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Foodbank - 3 cars

503 replies

TalkToTheHand123 · 17/08/2025 00:11

Am I being unreasonable to think a family with 2 cars and a big fancy house shouldn't be using foodbanks regularly? No disability issues.

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BlankBlankBlank14 · 19/08/2025 15:52

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 15:36

Well maybe read them properly.

Well maybe don’t be so rude?

LadyKenya · 19/08/2025 15:54

The OP may be a lot of things, but she is not a PIP assessor. She apparently is thinking of applying to be one, that is if you can believe a word that she says. I personally dont.

Tinyratsarse · 19/08/2025 17:31

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 12:52

Helping people to reduce their self harm, alcohol use, drug use, auditory hallucinations etc. Some medical professionals just throw prescription drugs at the isssues whereas thinking outside the box can often be the answer.

I didn't say all were taking the mick, just an awful lot of people who I have worked closely with which has given me a very negative view towards people getting benefits when they shouldn't.

I have never reported any post before...ive just reported this.
Just who do you think you are.?Apparently you know better than trained medical professionals now.
I would hope that this is more rubbish ,and that you dont get anywhere near people with severe mental illness or addiction issues.
You have frightened people who are waiting for PIP reviews. How dare you. You seem to have a very high opinion of your capabilities.
Im sure there are people who play the system but i'd rather risk that than one child go hungry.
Why dont you stick to assessing handbags and keep away from people...you obviously dont like them .

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/08/2025 18:06

Bloodyhrt · 19/08/2025 15:07

You do.

and I quote

Definately a foodbank and yes TT. I was processing the vouchers / codes myself

I have reported this thread to TT as an example of the vile attitudes held by those who volunteer for them.

im so shocked and horrified that someone who works in a food bank and associated support services holds the attitude they do.

you should be sacked.

I think she said she works for one of the agencies that gives out vouchers referring people to the foodbank. She shouldn't be allowed to do do this job either imo.

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:28

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/08/2025 18:06

I think she said she works for one of the agencies that gives out vouchers referring people to the foodbank. She shouldn't be allowed to do do this job either imo.

On a previous thread she stated that she worked for a charity organisation. Would this be the same thing or is more likely to be something like the Trussel Trust ?

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:31

LadyKenya · 19/08/2025 15:54

The OP may be a lot of things, but she is not a PIP assessor. She apparently is thinking of applying to be one, that is if you can believe a word that she says. I personally dont.

She’d need to have a medical qualification to be a PIP assessor. Most assessors are nurses, OT’s, physios, paramedics etc, From what she’s posted previously I really don’t think there’s much danger of that. At least I hope not because her idea of the brief of a PIP assessor is so far from reality I don’t know where to start.

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:33

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 15:12

Nope.

Yeah. You did. Trouble is, you can’t deny things that are on these threads in black and white.

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:35

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 15:36

Well maybe read them properly.

Difficult because of the lies and backtracking in them. Do you beep when you back up ?

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:37

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 12:52

Helping people to reduce their self harm, alcohol use, drug use, auditory hallucinations etc. Some medical professionals just throw prescription drugs at the isssues whereas thinking outside the box can often be the answer.

I didn't say all were taking the mick, just an awful lot of people who I have worked closely with which has given me a very negative view towards people getting benefits when they shouldn't.

Which means you shouldn’t be anywhere near a position in which you can do harm. PIP assessor being a case in point.

Bloodyhrt · 19/08/2025 18:57

If I was the op I’d be posting less identifiable details about my service users who I support on here. But what do I know.

sunights · 19/08/2025 19:07

I knew a couple with a £2mil rental portfolio who were obsessed with yellow-sticker food bargains and picking up freegle items they could sell on ebay, eg. vintage vinyl.
I say 'knew' as once I realised I gently ghosted...
They even bartered for reductions in charity shops!

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 19:11

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/08/2025 13:31

A bit pathetic you have to stoop to the level of spelling criticism.

Better than stooping to the judgment of the people you’re supposed to be helping and fantasising about getting people denied benefit don’t you think ?

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/08/2025 19:37

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2025 18:28

On a previous thread she stated that she worked for a charity organisation. Would this be the same thing or is more likely to be something like the Trussel Trust ?

I volunteer for TT. The vouchers are given to clients by NHS, housing department, addiction support workers, people supporting ex prisoners, some schools and social services (maybe others) we don't issue those vouchers ourselves although in some cases people can be given an emergency pack without one at the discretion of the manager.

numbfromlife · 19/08/2025 22:46

The problem with people who try to deny benefits to those who are entitled to them is that some vulnerable people are not capable of advocating for themselves to take it further. That is a real problem and leaves them in a terrible position.

If someone is lucky enough to be in contact with someone like me in the role I was working in, I can and would sort it out for them, and I'm very good at it, but what of those who don't have anyone? It's quite sickening to think of how some vulnerable people can be hurt by someone not giving them a fair deal.

As a society we look after our vulnerable people. Even if a few people do take the mick, so to speak, most don't and I'd rather that than people falling through the cracks of society.

platinumanddiamonds · 20/08/2025 08:25

Must admit I was going to volunteer to help in a local food bank but have witnessed some people abusing them I have decided not to.
some are spoiling for those who really need help.

