Are you sure there aren't two in there?

[FlowersAndFruit]

32 weeks pregnant. Why do people need to comment on other people's pregnancies.

Sigh. I'd be interested to read stories of similar interactions so I don't feel like the only one!

I think people are just trying to make conversation and they don’t think how annoying it can be. Most people aren’t actually interested if you’re having one or two, whether it’s a boy or girl etc, they just feel the need to say something and it’s the obvious thing when they see you’re pregnant. They couldn’t really care less most of the time so don’t give it any thought.

I had a complete stranger of a man, likely in his 50s come up to me on the street and play a game of “guess the gestation”. He was of course very wrong as my baby had placental insufficiency, and was 1% of size. I was in the hospital almost daily at that point and was so frustrated and upset when he did that to me. I should have said something but I was just trying to hold it together. Baby was small but ok in the end, and honestly, this man was well intentioned, but needed someone to tell him politely to f* off.

It’s amazing how many people have opinions on your pregnancy/baby name/gender/choices…. I get it. I had twins. The number of f-wits who asked me if they were “natural”…. (No they’re artificially coloured and flavored.) Or “What made you decide to have twins?” (Just a whim…) My personal fave “IVF?” - (No… S.E.X. ) I was told not to be rude. Fuck off!

Who are the 45% of people who think it's OK to comment on the size of a pregnant woman's bump? Commenting on strangers' bodies full stop is weird but especially pregnant ones where you literally could be commenting on something that's a medical concern or source of pain/worry - nobody needs it.

You can offer someone a seat or help without being entitled to a comment - it's not an exchange situation. I wouldn't offer an elderly person a seat and feel entitled to exclaim, "gosh, you're old!" You can ask how someone is feeling if you want to wish them well or make conversation.

I’ve come to the conclusion that half the time, these people are just repeating common stock phrases because they’re such dullards that they don’t have anything more interesting/insightful to say.

”it’s nice weather for ducks, isnt it?”
”I bet they’re a handful”
”it’ll soon be Christmas”
”are you sure it’s not twins in there?”
”smile, it might never happen”

Oh just bore off…

it’s akin to verbal diarrhoea. Why they feel compelled to speak and fill the air, I do not know.

basically, it’s a them problem. Your bump likely looks standard and they just have nothing better to say but for some strange reason feel compelled to say something!

During pregnancy and being a mum of young children you really do find that "opinions are like arseholes" is true. I couldn't believe how rude, judgy and inappropriate random people were suddenly.

Yes, I had a planned CS. I had really wanted to try for a VBAC because I had an emergency CS with my DD. The hospital were very good and tried to accommodate what I wanted but safety had to come first.

The other problem I had was because I had so much fluid, DS was still turning and moving a lot, so he was what they called an unstable lie, even though he mostly went back to transverse. It’s a really odd feeling having a baby doing full rolls at 38 weeks!

we talked about trying to turn him but decided not to bother because would almost certainly have just turned back. They were worried that my waters would break and he would drop and compress the cord. So I went in at 38 weeks for a week of monitoring and had a CS at 39 weeks.

i hope things go well for you, best of luck!

@LegendaryWolfOfMyDreams yes this is my exact problem, it's transverse/oblique and twirling around constantly. They talked about cord prolapse and admitting me at 37 weeks if not resolved. I really want to avoid a CS if I can. The midwife mentioned maybe getting it into a head down position then putting pressure on to stop the movement...? I'm not entirely clear and it seems midwives and obstetricians have different ideas about this sort of thing.

To a midwive, it seems it is preferable to avoid a CS. To an obstetrician, it seems they just want to pull the baby out by the most direct route.