to have shouted at the woman who told me I should move from a disabled bay?

[MABS]

Am totally livid at this moment,just wondered if you agree with me tho? Have never ever started an aibu thread before.

Parked at Sainsburys in disabled bay, blue badge clearly on windscreen,disabled ds and dd too in back of car.

I got out of driver's door, walked to boot of car to get my handbag out, to be greeted my a torrent of abuse from a woman on crutches in next car.

I explained I was about to unload disabled ds, but she went off on one totally about how i should be parked in Parent and Toddlers as i had kids with me. I said again he was disabled, she then shouted that i should still be parked in M&T!

At that point, afraid i lost it and shouted at her big time to mind her own bloody business and get her facts straight next time. oops

oh I don't think you were hard on her at all, I would have (verbally) ripped her head off too

am just thinking of reasons as to why she was so rude

dh is obsessed with M&T parking

I tell him time and time again that It Does Not Matter, but he starts peering in cars for child seats etc [idiot]

that's quite an image Oliveoil dh is same with blue badges actually, i'm really not!

YANBU daft woman.
You should do what I do when people are rude to me.

look them right in the eye and say these two words only

HOW RUDE!

then walk off. It totally stops them in their tracks. Most people mouth like a guppy. I love it.

I wasn't posting that to a poster BTW, I cut my message short because I left it and lost my train. It was to the nasty woman at Sainsbury's. She saw MABS get out of her car and made assumptions because she was walking.

YANBU

I often say things like "they've left their baby in the car/shop!" when someone uses a P&B spot they shouldn't do. Mum hates it and tells me to shut up.

i guessed that Tinkerbelle

Love your answer MrsLeroy, dunno why i started justifying myself to the silly cow,it just came out really!

I'm glad! I read it back and thought it might sound like I was posting back at someone and realised I'd accidently cut it short

YANBU. As a young person with a blue badge (was thankfully don't need it now) in my early 20's I used to get a lot of looks off people and even comments and always felt like I had to jusify myself. I have also been on the other side deperately needed the only disabled bay outside the bank/shop/post office so it was not too far to walk only to find it occupied by an able bodied person "just waiting" for someone so won't move their car cos they will be "only 10 mins". So I really understand the anger behind this ladies outburst, if you can only walk 100m, every metres counts. However, that still does not excuse it at all.

yanbu mabs
I used to love it. I would park up put badge in the window. jump out and run to the boot. cue dirty looks. and then I would get dd's wheelchair out.

Sounds like she may have been having a Really Bad Day.

She probably thought you were abusing the space and was too embarrassed to back down.

YANBU for shouting at her in any case

She may have been embarrassed,but she was still bloody rude!

Have been told many times that i shouldnt park in disabled bays but usually dont bite and instead remove the wheelchair from the boot for my mum who needs it. Have found this soon shuts them up . Only park in them if she is with me though.

yes but ds is 'lucky' enough not be in a wheelchair currently so don't have that prop!

We get glares when we park with ds1. Especially if he's behaving. To date, no-one has challenged me but I know it will happen.

not unreasonable at all mabs, you sound like you were rather restrained actually

mrsleroy I love your answer - I have filed in my 'must use this one day' box in my head.- I will get a blue badge one day (I have Parkinsons) so now I have a readymade answer thanks to this thread - hurrah!!!

OP YANBU at all but I think its v heartning how the thread has also tried to think about where your attacker was 'at' too - imo she was probably so wound up she couldn't stop her continued ranting and didn't register your (valid) answer back

mrsleroy I love your answer - I have filed in my 'must use this one day' box in my head.- I will get a blue badge one day (I have Parkinsons) so now I have a readymade answer thanks to this thread - hurrah!!!

OP YANBU at all but I think its v heartning how the thread has also tried to think about where your attacker was 'at' too - imo she was probably so wound up she couldn't stop her continued ranting and didn't register your (valid) answer back

YANBU. She was downright rude and nasty.

About M&T spaces, I was at a shoppin centre recently and a dad parked in one of these spaces with his 3 kids and some woman had a go at him as the sign said 'Mother and Child' I couldn't believe what I was hearing.

He said quite politely that there wasn't any 'Father and Child' spaces and he had to park there and then he walked off.

Riven - words fail me, how Fukin outrageous.

Any of the girls who know me on this thread (2shoes and Lou are two) will know that being i'm not easily made angry to the extent i was today.

good grief riven. what a dreadful thing to say. I honestly cant believe the things that people actually say out loud to others nowadays. I mean when did any of that terminology become acceptable in our heads let alone said out loud and to another human being.
Just outragous.

oh they do. I can vouch for that.

sadly true

Good for you.

I probably would of taken it, then regreted not shouting back later.

YANBU, she well deserved it.