LadyKenya · 20/08/2025 08:50

platinumanddiamonds · 20/08/2025 08:25

Must admit I was going to volunteer to help in a local food bank but have witnessed some people abusing them I have decided not to.
some are spoiling for those who really need help.

Why would that stop you trying to help other people though? As posters have pointed out patiently on this thread, it is not just a case of who looks like they should not be receiving help, without knowing the person's circumstances!

platinumanddiamonds · 23/08/2025 09:21

Just spoke to a friend whose son is a drug user.
getting regular bags of shopping from food banks.
£7000 debt over several years for fuel yet the company still gives him credit as he claims he has a child living with him which he doesn’t.
Also in and out of prison,
he spends his benefits on drugs so the food bank is helping his habit. Refuses help to get clean.
I now won’t be donating or volunteering.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 23/08/2025 09:25

platinumanddiamonds · 23/08/2025 09:21

Just spoke to a friend whose son is a drug user.
getting regular bags of shopping from food banks.
£7000 debt over several years for fuel yet the company still gives him credit as he claims he has a child living with him which he doesn’t.
Also in and out of prison,
he spends his benefits on drugs so the food bank is helping his habit. Refuses help to get clean.
I now won’t be donating or volunteering.

If this is true, why would one piss taker put you off donating?
It won't put me off donating as I know how it feels to be skint and feel like you can't even buy a pack of cheap custard creams as you don't have enough money spare. I don't want anyone else to feel like that which is why I'll keep on donating.

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2025 09:27

platinumanddiamonds · 23/08/2025 09:21

Just spoke to a friend whose son is a drug user.
getting regular bags of shopping from food banks.
£7000 debt over several years for fuel yet the company still gives him credit as he claims he has a child living with him which he doesn’t.
Also in and out of prison,
he spends his benefits on drugs so the food bank is helping his habit. Refuses help to get clean.
I now won’t be donating or volunteering.

I see quite a few addicts of various kinds at the foodbank when I volunteer. Would you rather they just starved to death? They can't get jobs, I wouldn't give them a job if I had one to give they'd be useless but withholding food from them won't cure their addictions. I also see many who are recovering addicts (and you can really tell the difference) and homeless people who have been rehoused and they are grateful for the help we've been able to offer to get back to 'normal'.

If you don't agree it's fine not to donate or volunteer, it's not coming out of your taxes.

numbfromlife · 23/08/2025 09:29

platinumanddiamonds · 23/08/2025 09:21

Just spoke to a friend whose son is a drug user.
getting regular bags of shopping from food banks.
£7000 debt over several years for fuel yet the company still gives him credit as he claims he has a child living with him which he doesn’t.
Also in and out of prison,
he spends his benefits on drugs so the food bank is helping his habit. Refuses help to get clean.
I now won’t be donating or volunteering.

Sounds like a person in need of support to me. Connecting to the food bank might be good for him. He can get support for the other issues at the same time.

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2025 09:33

numbfromlife · 23/08/2025 09:29

Sounds like a person in need of support to me. Connecting to the food bank might be good for him. He can get support for the other issues at the same time.

Yes. We always have someone from Citizen's Advice there and sometimes a representative from other organisations. We can also give guidance and refer clients to other agencies. Sometimes they want to sit and talk, not necessarily about their own problems, just normal stuff because they would like to be seen as human beings.

MurdoMunro · 23/08/2025 09:53

Yeah, these addicts and piss takers eh? A few corpses in the street would learn em, ammirite? And let’s make sure that telling stories about Sandra’s friend Tracey’s son the piss-taking addict stops folk donating to the cap doffing ‘deserving’ poor too. Marvellous plan.

LadyKenya · 23/08/2025 12:48

platinumanddiamonds · 23/08/2025 09:21

Just spoke to a friend whose son is a drug user.
getting regular bags of shopping from food banks.
£7000 debt over several years for fuel yet the company still gives him credit as he claims he has a child living with him which he doesn’t.
Also in and out of prison,
he spends his benefits on drugs so the food bank is helping his habit. Refuses help to get clean.
I now won’t be donating or volunteering.

Don't then. I am glad that there are plenty of other people who do, who won't let a bit of negative hearsay put them off doing so. The food bank offers other resources, so hopefully in time, this person will be open to receive help for their addiction issues.

Mygotupandgowent · 23/08/2025 12:54

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2025 09:33

Yes. We always have someone from Citizen's Advice there and sometimes a representative from other organisations. We can also give guidance and refer clients to other agencies. Sometimes they want to sit and talk, not necessarily about their own problems, just normal stuff because they would like to be seen as human beings.

Well said. Prior to retiring i worked with people with addications and mental health issues in a forensic setting.
It was humbling to see how surprised and grateful some people were when they were included in a perfectly normal conversation about ,for example,last nights football or a staff members dogs. Which is not how it should be,they are human beings and should be treated as such .
Some of their life stories were horrific. Strange how some people would do everything to help a child in an abusive situation but when that child is 30....its their own fault. Yes ,some people wont help themselves and relapse again and again but i could never refuse to help if i could.

SumUp · 13/03/2026 00:59

TalkToTheHand123 · 17/08/2025 10:58

I didn't say they did. I was just saying there is a low bar for being accepted for one.

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