Why are so many women beholdent to a male

[Lifeisinteresting]

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

Oh I adore these threads. These responses are the best. Thanks for giving me the laughs this morning that I didn't think I needed.

Did you have caring duties to other family members?

We're you parentified?

Did you work in an industry or organisation that took gender pay equality seriously, were you the poster girl fir that cause? The token female put on the pedestal?

Were you and your daughter supported by wider family, did your parents, parent and house your daughter?

And I’d expect something more coherent from a “board director.”

Women aren’t blameless for the way their lives turn out. In many cases they are responsible for the choices they make. Choosing to procreate with men who already treat them like shit, choosing to have more children when the father already does fuck all and is a shit dad to the existing kid(s), choosing to remain financially illiterate, choosing to stay with a man who treats them like shit and cheats on them rather than be single, and so on. All of these are due to women making stupid choices. Not all women are victims without agency. Stop telling them they are. Women HAVE to start making better choices and taking responsibility for themselves. Stop tolerating and putting up with shit men. And women should help women more - this site can be good for that. Advise and support each other, lift each other up.

I met dh when we were both in college. We were a team, you’d possibly call it beholden while his friends would call him whipped. Neither’s right really but we have both learned to be our own people in the last few years, we were too reliant on each other and when we hit the rocks we really hit them hard.