To delete this comment on FB about alcohol

[Frustratedfifty]

DH and I went out last night. I took a photo of him in a wine bar and it was a really nice pic so I posted it on FB. Got the usual likes and a few comments about how he never ages (he doesn’t - annoying haha). One of my aunties commented ‘you two drinking again!’

This isn’t the first time she’s said something like this. For context we drink alcohol once or twice a week and I’m not someone who posts a lot about drinking. I post on SM a couple of times a month - mostly walks we’ve gone on, concerts or sport. She never comments on those - only when alcohol is visible or we are in a bar.

My aunty has given up drinking a while ago for health reasons (was told she had to). Prior to that she drank a bottle of wine every night for decades. So the hypocrisy is wild!

I’ve hidden the comment but apparently the person and their friends can still see it so my whole family basically. I know my mum will be upset about it. AIBU to delete it?

“Everything in moderation, Aunty!”
“A little of what you fancy does you good, Aunty!”
“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, Aunty!”

Don’t take it personally, it’s about her not you. And for the same reason, don’t try and shame her- she’s finding her feet after struggling with alcohol dependency. Don’t make it harder.

I can’t stand it when people comment with subtle digs! It doesn’t seem like much but everyone you know sees it and it’s always the ‘Aunt/Uncle/MIL/FIL’ who rarely comment or react to anything positively.

Delete it. Snd if she asks just say it came across as rude.

This! Are grown adults really still posting on FB and spending their lives fretting about all the responses they get? You enjoyed the evening. That should be enough.

I’d leave it. I have a couple of people who make similar comments and I just ignore them.
Nobody cares anyway.

No need to reply at all. Maybe she focuses on the harmful effects of alcohol to help her stay on the wagon. No one will think anything of it, they’ll just scroll on, so definitely not worth creating an issue over it.

Delete the comment if it upsets you but, to be honest, it reflects more on her than you. My husband's aunt does stuff like this and, although it annoyed us to begin with, it's now become a joke within the family and we have a good old giggle (and eye roll) about what Aunty Rosie has posted.

I wouldn't delete. I would make a completely PA comment along the lines of "we know how to control our drinking, others maybe not"

I'd probably say something like: "cheers, Auntie Chardonnay!" But my wiser, more sensible self thinks it would be better to leave her comment to speak for itself. My FB page tends to be peaceful and well-mannered, so anything snippy and PA would stand out and reflect badly on the poster.

This 🤣

I thought this.

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You’ll inadvertently draw more attention to it not less. Roll your eyes and move on.

Also this
I’m sure the rest of your family know the situation & are also fed up of the comments.

Love this reply!!

I wouldn’t reply. I would be tempted to write ‘yes because fortunately we can moderate!’. But don’t!

I would hide the message so only people who know her can see it (so know her issues). Then put her on a restricted list so she can’t see or comment on any more of your posts. Job done!

Thanks for the input. I won’t be responding to her and I’ll leave the comment hidden.

Great suggestions to limit what she sees.

I would have so much fun with this! 😂 she’s clearly bitter that she can no longer drink. “Yeah, sorry you’ll never be able to join us ☹️”