To think this isn’t that weird

[LazyLions]

Suffered with anxiety all my life. Finally found medication that helps. Usually I wouldn’t leave the house alone however today I’ve come into my local town to post some parcels and do a bit of browsing. I’ve just popped into the bistro and currently having a glass of cider with ice (it’s very warm here) DP rang and thinks this is weird.

I’m a SAHM with an incredibly hard 5yo autistic DS and this feels like heaven🤷🏻‍♀️ Would anybody else do this or is it strange?

Cheers by the way🍻

One of my favourite things to do is go out and have a drink or some food by myself. Utter bliss!
Enjoy your new found confidence! Life is for living x

And I will also add, it surely can't help your anxiety if you have a husband who calls you weird for doing perfectly normal things. He sounds like an absolute prick tbh

Nothing remotely weird about it. I’m a lot older than you (judging by the age of your DS) and don’t have anything like the your day to day pressures, but I call in to our local micropub for a glass of something refreshing now and again.

Your husband sounds like a fun sponge, to be honest.

Not weird but wonderful!

Happy that you've found meds that work for you.

He wants you to come home and is begrudging you your me time. Stay longer (and if not driving) have another! 🍹

He’s just phoned asking me when I’m coming home😬

"Later. I'll come home when I'm ready," is the answer to that. And the sooner you get some time in peace, the sooner you'll be ready.

And, if you're not driving, have another. It's a perfectly normal thing to do. It's one of my favourite things. I often go to the pub for a drink when I'm out and my partner wouldn't comment other than to ask what beers they had on.

Would he have reacted differently if you'd had a coffee? Is it the fact you're out doing something for yourself he objects to? Or the fact it's alcohol?

Don't answer the phone again and go home when you're ready 👍

I wouldn't do it personally but not really that weird

I’m doing exactly the same thing. I have my phone, my kindle, a sun hat and a picnic table in a pub beer garden. Life is pretty good really.

That’s not right , sound like he preferred it when your world was smaller and you were more isolated 🧐

Not weird at all. Enjoy. I do and would eat and drink alone sometimes.

Not weird at all! I’d maybe try to do it more often! 🍺 Enjoy.

It must be that they've put cider in a Cruzcampo glass. Shocking

Ice in cider sounds weird! Taking a short time to enjoy peace and quiet with a drink on a Saturday afternoon sounds very normal.

Enjoy your down time, OP, recharging your batteries is especially essential for carers.

So pleased that you're overcoming your anxiety and have ventured out alone - that's huge. And nothing wrong with a drink in the sunshine on the weekend - I'm going to my friend's home in an hour to sit on the balcony and drink a bit of wine before we go to the theatre - it's summer, enjoy the weather. Although I'm seeing friends today, I'm single, so sometimes I am the ONLY person available to enjoy some wine in the sunshine with! Iechyd da - as we say around my way!

He might struggle to adjust but it will do him good. Push back at anything that suggests you aren’t allowed time to yourself. Like all parents, it’s a balancing act.

Well done you for getting the medication, taking it, and getting out and about!

I spy a blackboard, anything nice on there to go with your cider? I love a small plate (or three).

What bit wouldn't you do? I'm still confused about what is weird.

For example, right now, DD has a swimming lesson at a nearby hotel pool. We're all here as we were out and came straight here. DD is in her lesson with DH watching. I'm in hotel bar with dog having a lovely time reading MN with a half cider (no ice). Is it the fact I'm on my own that's weird? Or the alcohol? I also had a tea if that's any better and less weird

Some people think it’s weird to do anything alone, I agree it looks like bliss!

It would be interesting to know the balance of time to yourself between you and your DH. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he has regular breaks, social events, a hobby, gym-time, etc and you have none. However it would also be nice for you to prove me wrong.

I think it’s a perfectly normal and lovely thing to do. And its Really made me happy to think of you doing it. Cheers @LazyLions!

I often sit and have a glass of wine in a quiet bar or cafe alone - I travel a lot for work and after the long day people watching with a glass of wine in peace is the best relaxation!

Enjoy :-)

Not weird at all. Cheers OP. Sorry your DH wants to take this moment from you. Does he by any chance enjoy you being trapped within four walls and find it threatening when you discover opportunities for independence?

Slange var, my dear, enjoy, in fact, have another 🥂

I live on my own and if I'm out somewhere and fancy a drink I'll damn' well have one!

Go, you.