To think this isn’t that weird

[LazyLions]

Suffered with anxiety all my life. Finally found medication that helps. Usually I wouldn’t leave the house alone however today I’ve come into my local town to post some parcels and do a bit of browsing. I’ve just popped into the bistro and currently having a glass of cider with ice (it’s very warm here) DP rang and thinks this is weird.

I’m a SAHM with an incredibly hard 5yo autistic DS and this feels like heaven🤷🏻‍♀️ Would anybody else do this or is it strange?

Cheers by the way🍻

Tell him to do one. I often relax with a glass of something nice after shopping. The only 'weird' thing is him getting het up about it.

I'm also wondering which bit is "weird" but you should definitely ignore him

Sounds marvellous. Tell DH you'l be home at whatever time he says your dinner will be ready.

Enjoy! And well done!

Sounds heavenly. He thinks it's weird because women don't do "that sort of thing" on their own I presume.

Well i dont think his response or lack of support when you are having a bit of time to yourself is helping your anxiety.
Its definitely not weird stopping for a cold drink.
Is it because it's alcohol? And he thinks you shouldn't? Or shouldn't alone?
People have such warped ideas on these things .
If you have stopped at a cafe type place and had a coffee would that be ok ?

If you've suffered all your life and not been able to leave the house and now you can go and do this, then it's not that wild for him to find a whole new you weird. It's good that you're out and enjoying life, but it'll obviously take some getting used to if you've always been someone who's been home. I wouldn't go straight to 'he's the weird one how dare he' nor 'this is weird I shouldn't do it'. Just manage his expectations so he's understanding how you're changing and then won't find it weird and can be glad for you. Ideally it won't be an unusual thing for either of you very soon and he'll see you doing lots of new things not just having booze in the afternoon, which is fine ofc but he's obviously not used to it and might even think you're using that to ease your anxieties now.

Not weird at all and your husband sounds like a knob for suggesting otherwise, I'm betting hes a great source of your anxiety if this is the way he talks to you, he should be celebrating this with you

It sounds lovely - good for you and well done x

Yes I would do it. Years ago I wouldn't have but I work away a lot so have got used to meals and drinks alone and don't think anything of it now

What on earth is weird about having some me time with a nice cold drink?

Your DH is the strange one for thinking something perfectly normal is weird.

I was thinking exactly the same and also wonder if your relationship may be contributing to your anxiety. I’d be raging if I was trying to have a quiet drink in peace on a rare day out and my DP kept bloody ringing me! Please enjoy your drink -linger over it and do not rush home. Never apologise for doing the simple things that make you happy.

What on earth is the matter with him? Not remotely weird to do as you are! Does he have a jealous or controlling streak?

My treat this weekend was enjoying a pint while reading my book in a beer garden. Enjoying time to yourself is healthy and (shock horror) some women like to spend an hour in a pub just as much as a bloke. Your husband is being weird.

Not weird at all. Enjoy 😃

It isn't weird. Hope you enjoyed it!

Of course it isn't weird. How many blokes do you know who "stop off for a pint" here and there...I bet he's done it. He just thinks it is weird cause you're female and not at home doing chores.

Good for you OP!

But if you've suffered from anxiety all your life and wouldn't leave the house alone, he probably just means it's weird for you.

Assume he meant having a drink by yourself? Not at all weird in fact quite normal. I wouldn't rush back

Has he been part of the problem?

What's weird is your dp thinking it's weird!

Nothing weird about it except your husband’s reaction. Please do not allow him to make you feel guilty because this is the exactly the purpose of his comment.

Sounds like he has got too used to you doing all childcare and isn’t reacting well to you having some much needed you time

Of course it isn’t weird. Does your husband never go out by himself?

Not weird at all, and I'm envious!

So you have suffered with anxiety all your life which is now helped with the correct medication, your daily life is helping your 5 year old autistic son, you bravely went into your local town alone, you went into a post office which no doubt was full of people alone, and then feeling really pleased with yourself you walked into a bistro alone for a well deserved glass of cider, your dear partner should be stood on your doorstep with a bottle of champagne for you! Well done Op!!

He’s used to you being stuck at home, not going anywhere. He likes it that way. You having a small life suits him. He feels threatened by you gaining in confidence and independence. 🚩