I have a really lovely DH so I know this is unreasonable but I pretty much never feel angry at him so want to know how unreasonable this is...
DH is exceptionally fit. He exercises on average 2 hours a day. I'm active, but not fit.
I just recovered from long covid which left me with breathing issues, fatigue etc and I'm perimenopausal so tire easily and struggle with the hot weather, plus after a 25 year career of working on my feet I've got plantar fasciitis.
So nowadays if I'm on my feet for several hours I'll be in severe pain during and afterwards.
So anyway yesterday I booked a very full day. We live in London so going anywhere (unless we taxi) is usually a lot of walking rather than jumping in the car, and I'd arranged..
12pm lunch across town with DH and family
3.00pm history walking tour of London with DS 22
7.00pm book signing / talk with DS 22 across the other side of London
So anyway, I was quite worried about the sheer length of the day and had booked these things because DS 22 has been depresssed.
So when we finished lunch early, what I wanted to do was just sit, have coffee, then get a taxi across town to start the walking tour as I was already worried about the day being too much.
But after lunch, DH started suggesting we "go for a walk" as it was "such a nice day" and I said I didn't want to get tired and sweaty before my walking tour.
He sort of pushed and suggested we "sit by the river" and I acquised... to cut a long story short this ended up being a 60 minute schlep to the river, via two hot and sweaty tubes with loads of stairs and lots of walking by which time we'd reached nowhere and i was a sweaty mess.
I ended up getting really, really cross and snapping at DH saying I'd told him I didn't want to make myself hot and tired before I started and just jumped in a taxi and left him there.
He apologised, but I ended up dehydrated (to a point I felt dizzy for the rest of the day) my plantar fascitus was agony which is still killing me, my thighs got all chaffed and I've got blisters. I was limping by 6pm.
And I just still feel really annoyed at DH as over exertion in the heat just ruined my day and he didnt listen when i told him i needed to cap my exertion.
To what extent AIBU? My DH has apologised, but he has form for not accommodating the fact that I'm almost 50 and not as fit as he is and so I think it sort of built up over years and I just bubbled over...