To find this so rude and awkward?

[Mightymaniac1]

Would love some other opinions as it’s one of those times where I feel it makes my parents look bad- so I feel I can’t speak to anyone about it in real life!

Currently living with my parents for a short period before moving back into our house in the next week. They have been renovating their house which is in a lovely cul de sac. Think beautiful houses which are all very neatly kept with their grass etc.

They are away on holiday at the moment and my myself and my partner have been staying at their house. Their elderly parent has been very unwell so we have been visiting daily and my partner has helped me picking up drugs and administering it to my grandparent- this is adding a little bit to my frustration of the situation which is why I am adding it as a detail… bear with me!

Today there is a communal party being held at the grass square of the cul de sac they live at. Whilst being abroad (and whilst he has been helping me and looking after the house) my parents have texted me asking me to get my partner to move his work van off their drive way and to another lane. Presumably so it doesn’t ’spoil the look’ of their driveway on this garden party day.

so… AIBU to find this completely ridiculous and rude? Bear in mind said van has been most gratefully used to:
-pick up furniture for them recently
-house tools to do various works around the house for them

It feels as though they are embarrassed to have a van on their drive… they have had several vans on their drive way whilst their house was being renovated. I felt absolutely awful asking my fiance to hide his van down the road when he has not only been helping me with the emotional load of poorly grandparents but also lots of help for my parents to renovate this house.

I don’t want to fall out with them and would love to see another perspective which I genuinely hope I’m missing!

Thank you in advance for reading. :(

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Totally reasonable of them, and normal. Let’s kids play, opens up area.

If you're that offended, stop accepting their hospitality, go stay at a hotel and pay them market rent for the time you've been there to date.

I hear its down to The Mystery Machine and the A-Teams van

Just move the van.

I was in support of your parents until I read the bit where your partner has been using it to help others. Now I just feel really bad for him 🙁
Your parents sound like a cross between Hyacinth Bouquet and Stepford Wives, and they shouldn’t be so snobby and shallow.
I live on the same street as some mega wealthy people (Edinburgh old money) and they would never act like this. So it’s a bit embarrassing really.
YANBU.

STOP THE PRESSES! Clear the front pages!

Woman asked to move van in suburban party shocker!

Make sure you never move anywhere with a covenant about vans on driveways then. Presumably, living with parents has meant you’re not spending on rent while you do up your house. You should be grateful, rather than indignant.

It is a very minor request and easily done. I can understand why you think it is a bit ridiculous but if all the neighbours take pride in keeping their houses looking nice and this is a special day for them. Just do it.
Roll your eyes if you want but calling it rude and suggesting that you will feel awful asking your partner to do this is a bit ott, especially as it is just for this specific reason. They seem happy for his van to be parked there the rest of the time.

It’s annoying they asked but it’s not a big deal and I would have just moved it without over thinking it!

Sweet Jesus of Nazareth, I think there's a little more going on in the world than you and your boyfriend being asked to move a van off a drive...

This! I think it's a reasonable request. Remember, pick your battles wisely OP.

They're probably giving you a heads up that if he needs to get his van out once the party has commenced, he won't be able to as they'll be picnic chairs, bbqs and a bouncy castle in the way.

It’s their house and they have to live there after you leave, so I’d just do as they’ve ask.
I’d be ok with it.

You’re over reacting. Just move the van.

Roll your eyes. Move the van
You are staying at their place so sounds like they are usually supportive decent parents.

Unless they are charging you parking, this is no biggie.

I think the OTT concern about 'aesthetics' is what's unreasonable in all honesty.

Ignore request (cannot believe this situation in all honesty😊), you never read it.

Ffs just move the van for the duration of the party

BTW if this doesn't appear in the DM or Sky News its not because your *I do not give permission for this to be circulated on any news sites worked its just its a total non story

There must be more to this. What else has transpired between you/fiancé and your parents that make you think they are embarrassed by him?

Oh just move the van. Who cares ?!

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😂 really?!

Why have you decided to live at your parents while they are renovating?! I can imagine that extra house guests is the last thing they need in that situation?!

They've let you stay there for whatever reason, you need to move the van!

I couldn't get worked up about this.

Begrudging looking after your grandparent has nothing to do with moving the van.

You're stressed but moving the van will cause less stress than worrying about it or asking them why.

Meh! 🤷‍♂️

I imagine there'll be lots of videos and photos being taken so moving the van would help keep the place looking nice.

I don't know why you're making the connection between that and you showing some compassion towards your grandparent.

Your OP is very self-centred. All about what you've been doing to help and very little about the fact they've allowed you to move in with them.

They've asked you to do one little thing, which really will make very little difference to your life and you say you can't talk to people near you because it will show your parents in a bad light?
Don't worry about that, because the person it shows in a bad light is you.