Are you sure there aren't two in there?

[FlowersAndFruit]

32 weeks pregnant. Why do people need to comment on other people's pregnancies.

Sigh. I'd be interested to read stories of similar interactions so I don't feel like the only one!

Also, the woman down the road from my parents' house who just stared, mouth open and pointed at my belly. Bore off you old hag.

And the woman who asked me last year after I had had my tenth loss and happened to be wearing an unflattering dress, when it was due, STFU.

And everyone asking me the sex of the baby, and its name. You'll find out when you find out.

While we're at it, here are the gifts I would actually appreciate after the birth. A house visit from a masseuse. Champagne or similar.

That's all.

I got this all the time when I was pregnant with my second baby. I was bigger than with my first but I didn't think I looked particularly massive. My pregnancy was noticeable early on (no keeping it secret until 12 weeks for me) so the comments started early too. I was so so sick of them by the end.

Are you sure there's only one in there?

You can't possibly still have x weeks to go... You look ready to pop!

SHUT UP! So rude. I was pregnant at the same time as a colleague who was petite with a very neat bump and the constant comparisons really wore me down too.

Well the comment about a huge bump being twins, yep had that lots from anyone who asked my due date.

DC was 10lb6oz with “copious” amounts of fluid and a whopping placenta and I’m vertically challenged so tbf not dissimilar to have a twin pregnancy tbh.

Mine was the opposite. Pregnant with twins, and because I am tall I had a very tidy/petite bump.

I lost count the number of times I was asked "are you sure there's two in there? (tinkly laugh)"😒

I'm sure it's said with good humour intentions, but they are quite literally saying I've lost a twin??

Yes I have a lot of fluid. Which is actually a medical concern apparently.

😭

What are these good intentions though? What can they expect us to say? There could be a really sad response.

Similar to things like, are you hoping for a girl this time? Was the baby planned?

The friend who asked me if I was happy about it - I responded that if I wasn't happy I wouldn't have got to 30 weeks!

Silly cow.

Oh, I got this all the time. It's just pregnancy small talk - I didn't take it personally.

I actually did have two in there, at my last appt with my midwife before my section for a laugh we measured my bump and I measured 50 weeks pregnant haha. My GOD the comments on my size. It was infuriating. It’s such an odd thing to comment on. I’m pregnant, massive and miserable - offer me a light snack or go away.

There was a lady at my children’s primary school who would mention the fact I wasn’t wearing a coat EVERY FRICKING TIME I SAW HER IN THE PLAYGROUND!

I was like a furnace for the last few weeks of pregnancy. If I wanted a coat on, I’d have put one on.

Phew, been sitting on that for ten years 😂

50 weeks! Lol. Yes to the snacks or go away!

But the baby could catch a chill, dear! 🤪

Yes I'm roasting too.

When I was pregnant a man at work who I’d never spoken to said “Your legs have got big haven’t they?”

I don’t think he’d even seen me before I was pregnant as he was a carer and I worked in an office with 1 other person where carers didn’t need to be. No idea why he came in the office. I got the impression he just wanted to make a comment regardless of what it was.

Also got asked by a woman serving me in a shop if I was having a boy as the animal wall stickers I was buying were for boys. Animals only for boys? Eh? 😂

I remember that with three big babies. The day after my first was born a woman asked me when the baby was due 😩

Oh yes I had this one. Why, my baby is here in the pram before you!

Yeah, pregnancy, check your personal existance at the door and move on :)
So many people will be in your business. And after baby is born, so many more will be up in your baby's face and giving you comments. So perfect the icy smile and the 'thank you' dripping with sarcasm as appropriate.

That said, after each DD was born, so many people, mostly kindly ladies were lovely. They remembered those sweet, sweet days and had sweet smiles to match: mainly a little grin/wave aimed at the baby.

DD1 has fabulous Titian hair. Women and even men ! came up to me to tell about their relatives (auntie, cousin, granny, mum, sister) who had similar hair and their happy memories of her which was also lovely.

I agree with you OP! It's 24 years since I was pregnant, I had twins. I also got sick of the comments, but on a couple of occasions i took perverse pleasure in sometimes giving made up answers.

"Looks like you've got 2 in there!" "Oh no! don't say that I gave birth 4 weeks ago, she was tiny". Pretend sniffle. That sort of thing. Usually they are mortified and it shuts them up!

I once got into a lift at the hospital at around 32 weeks pregnant with actual twins. I’ll never forget the expression on the face of the barely visibly pregnant young woman that got in with me. So much so that I had to reassure her that she would definitely not be as big as me as I was having twins. I think she may have actually cried.

37 weeks and yesterday opened the front door to someone buying something off Facebook marketplace. They immediately said “Oh WOW, you are VERY heavily pregnant”. Not necessary, just take the damn item and go away.

People who say these things are very simple in the head. Stupid people say stupid shit.

I was absolutely massive on DS1, the comments really annoyed me. I wasn't as big when I had twins a few years later. Although it's annoying I think its a strange way of celebrating another little human coming into the world, try to think of it that way. They are really saying wow good for you, you have made another one of us!! The same people who drove me mad when pg became a bit of a comfort when baby was born, telling me how cute DS1 was when in fact he was really difficult, everyone commented on the twins and it made me feel proud and happy when I was stressed and exhausted.

I got a lot of this too. At a routine check up, another couple were in the lift with us and the husband remarked to my DH that it was nice to see someone else pregnant with triplets. They were bemused when we told them that there was in fact just the one baby in there. I was enormous but didn't realise it was quite that extreme 😂

Also lots of comments like wow you're so fat! You're so big! And when I was 5 months: wow, I didn't get that big until my baby was born (we don't live in the UK so it's more culturally acceptable to say this stuff here). People are rude but I mostly found it amusing.

Friend of mine is pregnant with DC4 and carries big (she wont mind me saying, she was 40 weeks on a birthday of mine and signed my card Love the whale x 😂) and if someone says that or another rude comment about her size, she likes to tell them shes not pregnant with a confused look on her face or sad with a little sniffle. She's V good at it and it makes people incredibly awkward 😁

I had the opposite and was told I was too small by a couple of people which made me worry. My friend's mum especially insisted I was too small and told me to make a midwife appointment. My baby was over 8 pounds at birth!

I got sick of ‘Haven’t you had that baby yet?’
Erm, no. I’m still obviously pregnant but actually nowhere near due.
People, for some reason, feel the need to comment but usually come out with rubbish.
I wish I could offer advice to deal with it.

Oh I will remember these silly comments ! DS is older now but I am 5ft 0 and he was 7 pounds 5 ounces .Just all out front as well.People saying 2 months to go ? You look ready now. or Are you sure .Well yes ,had scans 7 in total as DS had kidney problems and needed regular extra scans!