Would you ever tell off someone else’s child?

[Ellaalltheway]

If the child was doing something dangerous or spiteful that was affecting your child? Parents nowhere to be seen and not intervening.

Have you ever been in one of those situations out and about where another child is doing something spiteful/annoying such repeatedly pushing in a queue, bothering your child or taking their stuff, or even doing something dangerous.

Like for example I was at the park and a small child was going round with a big tree branch whacking all of the play equipment while it was being used. Or another time my child was taking their turn on something and another child tried to physically take it off them.

Do you speak up and ask the child not to do it?

Yanbu - you would speak up
Yabu - say nothing

Yes and I’ll bollock the parents as well if I can get my hands on them. My kids know I’ve got their back, but they also know if they misbehave and I have to hear about it from another parent they’ll get double bollocked. DD can stand up for herself most of the time DS often needs one of us to intervene.

I think parents who kick off if another adult, completely reasonably, tell their child off, is doing their child a real disservice and it's very poor parenting.

Yes! I have done a few times. More recently, I called over to a boy who was climbing a 600 year old relic at a tourist attraction. Mum was laughing and videoing it and dad was underneath, making sure he didn’t fall. I told him to get down, which he did.

I would say be careful, stop that's dangerous, that's not very kind.. things like that. But I wouldn't raise my voice to someone else's child.
Happy for other adults to be the same way with my son.

So you NEVER let your child play anywhere other that right next to you in public until you were 100% confident that they would always take turns and share well? REALLY?!! Even if your child is hyper socially aware, they would have been at least 3-4. - I don't believe that you only let them play at your feet for the first 4 years of their lives!

Woman at soft play came over and asked very aggressively "Did you just shout at my son?"

"Yes, because he just jumped over the car seat that my 8 week old baby is sitting in. What would you have done?"

She was clearly still looking to have a pop but went away.

Funny to see this question as I encountered a little boy waving a huge long branch with a sharp broken end at the packed playground the other day. I told him to be careful and stop swinging it around as he could hurt someone - I don’t think that’s telling off, but it was saying something.

I am happy to ask kids to stop doing dangerous or cruel things and I am more than happy for people to do the same to mine as long as they don’t scream at her.

Yes I have done and will do it again if I see bad behaviour that is effecting other people especially smaller children. O

@stichguruyou seem to have a hard time understanding that not all children are naughty and badly behaved. I take my kids to age appropriate settings. My toddler is 3 and I have never had to step in and correct them. They never hit, shoved, or did anything to another child. At 3 aren’t you still in arms reach of your kids? Maybe you aren’t.
this thread is about two different types of children and bad parenting. All the examples are of kids being naughty and no parent in sight.

Yes I would especially now I'm older and angrier. Only for bad things, not minor stuff.
I would have also been ok with my kid being told off if warranted (and I hadn't noticed the misdemeanor!)