Breach of Alcohol Undertaking Family Court

[Minions2000]

My partner took me to court for alcohol, social and court were involved and I was a week off of obtaining a residency order and my behaviour was detrimental.
The children are now with their dad and we have not heard from social however they have been informed.
I slipped up with the drink to a point where he needed to step in, I had also been issued an alcohol undertaking
We are both as parents working together, to get the help and cause minimal disturbance to the kids.
What will happen?

Look up the NACOA if you need any more impetus to get your alcoholism sorted. Alcoholic parents ruin children’s lives. Get sober before getting your children back. Permanently sober.

It is always the first drink that gets you drunk (not the fifth or sixth or whatever). Even if not every time, you are not in control of whether you just have one or a couple or end up in a dangerous state for your children. If you could control it, you wouldn't be where you are now.

@Mangotangoisshit they were in my care for 4 nights before the court asked them to be returned.

I had done so well up to Wednesday and now I am not sure what will happen

What I do know is I do not want any alcohol at all, I want the life we had prior

4 night's and you got drunk?
Where are the kids now, with their father?

A blip is a once in a blue moon 'forgot to go eat before heading out for birthday drinks' and getting plastered. It's not an ongoing condition where your kids father has requested you to to agree to an undertaking requiring sobriety so that you can not only be an effective parent but one whose behaviour doesn't put your dc at risk.

Addressing this with court action on the same day is TOO LATE

Your kids want to be with you. They also want to live in their pyjamas, eat chocolate instead of vegetables and never go to school. What they want is not often what they need.

You need to face up to your problem, get and engage in help and demonstrate your commitment to your kids.

I hope the courts will protect your dc.

@Minions2000 you have a lot on with accepting sobriety is the only way and dealing with it, possibly rekindling with partner and being the mum your kids need.

Sounds like best for them to stay with dad with supervised visits at present?

No what I meant is a c100 was filed, the dad had taken them waiting for court, 4 days later we were in court. The court asked them to be returned. I did 8 weeks sober and just as the case was to be closed I drank.
Sorry if I'm not making this clear I'm all over

Since Wednesday I have been taking the kids out on my own and staying with them every night with partner there. I am now at home and the kids will be staying here with dad for a couple of days.
The social worker is coming tonight as I advised him this morning what happened

So how long since you had a drink now?

So you have managed 8 weeks without drinking. Is that the longest you have gone? You say the “blip” last Wednesday - how much did you drink then and were the kids with you?

Was there a trigger? Why did you have a drink and how did you get the alcohol? If it is in the house - pour it all away now. Don’t have alcohol in, going out an buying some might be enough to give you second thoughts,

I know you miss your kids, but I think you need to give yourself at least 6months free of alcohol before you even consider having them back. Give them the stability of knowing where they are going to live. If you love them as much as you say you do, it is doing the right thing for them now the best thing for you!

I haven't drank since.

I fell out with someone who has been a friend my whole life again over drink and can't remember what happened, that's why I drank again, thinking about how much of an awful person I am, not knowing how to manage my feelings.

I know it sounds so crazy.

Alot of my support network drink but I am a grown woman who should know better

Since traumas I have coped and never had the right help.

I wish I could go back to the mum who was addicted to cleaning, crafts with my children, sorting their clothes

I don't know how to undo what I have and it tortures me, now I am hurting the people I love the most

You need to be engaging with alcohol services immediately. Have you considered AA? You could be on a meeting online within the hour.

This. All the excuses are worth nothing. To keep your kids, in the future, you need to give up alcohol. No blips etc. Gone.

I feel the kids are better with their dad. Are you wanting residency for the benefits or to actually care for the kids. As you are aware kids cause emotional stress will that cause a relapse? How old are your kids? Why cant they stay with dad and see you as much as they want. Why do the kids need to worry about if your stressed and what person their seeing that day. Or that they cant have friends around incase your off your head.

@Boomer55 I have been to the gp and engaged in support as soon as I woke up this morning.
I am currently sat watching Michelle Heaton stories, I want to be the mum I know i am inside and beat the poison

It appears from your comments your mindset was. I need to keep away from alcohol as I am in court. As soon as it finished you thought fuck it its all good now anyways.

I get that. But you admitted the children aren't safe with you. That's the most important thing here.

What support is that then?

What support were you seeking during the 8 weeks? This hasn’t come up overnight, nor will it be the first time your drinking has caused concern. So what support were you accessing when the concerns were raised about your kids originally?

She said earlier, I think it’s called new vision

I think she said an organisation called New Emerge via GP on Friday.

OP there is an alcohol forum on MN and also other online resources until Friday

@beachwalkx oops new vision 😳

My mil was like you, small blips, helped her to cope etc. My dh would tell you happily that he wished his father or extended family had stepped in and moved them from her. It totally impacted upon him, the relationship between them was fractured to say the least. I think you should focus on helping yourself and leave the children where they are safe.

I understand every message and if I was outside looking in would be saying the same, they deserve better