Are you sure there aren't two in there?

[FlowersAndFruit]

32 weeks pregnant. Why do people need to comment on other people's pregnancies.

Sigh. I'd be interested to read stories of similar interactions so I don't feel like the only one!

The best reactions I have had this pregnancy have been in London on the underground. People simply stood, gestured to their seat and smiled.

I can't fathom how people think it's OK to comment on someone else's stomach. I wouldn't go up to an overweight person and say "are you sure you only had one dinner tonight?"

Though my wobbly tummy was so convincing to the neighbour that I was really struggling to get her to believe that no, it's just cake in there.

I over heard someone commenting on my size in work. She said "is that girl still pregnant?" as if I should have had the baby long ago, probably looking 40 weeks at 25:weeks.

I remember when my daughter was a newborn, I was in a charity shop, with her in a pram buying a pretty lampshade.
The women behind the counter asked if it was for my granddaughter.
I said no, for my daughter.
She said, oh, when are you due?
🤯
So I got called old and fat in one fell swoop.

The comments are annoying but nothing compared to people who thought it appropriate to put their hands on my bump. Total strangers, more than one of them. I’m not a violent person but the desire to punch was real.

My fil was a total prick during my first 2 pregnancies, finding it funny to say stuff like "your going to have a 10lb-er"
Fucking nob
My 1st was 9lb 7 and I tore badly
My 2nd i was terrified it would happen again but she was 9lb 1 but had a smaller head so she didn't hurt coming out. After that I told fil it was a breeze. I was over confident with my 3rd, thinking id breeze it. WRONG! about r hours of painful contractions later he came out but luckily he also had a smaller head and was 7lb 8.
My fil had died by the time I had my 4th

I think the best thing for the rest of us is to totally ignore the fact that a woman is pregnant and not make allowances for the fact they may be feeling uncomfortable/tired. And for God's sake never offer to give up your seat on public transport for fear of causing offense.

I got asked when I was going to start glowing 😂Cheeky fucker. I had HG and looked like shit but it didn't need to be pointed out.

Question to all the pregnant ladies/women/people how would like us others to refer to you.
Keep quiet
Ignore
Offer seats/assistance/comments.

One advantage in London is the availability of the baby on board badge at least we know where we stand (especially if that means giving up our seats)

It’s hard to view it that calmly after mcs though. I have to admit I developed some rather curt responses to comments from people who should have known better.

There's just no way this is ever a good comment. Someone once asked me this and I just burst into tears. I had been pregnant with twins but one twin stopped developing at week 8. It was awful, and constantly worrying that if lose the second twin.

All the sympathy in the world for your current situation. People really should think before they open their mouths.

When pregnant with DD, I met two acquaintances in town within half an hour of each other. One said “Aren’t you big”, the other “Aren’t you small” 🙄

When pregnant with DS, overdue and fed up, someone said “Haven’t you had the baby yet?”. I said “Yes, I have, this is a cushion”.

It’s just chatting and showing an interest.

I actually didn't get loads of comments (I got a few) but I HATED being visibly pregnant. Somehow it felt like such an intrusion that everyone could see my progress through pregnancy. It felt odd something personal being so visible.

Good question. I ignore, have absolutely no interest and it’s none of my business. But then I think I come across as weird or cold.

Yes I had this and from about 24 weeks comments not long now

people are just showing interest and it’s usually from a nice place

I personally wasn’t bothered by the comments people were nice it was never said in a mean spirited way and it’s part of social interaction

There's a way of showing interest without the comments on size though. Just like you can chat to a non pregnant person without commenting on how thin or fat they are.

People are crazy, too. I remember once in the space of a few hours I was told I looked massive, and by someone else that I looked tiny.

I was hilariously massive with DS due to him being a transverse lie right at the top of my belly and me having extra fluid which all sat below him, plus I'm a short arse. I cried in ikea when I was about 35 weeks because DH thought he would measure me with one of the little tape measures they have and it only went about 3/4 the way round me 😂

strangers stopped me in the street and said things like "my god, you're enormous" just in case i didn't already know. it didn't bother me though because i was, they were just stating facts. a friend of mine was due just after me and she is tall and skinny, and honestly it looked like my baby bump could have eaten hers, although the babies themselves weren't that different in weight

when my mum was pregnant with me (in the late 70's) scans weren't available like now. my uncle looked at her one day fairly early on and said, either you've got your dates wrong or there's 2 in there. he was right, i'm a twin.

I remember getting these comments. I used to worry with ds1 when i was walking around with a massive bump and people asking me if I'd had the baby yet. I thought i was going to still look 9 months pregnant afterwards. On a positive note though, when i had the baby and only looked 6 months pregnant i was really pleased at my new "slim" figure!

unfortunately the stupid comments have continued. With 5 dc i get a lot of "are they all yours?" and " so do you like children then? ". And mine are all the same sex too so i get a lot of "aww, better luck next time" and "don't worry, you'll get your girl one day". At 43 with 3 teenagers and 2 nearly teenagers you would think it would be obvious that I'd either stopped trying for more and/or be struggling to conceive a 6th baby, but apparently not.

I was completely sympathetic but as a woman moving into 'old hag' territory you lost me a bit.

It's a long time since I was pregnant (my DD is now 42) but I can clearly remember the comments I used to get during the last couple of months. The most frequent one was 'Haven't you had that baby yet?' when I still had 6 weeks to go. Don't some people realise that pregnancy lasts 40 weeks?!

When someone asks you if you have two in there say “yes it’s two and by the looks of it you have two in there yourself”

I did say that the people of London offered me a seat on transport, and it was appreciated. It's the daft comments that are hard.

Really? I would define a hag as a nasty person, and this lady was nasty; I have known her a long time.
It's not because we get old that we necessarily stop being pleasant.

I have this exact issue. Can I ask how it was resolved - did you need a cesarian?