 18:38

Tigergirl80 · 20/08/2025 11:15

It looks like a note written by a parent who is leaving child alone for the first time. A few reminders of what’s expected.

That was my thought

Bonsaibabe100 · 23/08/2025 18:40

Here is what i would do take the note into the police not because i think hes in immediate danger but because this will log the event if anything else happens.
There are 2 ways of looking at this 1 its a kid trying to freak him out likely older and your kid hasnt been intrested enough to pay attention or 2 it is a adult and if it is that adult has watched him enough to know his bag know when he isnt with it and is there anything to a blue cup did he have a blue waterbottle in his bag or at home? personally i would rather people laughed at me for being over protective that something happen i would also bring this to the teachers because to put that into his bag someone had access and knew when it was not with him

Jbd1 · 23/08/2025 18:41

Could you keep it til September and ask his teacher if he recognises the writing/figure?

Returnofjude · 23/08/2025 18:42

Bonsaibabe100 · 23/08/2025 18:40

Here is what i would do take the note into the police not because i think hes in immediate danger but because this will log the event if anything else happens.
There are 2 ways of looking at this 1 its a kid trying to freak him out likely older and your kid hasnt been intrested enough to pay attention or 2 it is a adult and if it is that adult has watched him enough to know his bag know when he isnt with it and is there anything to a blue cup did he have a blue waterbottle in his bag or at home? personally i would rather people laughed at me for being over protective that something happen i would also bring this to the teachers because to put that into his bag someone had access and knew when it was not with him

I can’t even fathom what the police would “log” this under 😆

Sadworld23 · 23/08/2025 18:44

Hrft but where is the blue juice for milk not water? Might give clues to source of note?

Safeguarding background here, could he be protecting another child who was given the note and possibly the toy and doesn't want to share with their parent the source

Eyesopenwideawake · 23/08/2025 18:58

A grandparent? (sorry, haven't RTFT). Lots of 'old' advice.

Bonsaibabe100 · 23/08/2025 19:02

its about the actual logging of the event the police would know how to log it its about making a record with them incase something more sinister where to happen and its important, every time you do ring the police and report something even if its seen as minor at the time a record is made incase anything else happens later on and its really important to know you can do this even if its just the community police most likley its a kid but there is a chance it isnt ,a while back i had loads of chalk drawings made on my front door step of my pets the exact animals in the house and 5 doors along all had the same it was thought it could be someone targeting the pets because how would a kid know what exact pets are in so many houses especially as ours was a house cat we also had dogs know it could of been kids easily but i emailed the community police they logged it took it seriously enough that without asking they where round my house looking at the drawings and checking out if the house was safe i would rather be laughed at on mumsnet 100 times that something bad happen the point of logging a suspicious event is that if someone else calls in about your kid or whatever it is the police have a chance to see something previous has happened it could make the difference if he didnt turn up to how quick they deal with it its a personal choice what you do but this is what i would do you may not know how they would log it but i guarentee they will log it even if they think its a kid to cover their backs i mean how do you think a pedophile would approach a kid ? my gut feeling is its another kid and thats sinister enough behaviour in itself but on the slim chance its not 100% i would log it

OneAzureHam · 23/08/2025 19:02

I’d definitely be speaking to school. I don’t think you’re over reacting - the last point is odd at best, does not sound like a child that has written it. Could be a mistake with the bag but definitely worth speaking to school, might be a simple answer

Returnofjude · 23/08/2025 19:04

Bonsaibabe100 · 23/08/2025 19:02

its about the actual logging of the event the police would know how to log it its about making a record with them incase something more sinister where to happen and its important, every time you do ring the police and report something even if its seen as minor at the time a record is made incase anything else happens later on and its really important to know you can do this even if its just the community police most likley its a kid but there is a chance it isnt ,a while back i had loads of chalk drawings made on my front door step of my pets the exact animals in the house and 5 doors along all had the same it was thought it could be someone targeting the pets because how would a kid know what exact pets are in so many houses especially as ours was a house cat we also had dogs know it could of been kids easily but i emailed the community police they logged it took it seriously enough that without asking they where round my house looking at the drawings and checking out if the house was safe i would rather be laughed at on mumsnet 100 times that something bad happen the point of logging a suspicious event is that if someone else calls in about your kid or whatever it is the police have a chance to see something previous has happened it could make the difference if he didnt turn up to how quick they deal with it its a personal choice what you do but this is what i would do you may not know how they would log it but i guarentee they will log it even if they think its a kid to cover their backs i mean how do you think a pedophile would approach a kid ? my gut feeling is its another kid and thats sinister enough behaviour in itself but on the slim chance its not 100% i would log it

What animals did you have?

That involved five houses and graffiti

BeatrizBoniface · 23/08/2025 19:13

So, @Bonsaibabe100 , the police came round because there were chalk drawings of animals on your doorstep? Where do you live?
They didn't even come round when my neighbour's car got stolen.